My son is 19 months and having a lot of "meltdowns" lately, especially in public. How do you know when it is age appropriate or if it has more to do with Autism? He just started walking about 6-8 weeks ago, so when we go to the dr., etc., he wants to run and get into everyting and the battle ensure from there when it is time to return to the stroller.
He cries, kicks, screams, thrusts- you name it. It is hard but I don't give in and I just stand my ground. He cries over everything at home too- like getting out of the tub, going in from outside, putting away toys he is stemming with, etc. He is not talking yet so I know he gets frustrated but so do I - HELP!!!!!!It sounds like he may be having trouble with transitions - which is typical toddler behavior thoungh I think with ASD kids it may be a little more extreme. My advice is to pick your battles. Some things are non negotiable but many are. Also maybe try to help him prepare for the transitions i.e. 2 more minutes, one more time etc. Toddlers like to have some control over their environments so maybe try to give some choices (i.e. walk and hold my hand or go in the stroller). I've raised five kids past two. The only kid who did that at times was my ASD kids. THey have their reasons for meltdowns that NT kids don't struggle with so they tend not to have many flipouts. In fact, I'm not sure my other kids ever had a total flipout. Short tantrum, yeah, one of them used to do that sometimes, but nothing like my ASD son, who would really lose it. I too am wondering what is 2 yr old stuff and what is asd. i know this am was asd i wouldn't let her bring her stuffed dog in the store. 1 hr screaming fit! ewwww!
I remember those days-sort of- its like a blur.
I just remember feeling really inept. Like how can everyone else handle this and I can't? I must be reeeeeeeeeeeeeealy stupid cuz no one else is having these problems.
not too technical but it sure was true of my situation
Pinkquinn- I know I am not alone!!! It is nice to know that!
Oh how I remember those days! I think it was the terrible 2's and the ASD. I felt like the worse Mom is world. At the time I had no idea that ds was ASD. Now knowing what I do, I look back and think if only I had known, every trip to the store was horrible etc...you know the drill.
I say what you already know, pick your battles, gives simple but short alternatives, schedule everything at "good times" and know that this too will pass. Vent anytime!Babyboy2005, I think you posted about sleep problems recently too? Your son sounds a lot like mine did at his age (he's now 2 1/2). One thing his OT told me after witnessing one of his tantrums that helped was that his tantrums were normal but he was having more trouble than most calming down or regulating himself (this also goes along with the sleeping problems). She told me that after 15-10 minutes of tantruming he wasn't learning anything, he was "stuck" and I needed to help him get out of it, change the scene, hold him, distract him - whatever helped him calm down. It really did help and he's doing much better now. Also, try to see what the triggers are when you're out, is he tired or hungry, overstimulated? All kids are more likely to meltdown in those situations. I think it's really difficult to tell whether ASD or two year old behavior in a lot of cases. I know some NT two year olds who have some serious meltdowns too - has a lot to do with personality and temperment. I read a book called "Raising your Spirited Child" about NT kids who are more sensitive, intense etc that had some good suggestions.
Hi, I'm new here but I agree with what amah said per her OT. Mine said the same things. My son also had tantrums with transitions like coming in the house after playing, leaving the park, stopping to come and eat, you know the list
At about 20 months was the worst for us, now at 26 months he is much better at transitions. We still have some crying at times but nothing like before. I really have to respect his sleep times and eating times to keep the peace around here. Trying to go food shopping with a tired, hungry 2 year old (ASD/PDD or not) can be a nightmare. I know a lot of times it's impossible to schedule life around my son but I try my best.
Hang in there - my son DID improve in the last 6 months!!!!