it hard sometimes being hf no mater how hf i am something just still dont get easyer .like dating understanding how to be with another person ,im haveing fun ,it nice he understands me but it funny becuse he has aspgers but seem to be more conected to the world of people feelings an those nt things i struggle with .like i learn that you say certin thing in certin situion .lol so last night after he got home he call me we talk before we  hung up he say i love u an i say it back .becuse i no that what your soupod to say when someone say it to you .so today he call me he new i wasnt feeling well an ask me if i say i love u back cuse he say it or cuse i felkt it to lol dang so busted .i said i said it back cxuse that what i was taugh is the apporite thing to do ,he say i dont have to say it back if i dont feel it yet .i can say i like you .he ask me is this or that harder cuse of my autism ,that why i say there is a big diff between as an hfa . Autti, sure there's differences, but maybe he just knows that because someone taught him too!  It's really hard to only say I like you to someone who says I love you though!!!! Off the subject, in your sig it says you are an artist.  What kind of art do you do? Camille abstrac art .i told him that sometimes he say things an i dont no how to answer him back ,.he beter at expersiong his feeling .i told him that it take me longer to get attched to a person to I know that autism must make it about million times harder- but even us NT people have a hard time not saying "love you" back - even if we don't mean it. He sounds very understanding. I hope all goes well Autti, I still think it is great that you and your bf are talking openly and honestly about your feelings.  It is SOOOO hard for even NT people to do this (communication problems are very common in all relationships), so it is good that you guys are communicating about how you feel and what is difficult for you both.  Hopefully you both can respect what your individual needs and comfort levels are, and make it work   Woodsman, I am sorry that you have had such trouble in the dating world.  You sound like a really nice guy with a good head on your shoulders.  i have trouble with showing affection an i told him it take me awhile to bond wioth someone I SO know how u feel! My husband (when we were first going out) is really clingy tho and he was pretty overwhelming but hed say i love you and i wouldnt say anything. It got to a point he was begging me and I finally said it even tho i didnt mean it (at the time). I take a long time to bond with people as well. I think i have attachment issues alot. I do love my husband now (obviously) lol But ya we both have issues i guess lol Also my first bf first said i love you and i didnt say anything except "Thankyou' he was hurt needless to say. I ended up breaking up with him the next day. I never bonded with any of my bfs (all 3 of them wow lol) Sometimes i felt like i wasnt even attracted to guys in a normal way yet i wasnt attracted to girls. It was always a weird feeling. But i AM attracted to them its just hard to explain Sounds like u have a very sweet and understanding guy there, sounds like a keeper! 143hayden39860.7691550926thanks I completely agree with Annaquin.  I have had this experience as well, where someone says I love you and I didn't know what to say.  I am sure it is WAY more difficult for AS or ASD though.  It sounds like you both are being honest with each other, which is a good thing!ya so now he say when we hang up i like you lol Hmmm... well look on the bright side, you are doing better in the dating world then I have. Every date I had was with NT girls, from school and one from collage. NEVER have I had a date last longer then a mounth, half the time I meet old high school girls at the local bars, back when I went to them regularly. I never could make it work... many reasons why, which suck because I have a good job, my own batchelor pad and cash, but its almost like after a few dates they expect ya to friggan get all lovy dovy and suck face er something.... SOrry if thats too graphic, I mean make out!!!! I cant STAND touch, hell wouldnt even hug my own mother, so women get the wrong impression, I wont have physical contact with them so I must not like them, and they leave. How many women out their know a guy who is afriad to score at my age? Scared for many reasons, physical contact is one of many. They also dont like my habits, I have only specific times and days I wanna hang out, dont use phones much, and when we hang out I always gotta be drinking to kinda grease those social wheels, so they get the impression I am a prude, drunk who only cares about career and money. I really think you are doing fine, dont let others pressure you into anything you want. Actually I think its harder for him then for you, cause his bro's are probably (like me) calling him gay cause he hasnt moved on like a normal person yet. Not like its any of their buisness, I dont ask others to kiss and tell why the hell should I be expected too? You are doing fine, take it slow, do things ya like, TALK AND BE HONEST. Relying on booze and money aint what its about, and now that I know better I have been outa school for years and no longer have any pretty women knocking at my door... and he probably has very similar issues... Maby anyways...
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