Issues w/ hand holding or nail clipping? I posted below about my DD and my concern over her poor eye contact and was thinking I'd post another item. Do your ASD &/or NT kids hold your hand?  Neither of my kids will grasp my hand or fingers like I've experienced with so many other babies.  My 2 yr old son will at least hold his arm up but I have to hold his wrist.  If I do get a hold of his hand he keeps his fingers locked open and straight out.  My 9 month old hates when I grab her hands or feet too.  She's never done that cute little wrap their infant hands around your finger thing....it makes me sad thinking about it. And nail clipping...I wont even go there!  I can at least do my son's nails in the car while he's strapped into his carseat.  My DD and I go into a straight out battle!    I know she's like a ton smaller than me, so how the heck does she always win!?!?  LOL Anyone else? All my kids will old my hand, but for the nail clipping we use an emery board to keep his nails short.  It's worth a try. Yep. Taylor would have to be held down to do nail cutting. She did grasp my hands, prior to symptoms but wouldnt hold on for long after she started showing signs of asd. Now, she will (10 years later) but, she cant seem to do it for long. But, she has come a long way. Therapies are a big help and, when it comes to nail cutting, EI, and now school therapists have helped. She wouldnt let me touch her hair either--now, she hands me brush and, will hold her fingers out to have nails cut. If you have EI,  tell them your concerns and, they will work on it with you. My DD has been referred to EI a few times already and I've denied them.  I know, I know.  I just didn't want to believe anything was wrong.  Now I realize I'm being a fool and that a little therapy can go a long way at her age.  It doesn't hurt right.  Well other than figuring out how the heck I'm going to fit it all into our schedule.  I've put a request in for another referral.  They're going to think I'm crazy!  LOL Emory board!!! Definitely going to give it a try! Nah, it's common so no worries about having the referral redone. Many of us dont want to believe anything is wrong--I believed a doc, even though I knew something was wrong with Sean, and lost 18 months of services cuz of it. They were good about it--understanding and, I got the best team of therapists I could ever imagine. They stayed with me for support, right through the school system enterance there, even though they were done at age 3. I have used emory board..just to warn you though..some kids dont like the feel of that--Colin was fine with it but, Taylor hated it more than a quick clip. I guess that is common..but I still am able to use it on Colin (he hates the clippers...these kids like to keep me challenged with one not liking what others do..lol). When my kids were young, like your daughter, I would clip their nails after they had had a bottle, and were sleeping while I was holding them.  I would wait about 10-15 minutes so that I knew they were sleeping well and then I would be able to clip their nails quickly without them waking.  I  also wouldn't worry about accidently clipping their skin, because they were alseep and wouldn't pull away or fight me.  Course, my kids were all fairly heavy sleepers, and still are!my mom had to put me almost in a body lock to clip toe an finger nails as any of that stuff in my book wasnt happing .my mom said i go nuts when they hold my hand but they had to at times for safty iusse like parking lots an crossing the streetr sonce i was tottly cluess about danger an cars We had HUGE hand holding, nail clipping and haircut issues around age 3.  I used to be terrified to take my kids out alone because noone wanted to hold hands in the parking lot.  With hand holding I would only go places with shopping carts.  I would find an abandoned cart in the parking lot, park right next to it, toss 2 kids in it and then run for the entrance hoping to get there before anyone jumped out LOL.  My dh was on crutches the entire year the boys were 3 so even when we went out together it was a nightmare (picture me running with cart and gimpy trying to keep up). With nails, I used to do it when C was sleeping.  Or one of us would hold him down and the other would do it.  With haircuts it was a 3 adult operation at the salon. Interestingly enough, we never "worked on" any of these things.  At that time the full court press was on speech / communication because that was the area of greatest need.  Then around age 5 all of these things ceased to be issues.  No at age 7 C likes to hold my hand, he'll tell me when his nails are too long and yesterday he asked me if he could get a haircut because it's in his face, so we're going tonight.  Handholding, nail biting, hair cuts, and the like are sensory issues that he just seemed to grow out of.  Maybe all the OT he had along the way helped, but who can really tell? autti34 I often find that I carry my son to avoid having to hold his hand for safety issues.  I figure at least i'm burning some extra calories! I can do the "wait til he falls asleep" bit with my son.  But my daughter is the lightest sleeper ever.  I can't even sneak in her room at night to check on her without her waking up.  I honestly think a mouse would wake her.  Kind of funny (or not) there have been just a couple times that she doesn't stir when I check on her and I instantly get that paniced sour stomach feeling. kristys - yes!  Haircuts are miserable with my son.  I dread starting them with my DD.  There is no way I'll even attempt to let her have bangs.  She'll be a ponytail girl that's for sure!  As long as DS will allow her to have something shiny and pretty in her hair without him pulling it out!!  That's yet another issue.nt kids go through that stage to .cuise they are cluess sabout safty iusse in parking lots to Both my oldest daughters still hold my hand, but Clarissa used to have a phobia about getting her nails clipped. Now she just picks them.
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