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How do I handle this?Ds (10) had a full on panic attack this morning before school. I couldn't find one thing that initially set it off.... It escalated from a meltdown into outright panic -- he was gasping for breath, etc... I let him stay home from school today. I have NEVER allowed any of my kids to just take a day off. Once he calmed, we tried to talk about things. He didn't know at first why he felt bad -- he ended up revealing to me how much he hated school. He says his teachers are mean to him, he's embarrassed, no friends, etc... This has been building up for a few weeks. I was VERY bothered yesterday when I got his behavior contract home from the week before. His BIP is completely punitive in nature. They are not following any kind of positive reinforcement plan it seems. (they are - supposedly, but it's not) He had 3 office visits last week. I spoke with the BCBA in our district today. She was appalled. She said that his teachers were punishing him for his disability - not actions. It just seems that all of these negative consequences are truly taking a toll on ds. :( I put a call in to ds's teacher from last year. (she's working with him on social skills this year) I wanted to put a bug in her ear and figure out how we can handle this NOW with the current teacher. She didn't have time to call me after school, didn't know the nature of my call - so passed my message on to his current teacher. I didn't know to handle it right then, so I fibbed about why I called to begin with. I had great reservations even before school started this year. My reservations are panning out. This teacher has no experience with autism whatsoever.... I am at a loss. I was in tears this morning for ds. I feel like we're on the verge of losing him. He kept telling me tonight that he didn't want to go tomorrow, that he wanted to go to sleep forever. My heart is breaking.... Michelle Have you ever considered home-schooling your son? Your story is hurting to me and he is not my son. I would strongly urge you to try another method of education than your current one. I know there are those who disagree but the most important one is your son. I hope you will do all you can to protect him from needless suffering. I cannot imagine a child having to endure that kind of discomfort. Homeschool works great for us and so many of our friends and aquaintances. With our son being PDD-NOS we could not even fathom any other method, although we planned on homeschool before we ever had a child. ouch!!! I feel so bad for you guys-I would be temped to let him stay home-I know thats not the answer but poor guy sounds miserableYou did absolutely the right thing. A behavior plan for a child on the spectrum should not be punitive AT ALL. Punishment often backfires for ASD kids. It's the way their brains work. Call and IEP meeting immediately to discuss the plan. Ask that the plan be suspended until an FBA can be conducted. Make SURE that the person doing the FBA is quite familiar with writing behavior plans for autistic kids. The school district may have to contract with a consultant for this. It also may be that the particular placement your son is in is inappropriate. Only YOU can tell that. Report this panic attack to your son's physician. Also, put it in writing to the school. Let them know there have been significant consequences to their handling of your son, that he is developing school phobia and that if this continues they will be denying him FAPE, as they did yesterday because he was simply unable to enter the environment they have created for him in school. He lost a day because of their incompetence and that cannot continue.WOW, I'm so sorry to hear  . I don't have advice just support. I will pray for you and your ds.I can't believe his behavior plan is punitive. I have always heard that they should not be that way at all. I would call an immediate IEP meeting. I think you did the right thing to let him stay home from school, he obvioulsy reacted to his situation at school. It sounds like you & your child need immediate relief, I think calling the principal today and having a face to face today if possible is a good first step, and it is the fastest. Are the consequences delivered to your son what was agreed to in the IEP? Whatever the case they seem to be hurting your son. And I would call for another IEP meeting for ASAP. SH Michelle - that's heart wrenching. I hope it all works out.Try to talk to the School as Tzoya has said, things need to change for your child to be able to function in a classroom. We started out with results like yours, we started calling meetings everytime something like this happened, got his IEP changed and I also brought lots of information to meeting about ASD, at first I think they were a little ticked about it but, things have gotten much better for my son. He functions great in resource room and okay in reg. classroom, and loves his specials,(art,gym,music) he has also joined the chior, first time he ever wanted to join something at School. My son has acted like yours and we figured out it was Stress from School.((((BIG HUGS)))) to you both! Be the "squeaky wheel". The sooner the better and louder! Good luck and please keep us posted!
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