discipline methods??? | Autism PDD
The thing that worked for my son when he was little (and we adjusted this method as he became older) is using his kindergarten teacher's method of positive reinforcement at home. Our kids tend to be VERY visual, so we used a "Star Card." I simply took a 3x5 index card and divided it into 20 squares. I numbered each square, since our son LOVED numbers and would pay more attention to numbered things. When I caught him doing something good (either a behavior I was targeting and hoping for or simply just something I thought at the time was a desirable behavior), I would quickly get the card and make a big deal about complimenting the behavior and drawing a star in one box. Once my son earned 20 stars, he got a reward. What that reward will be for YOUR child will , depend entirely on what's rewarding to HIM. It can even be something "weird" if that is what motivates the child (like reading the car manual for 5 minutes) or it can be a more traditional reward, if that is motivating, like a choice of a little toy from a treasure chest. When my son got older, he "earned" bigger things and I made a little booklet to keep track of his points (we switched from stars when it became more age-appropriate) and the rules for earning points and the reward he was working toward -- often an outing, for which he might have to earn 50 or 100 points. What this did for us, the parents, was it FORCED us to pay more attention to GOOD behaviors than bad behaviors. It helped the "cycle" become positive. The truth is, I believe positive behavior intervention plans that are visual modify OUR behavior for the good possibly even more than our kids'. Which is a good thing.
Thank you, I will try these suggestions. I'm having a hard time staying positive in the last few days. I think my children are a bit confused because my husband and i have flip flopped so much on this issue. We've started implimenting different things then sort of gave up when they diddn't work. I feel bad about this, we are their parents but sometimes we feel powerless. With Kane we have stopped telling him off for anything! augh it gets very trying! but we do reinforce good behaivour, when he is doin something he shouldnt be i tell him to come here! if he responds i prase him for coming here and ignore the bad stuff! we do that with everything even in therapy, it seems to be really working for us! also we use chocolate M&Ms which Kane loves! (suprised us he only eats yellow food!) then when he gets the idea we have faded the M&Ms and swaped it for "good boy" or high 5's he loves them! Hope this helps!I agree with 1-2-3 Magic. My dd isn't the type to sit for the full 5 minutes so we sent her to her room and kept the door closed. It was tough going but after about 3 times all I have to do is threaten to start counting and she straightens up. As with everything consistency is the key.
Does anyone have any good methods of discipline that are working for you???
I'm sort of at a loss here, i have 2 boys who respond so differently to everything i've tried. Have one who could care less about positive reinforcemnt OR Negative. voice raising doens't phase him a bit, If i take a toy from him he says Ok put it in the closet mommy I was bad. all with a smile. Time outs are an ugly battle, I can not keep him sitting in a chair for any reason at any time.
what else can i try????
If anyone has any suggestions I am so willing to try them.
thanks
1-2-3 Magic has worked effectively for us since the boys were 3.
C's 1st SpEd preschool teacher introduced us to this. It's been used consistently at home and school for over 3 years.
C-O-N-S-I-S-T-E-N-C-Y. This REALLY takes more disclipline on the part of the adults than on the part of the kids. That is why I liked the star cards. They TAUGHT both my husband and me to LOOK for the good things. There was no space for a mean face on those cards! They disciplined us at least as much as they disciplined our son.Copyright Autism-PDD.net