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what is this behavior?My ds age 6 has been driving me completely nuts with a certain behavior. He uses a lot of baby talk around me and calls me mommy-huggy or huggy-tuggy etc. he also bangs his head into my stomach (not to hard usually) or pinches my belly flab (thats fun) It makes me insane! He is somewhat obsessed with my boobs as well and that's annoying. Everytime he hugs me he trys to touch them and frankly they are a little hard to avoid. I'd love to approach this from a preventative stand point. Why is he doing this? It's only with me, not anyone else! I've tried just saying that's private or whatever. I don't mind the nicknames but he says them a lot and if he's upset he cries really loud and pushes his face into my belly. He's very hf in most ways but this def sets him apart from peers...what to do? advice please!My son has used silly names for us, too. It annoys me. I don't answer him and try to downplay it. Honestly, it's harmless and I think it's my son's attempt at humor and it's definitely an attempt to get attention. It has not entirely gone away over the years, but it's very limited now. Igoring and not giving the desired attention works. My guess is that the inappropriate touching is similar but has a sensory component. Getting up and moving the SECOND he touches is key. At 6 it's merely annoying. At 13 it's BAD and can be transferred to others. Speak to a behavioral expert about the best way to approach a BIP for this. [QUOTE=catmille] My ds age 6 has been driving me completely nuts with
a certain behavior. He uses a lot of baby talk around me and calls me mommy-huggy or huggy-tuggy etc. he also bangs his head into my stomach (not to hard usually) or pinches my belly flab (thats fun) It
makes me insane! He is somewhat obsessed with my boobs as well and that's annoying. Everytime he hugs me he trys to touch them and frankly they are a little hard to avoid. I'd love to approach this from a
preventative stand point. Why is he doing this? It's only with me, not anyone else! I've tried just saying that's private or whatever. I don't mind the nicknames but he says them a lot and if he's upset he cries really loud and pushes his face into my belly. He's very hf in most ways but this def sets him apart from peers...what to do? advice please![/QUOTE] Oh my goodness, our sons must be sharing brain cells! Mine does the same thing, but he does it to me AND my sister. He loves our boobs, he "squishes" my tummy (guess I need to work on the squishy), and he has always used nicknames for us. He used to point out other women's chests as well, especially large women. Very embarrassing when your child points at total strangers and tells them they have "fat boo-boos". We keep pushing the whole "privacy" thing and it seems to be working for now.It may take a long while, but I would begin reprogramming your definition of a hug. Each time he goes to do his normal thing, (head in belly and all that goes along with it) say "No, this is how we hug." Redirect him to the proper way to hug. He will not like it, and it will take a long time. You will probably have meltdowns, but he has to learn now or this could be a bigger problem later. The baby talk is less problematic. I'm of the "pick your battles" school of thought. Good luck! Oh, my. My DS does some of that. The encouraging thing is, DH observed a preK teacher strategically (and automatically!) grabbing his hands and putting them around her waist! A trick I quickly adopted ... but I think it is just plain a GUY thing, at least in little boys ... anyhow that grabbing hands and putting them where you want them, just like with HS age boys, WORKS! For one thing ... The rest, good luck! ... we also talk to T about touching people ONLY in ways they wish to be touche, and not talking about the private areas. But as a girl, she is given a lot more latitude socially. [QUOTE=catmille]My ds age 6 has been driving me completely nuts with a certain behavior. He uses a lot of baby talk around me and calls me mommy-huggy or huggy-tuggy etc. he also bangs his head into my stomach (not to hard usually) or pinches my belly flab (thats fun) It makes me insane! He is somewhat obsessed with my boobs as well and that's annoying. Everytime he hugs me he trys to touch them and frankly they are a little hard to avoid. I'd love to approach this from a preventative stand point. Why is he doing this? It's only with me, not anyone else! I've tried just saying that's private or whatever. I don't mind the nicknames but he says them a lot and if he's upset he cries really loud and pushes his face into my belly. He's very hf in most ways but this def sets him apart from peers...what to do? advice please![/QUOTE] when he touch you in a way you dont like you should remove his hands or get up ann walk away from him an say when you can sit with me an cullde in approite way i cuddle with youLittle M also has a thing for my tummy after I stopped nursing, but not my breast. Strangely that helped me deal with his night terror (he cried 6 hours a night, 7 days a week at the peak) and tanturms, comfort him when he hurts himself or feels sad. He used to play with my tummy until he fell into sleep. When he woke up in the middle of the night, touching my tummy would help him go back to sleep. But I never let him touch my tummy in public. As he is getting older, I limit him as well as myself (you know the best tool). Now, I only let him touch my tummy when he is very very sad, and I have no other way to comfort him. I'm definately going to be more firm about the tummy squishing, I just can't stand it. I don't mind a "tummy hug" as they are called in my house but when he uses his hands and turms my belly into playdoh I hate it. WEird how other kids are doing this too, sensory issue perhaps. I'm thinking I can hand him a squishy pillow to squeeze when he goes for the belly. That or get abs of steel and tummy/boobs. He loves to squish the squishy spots. The good news is my DH has joined gym- he took it as a hint, and I'm got myself a treadmill that I plan on putting a lot of time in once my baby is born. Maybe for once the sensory issue is a good thing around here  .As far as the names- the only thing he does is call me Mamaly. Which isn't too bad or very often. |
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. I told him that, he didnt like that.