jelousy and other emotions | Autism PDD

I was just wandering when your kids started to show jelousy, pride, shame etc.

My son was always ( since 9 months old ) very jelous if I or my husband or his gradparents pay attention to other kid. Our pead told us that this is very good as he can be aware of what is happening around him.

But, I have not noticed that he has developed for example shyness. He can be very proud if we tell him that he has done something good, but I do not think that he has ever been shy?

All input is very appriciated.

 

My son is 8-1/2.  As a toddler, my son would get jealous when he saw me hugging my husband, but envy/jealousy hasn't been all that noticeable.  Most kids compare what they get with what other kids get and often say "no fair!" etc.  My son never did these comparisons much, but a little more so lately.  He gets particularly jealous when his little brother gets attention and praise.

My son feels pride, but his facial expression for it seems learned rather than spontaneous.  He doesn't get that "aw-shucks" reaction when we praise him, if that's why you mean by being shy.

Shame and embarrassment are things I don't think I've ever seen.  It's like internalizing other people's perspective, and taking another person's perspective is difficult for him.  He's okay identifying motivation and emotions in books and films, but in real life he's distracted by all the other things going on in the situation, including sensory stuff.

He has never acted shy, and at 7, he took the hand of the evaluator and went to her office even though she was a complete stranger.  I thought it was sweet, that he was trusting, etc. but she said it's not age appropriate.  It's normal for kids to  be at least a little skeptical of strangers.  It's also desirable, since it helps prevent abductions.

Hope this helps.

They showed jealousy at about 15 months, when they could walk and crawl on momma's lap and would get very jealous of each other. Andrew would get very upset if DH or I held another child. If one gets a toy and the other doesn't. They were probably about 2 when they started showing pride. They would beam when they would do something and we would clap and cheer. I don't see much shyness. A little with strangers. Embarassment or shame though, I haven't seen that.

My son,  who is 5.5 and has Aspergers,  He feels most emotions,but he feels to much!!,one day he was in a store,he walked beside the wrong man thinking it was his Dad,he called the man Dad without looking up,the man said with a smile,I'm not your dad.he looked up saw me and ran to me crying,It took Days !!for him to get over it.

Overreacting,is our biggest problem,along with no Empathy for others.he was very shy until 4,now he is much better. Jealousy is a big problem with him as well, He has a need to be the first and best at everything.

God bless,Linda

beccaposie39172.1368634259Jacob doesn't have much emotion on his own. Unless he runs into something or something hits him but then its not really hurt or pain its like a shock and 2 seconds later he is playing again. Which is kinda nice especially when he's needed stitches. But Hunter on the other hand which is more (Aspergers) he OVER emotions but really doesn't have empathy. He has really bad aneixties. But he is the over feeler. Alstom my NT but who suffers from being the middle child plus with having a special needs brother older and younger. Is pretty normal with feelings and DEFFINATELYknows how to express them. Thank You from his brothers lolInteresting, I never thought of it like that. No not much jealousy. He has
felt embarrassed but I think that is often tied to the general sence of
confusion about the world. For examle when we are in the store and
people talk to him he feels embarrassed (and will call it that too) but I
think it is because he does not know what they want. Really his to main
emotions are enthusiasem (like right now he is excited about getting a
new printer - he loves electronics) or frustration. Alec definitely gets jealous if I hold or pay attention to a baby or toddler, but not older kids, probably because of having a big sister.  Interestingly enough, he gets extremely jealous when my babysitter pays attention to the 1 year-old that she also watches.  He doesn't try to hurt or hit the baby but will scream and throw things if she holds the baby and not him, too.  He is extremely shy and will duck his head and smile if a stranger talks to him, but holds on to me for dear life.  He gets very excited and proud when we praise him for doing a new task.

I never seen jealous in Sarah~she has pride and is a perfectionist in her work but I think it was taught by so much therapy and praising her all the time...one thing I notice is her inability to understand her actions affecting others..ex. if a child really wants to play with her or talk to her she blows them off completely either by not responding unless I prompt her too or she just walks off. She never looks back to see if they have hurt feelings or even looking for her:(

I noticed when she is at the playground with kids she doesn't get the social dance of kids playing, talking/ chasing and pretend play at all or care to know..she is happy doing her own thing and doesn't request attention for others to look at her and watch her...she is so different from the other kids to me..I hear from nt kids constantly her age "look at me..look at what I can do..watch me and a million questions! " and Sarah has no desire to do these things I don't know that Sharlet gets jealous, but she is extremely possessive of her toys, and her sisters toys, actually all toys in general.  She can't tolerate Nina playing with anything in front of her.  Don't know if it's because she's jealous or just doesn't know bow to share.  She doesn't react to me giving attention to her baby sister, never has wit anyone else either.  She doesn't need me to pay attention to her at all really.  I have to instigate interaction mostly. 
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