hmm, reminds me of about age 5 or so, My parents made the claim (as I vividly remember on several occasions) that I talked to much. I cant remember what I was talking about but suddenly, around that age it was non stop, and I did it for years, where before I was much more quiet.
As long ago as it was I remember vividly the first time it actually sunk in that I was annoiying others with my talking (but i did not care) I was in the car and was about 5-6 years old, at night time going away from some mall.
The problem for me was simple, did not know my boundrys. Did not understand when to stop and let others talk, or allow their to be silence. I would just fill that silence with my jibber jabber just another social thing, or lack their of. My parents failed to get me to understand at that age i needed to stop, i leanred on my own much later in life that its annoying and brought negative results upon me.
The problem is, more likly that he does not understand how others are hearing him, do ya get what I mean, i mean compaired to how I felt back then, i just could not see that others did not like this, or i could care less that others did not like me blabbering all the time. I dont know how to convey that message in someone else, i myself had to learn in middle and high school my limits by myself, hope you can find a way b4 hand.
OK, I feel sacriligious saying this, but my ASD son talks WAY TOO MUCH! After all we went through to get him to talk, now he won't stop. (Granted, incessant talking and loud voices characterizes my entire side of the family and at least half of my husband's.)
Yesterday me and the boys went to Toys 'R Us. Granted, C was a wee bit excited as you could imagine. From the moment we walked in the store it was "Hey mommy, look at this, it's awesome. Hey R, look at this car, it's blue and has a trailer with a boat. Hey R, look at this plane. Mommy, I like remote control airplanes. Hey R, come with me, look at this, check this out. Look at superman. Oh wow, it's a big batman. Mommy look at the batman's cape, it's so awesome. Wow this is cool, check out this big red power ranger." And on, and on, and on, loud, loud, loud. Finally R, who is trying to shop independently and is quiety picking things up and examining them, looks at me and say "Mommy, can't you get C to just be quiet, he talks so much and doesn't stop and it's really annoying."
When C is excited (which is often), it's like diarrhea of the mouth. He goes on and on and on. On the bright side, it's proper sentences, appropriate language and good eye contact going along with it. On the not so bright side, it is incredibly annoying when he does this around other kids and therefore is yet another barrier to effective social interaction with peers.
If I interrupt him to say something to him, he'll stop and listen to me and say something back to me, but then he'll just keep on going. It isn't really a problem for me personally as I still get so excited to hear him talking so well, but I know it's not a behavior that curries favor with the other 6 year old boys. He's very good about saying excuse me when someone else is talking, and takes turns well in a conversation when he is calm. However, when he's excited he just can't be quiet, and he's excited any time he is with other kids.
Anyone else dealing with this? Any ideas? I don't want to discourage him from talking (god forbid after all we've went through), and I'm pleased with the improvements in language quality (though he is still delayed in this area) but it's the QUANTITY that is problematic. I'm going to talk to his ST & OT about this but I thought I'd toss this out to see if anyone has a similar situation and perhaps some pearls of wisdom!
Jason talks WAY too much too. Our psychologist calls him hyper-verbalC also inappropriately hugs, and says I love you and - yikes - kisses on the lips! Luckily he is not doing this to peers, just adults. Now I feel like I need a "no smooching" visual prompt. We just took a four hour roadtrip and my ears were sore.
I remember having dreams when he was three that he would talk and
then I'd wake up and he didn't and I felt so desperate. But now he talks
non-stop and even though it is a little much I still get a thrill out of it. But
I should probably redirect more than I do, especially when he won't let his
sisters get a word in..
I think much of my ds's talking is about orienting himself. I'm not sure
how to explain it but when he is in a different environment he tends to
bounce into people and move his body in a very restless way - O.T. said
he does that to get a feeling of his body in space. I think his non-stop
talking is his way of orieningt himself in the world.
Our OT has told us this as well. C has always been on the "senory seeking" end of the sensory integration thing. He needs a lot of sensory input. One way this manifests itself for us in standing too close to other people when waiting in line, like at an amusement park or at school. He's actually pretty patient waiting in line but he does bump into the person in front of him inadvertantly. Adults just smile but other kids don't like it at all. His brother REALLY doesn't like it. We've been working on this alot. It's easier because it's physical and I can show him visually how to stand a step back. With the excessive talking, there is no way to show him physically how to modify his behavior. I have to tell a verbally challenged child how to adjust his verbal behavior, and the only way to do that is for me to tell him verbally. [QUOTE=kristys]
When I give C "the look" he gives me a big smile and says "don't be angry mommy, be happy, it's a sunny day and so beautiful outside" then he comes over and gives me a kiss and says "do you feel better now" and then he starts right up again chatting away.
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Okay, I am on my way over right this instant to hug that little critter and I don't care if he DOES mouth smooch me! OMG, he is a sugar plum.
Cole never shuts up either, but he is usually talking to himself about movies or books or songs or computer games. He wakes up chipper and yakking and comes into my bed and says "ah, little mommy, give me a hug!" and then just yaks till my ears melt. It is SOOOOOOOO hard to stop them, particularly when they are being so sweet.
Confess: have you ever fantasized about putting a strip of toilet paper over their lips (to protect them) and then strapping a hunk of duct tape over their mouths? NOW you may all call CPS!
My mom could give us a look when we were loud or talking too much
Good luck!
Shelly,
My mom had "the look" too and I have to say it was effective with me as well. Alas, things have changed since we were kids...
When I give C "the look" he gives me a big smile and says "don't be angry mommy, be happy, it's a sunny day and so beautiful outside" then he comes over and gives me a kiss and says "do you feel better now" and then he starts right up again chatting away.
My mama also knew had to pick a switch off a bush too!
EEEK! Another sign that things have changed. I could just see myself losing it at the park and deleafing a branch and doing a booty swat and then seeing 25 other moms simulatenously whipping out their cell phones and calling child protective services!