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Hi, I really need advice from the universe. My 5 year old ASD boy for no apparent reason will go up to his big brother (only by 1 year) and hit him on the head, or kick him or bite him, then he laughs and says "funny". My poor 6 year old is hurt and confused and says he hates Alex. I try to tell him its not Alex he hates but what he does but hes 6. Is there anyone out there who has had similar experiences and what the devil did you do to help stop or limit it. I am going crazy. I feel like giving him away sometimes, I know that sounds awful but it gets very draining and frustrating. He was only diagnosed this July and we are waiting to get into Autism Qld school. Hoping they will help. Anyway, Happy New Year to everyone out there. Hoping someone can help.
Daisy4 What do you do to him when he does this,do you put him in a time out ,do you talk to him and tell him its wrong to hurt people,well here's just a thought . My ds did this to to his younger brother ,he was looking for attention ,Good or bad he didn't care,so when he was seeking attention he would smack his brother!! sounds alot like what you are describing. My therapist told me to pay attention to the one who was hurt ,Don't give ds any attention and it worked . we also taught him to ask for attention,to say I need you or look at me,or I need some attention. Good Luck Linda
My ds tends to be a big reenacter of events. I would have a sneaking suspicion that he might be acting out something he has seen on TV or video - you know all these shows or cartoons where people get hit or kicked or hurt and then there is a laughtrack. Our kids don't of the typical empathy of understanding how someone else feels or the social savy of understanding why something that is (supposed to be ) funny on TV is not funny at home. I am not anti-TV -especially since it is often the only break time I get -but I had to really limit what ds can watch, we blocked several channels. Other than that I think you need to be very specific with your ds of why this is not okay and how him hurting his brother effects how people will treat him. (social mapping). If his behavior is anxiety related give him positive options on how to release the anxiety (throw self on bean-bags, trampoline....) and praise him like crazy when he does this instead. I have started putting him in time out in bathroom, nothing he can get into in there, I know it sounds strange but its the best place for him. We have a very small house. He does not understand emotions of other people so its very hard to make him understand how others are feeling. He just laughs. I do believe like beccaposie said, its to get his brothers attention. He will smack him and say gotchyou and laugh. I think he just wants his bro. to play with him but does not have enough language to ask. He only watches nick jr or disney playhouse, no violence in there. Its the summer holidays here just now so when I get back to school I will ask for a social story of hitting. Thanks for responding, any little bit of insight helps. Here you'll find various sample social stories for hitting, biting, etc., including stories that help kids understand personal space and impulse control. http://www.autism-pdd.net/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14154&am p;PN=1&TPN=10 It definitely seems like he enjoys the reaction to his aggression. I don't know that you can expect your older son to control his reaction (thus eliminating the reward), after all, he's just a kid, too. It's a long process to teach the many skills needed to avoid aggressive behavior. We reacted by saying "Stop. No hurting" in a calm voice with a neutral facial expression, then removing him from the situation. We didn't do "time-out" because he didn't have the impulse control to stay there. Here are some free online games to teach about emotions: http://www.autism-pdd.net/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17136&am p;am p;am p;am p;am p;KW=games - online emotions games Good luck with everything.
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