Feeling the worst mommy(mini-vent) We had to change that, so we started taking him to another salon, not family owned.
"Miss Debbie" raised her own 4 kids, so she is cool with him, is by our house, so that he is familiar with the place and the fact that she is a pretty, blond lady seemed to put the little future skin hound at ease. Don't ask me why, but he is attracted to tall blond women. It was terrible at first. My wife had to hold him, he wouldn't wear the cape, he fidgitted around like a maniac, and to settle him down, we had to promise to get him an ice cream cone from Brusters after it was over. After 4 or 5 times, he started to be OK with it, he even said, "I have a nice haircut Mommy." One time they got the hair cut, she nicked him, and to top it off, Brusters had gone out of business! We thought that we were going to have to start all over from scratch. We didn't. He now walks into the Salon, picks out a book, sits in his chair until called, Then he jumps up onto the Barber Chair and politely talks to Miss Debbie and does what he is told. He still gets the Ice cream cone, but it is from our house when he gets home.I started taking my son to get hair cuts at 1 year old.... this 1st one was fine, the next 10 or so were horrible. He cried until he threw up about 6-8 different haircut times..... fun leaving a tip for those! He got used to it eventually and we found a haircut place that has movies and lollipops and little cars or airplane chairs for them to sit in so he actually enjoys going to get his hair cut now. He is 4.5 now- at 2 is when we were puking at every haircut. The name of the place we go to is Comedy Cuts (TX) you may look for a kid geared place to try- I agree with tzoya though- if he ever will get used to it he will have to try it often.Oh I know the feeling, I just buzzed my 3yo's hair yesterday. He hates it too, but it's less stressful than taking him to a hair dresser - that is a disaster! We buzz his hair every 6-8 weeks, I get DH to help, we put on a thomas dvd to hopefully help distract DS (yeah right... but at least I feel i'm doing something to help)  . DH holds him down while I buzz... all over in 10 minutes. Well ... I have a girl who THOUGHT she wanted her hair long, but not anymore. She stopped freaking out over trips to the barber ages ago. But ... she wanted her hair long. Meaning I ahd to wash, comb, and dry it ... and she WOULD freak out on me. Now, her Dad took her to the barber, and she ended up with a pixie cut! Looks wonderful on her. Everyone compliments her. Never letting it go again! If it makes you feel better my NT son freaks out about teeth brushing (he is 2 so we still need to do it) haircuts, anything- he won't even let us trace his hands on a piece of paper- he had a really painful medical experience over a year ago- and the docs insisted he was too young for it to have permanent effects (what do they know). After we do anything like this he avoids us like the plague for awhile- the worse is brushing his teeth it takes both his father and I to hold him down- so we only do it once a day- at least the rest of the time he will "brush" his teeth on his own. However at the end of the day- he always is ready to cuddle back up and forgives us each time. Makes us feel horrible- but what else can you do? Lots of hugs..hang in there.
I just had to cut DS's hair. Our vacation to Disneyland is coming up in a week and I wanted to help him look his best. I buzz his head as it is easier than trying to use scissors. He of course hates this. I know he hates this, but I also know it is a fact of life. I feel so horrible though. He won't even come near me and anytime I get near him he runs and freaks out. I know he'll get over this. I know we'll move past this and all will be well but I just wish I knew a better way to go about cutting his hair. We don't use someone outside of the house because of the expense and major trauma it causes DS. Thanks for letting me vent.
{{{{{Big Hugs}}}}}} Your not the worst mommy! Give your little guy some time and a couple sweet bribes and the whole experience will be history. And BTW my NT son wouldn't do buzz cuts until he was more than four years old. The sound scared him to death. I'm sure as your boy gets a bit older it will get easier. In the meantime, breathe - its done. Please Don't think you are a bad mom,we have to keep our kids looking presentable ASD or Not ,this includes hair cuts ,clipping finger nails, washing faces,brushing teeth etc..... I have a friend who will come here to cut the kids hair ,and I babysit for her in return,they are better for her than me ,can a family friend do his hair? maybe he would be better for someone besides mom,I know mine are. Linda HUGS - I do hair cutting on a sleeping child and it takes a few days ...I wonder if they sell a fake/play cutter that makes that noise?? Not bad Mom it's just .. mommy guilt I think .This is horrible ( I AM a terrible parent!) but my husband loves that old Wayne's World Movie and of couse we allow the boys to watch. Yes, there are a handful of swear words so the kids turn to us and we admonish - THIS IS FICTION, GUYS - WE DO NOT USE BAD WORDS IN REAL LIFE. Anyway, there is a scene in the beginning called a Suck N Cut commercial. Some nerdy guy with a vacuum/hair cutting thing sucks Garth's long hair up into it and it is disastrous. My kids have a huge sense of humor, and find this hilarious. Also, in Chitty Chitty Bang Bang (a good movie for children!!!) there is a scene with another bad haircut machine. Again, it tickles my boys. Don't know what kind of sense of humor your son has, but these scenes help Cole laugh at the ideas of a hair cut done in a really bad way. Can you cut somebody else's hair while you do your child's? We find that Cole watching his brother and dad get a haircut, then him next helps. At home, you can at least turn on his favorite DVD or something. And listen - if he had a splinter that had to be dug out, you'd do it right? Parenting includes having to upset them from time to time, but life WILL do that to all of us. Better to learn it in a loving environment. OH...and by the way, you can get a kid's hair cut at Disney and they make a really fun to-do about it. Maybe have your daughter or husband get their hair cut there and take photos...could use them for a social story for him later. Hang in - haircuts DO get easier! I know this feeling. Sam still dislikes haircuts, but thankfully he no longer flips out. We give him an animal to hold and one of us held him in our laps. If he's not wanting to come near you, you can try turning off most of the lights and sitting on the floor either playing with a toy he likes or reading a book. It may sooth him and let him approach you so he doesn't feel chased. :hugs I know it feels bad when they're upset with you. I've been cutting my children's hair for 5 years. Both boys didn't really need a hair cut because they didn't have much hair until they were 3 and 3 1/2. I use scissors and always "bowl" sytle. They hate hair cut, so do I. Sometimes, they cry and scream, and I yell and cry. They never stay still long enough let me finish it. Once while they have a "good" one, most of time just bad ones. Maybe one day, all men allow to have long hair again, like in the middle age. |
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