My son is the same way, although he prefers to jump on his sister who is smaller than him. I make him say he's sorry (or at least we always go through the motions) and I physically keep him away from her until the urge passes. We exaggerate our angry faces (my daughter is a natural drama queen anyway) and sometimes he'll back off on his own. He does not like to be separated from us and that is the ultimate consequence to hurting one of us.Here's a question? My son who is almost 5 does not have any skills at knowing when he is hurting someone. He will out of nowhere, take off across the room and just jump on one of us full force. When you tell him to stop, he thinks you are playing. No matter how hard you contest. This is the only time I spank my son. But, honestly, I can do a pretty intense little pop on his rear and he just laughs and thinks it's funny. I don't like spanking and it doesn't work anyway. does anyone have any suggestions. He is about 48 lbs and it hurts when he jumps on you!
We have this same problem. Collin doesnt get how to be gentle or how to know when he is being to rough. And I get the same response to the pop to the rear. He laughs right in my face. Drives me insane lol. He just doesnt get whats appropriate play or when it to much and its time to stop or be gentle. This may sound absolutly horrible but (dont hate me lol) when he does something like that and hurts someone. Well only when he does it spitefully not on accident I will pinch the underside of his wrist slightly. Just enought to get his attention, then once I have his attention I will explain to him why he cant do what he is doing
Same problem!!!! We've been getting notes home from the teacher saying he's pushing kids to initiate play. It's never malicious. Whenever we try to scold him, he just laughs hysterically. I have had to pop him on the bottom because it got so out of control, but he just looks bewildered and then starts laughing again. His OT did tell us the same thing that Mom of Twins said - to exaggerate an angry face. We are just trying to be very firm, and sometimes redirection works. When it doesn't, we also do time out on the steps.Here are some sample social stories that might help:
http://www.frsd.k12.nj.us/autistic/Social%20Stories/social_s tories.htm - asking other kids to play
http://www.kent.gov.uk/NR/rdonlyres/7D4EB0E8-7416-4845-850C- 8022440D23A6/8132/cdrsocialstories.pdf - "In the playground" about not hurting others.
http://www.adders.org/socialstories8.htm - nice hands, naughty hands
http://www.geocities.com/denisev2/social_games.html - playing games that make kids mad
If the rough behavior is because of anger, there are also lots of social stories about anger on my list of sample social stories:
http://www.autism-pdd.net/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14154&am p;PN=1&TPN=1
Good luck with everything.
It may be a sensory thing. Try body brushing with a surgical brush, or a weighted vest or blanket. Research it first.