Reasonable Eye contact questionI am quick to say that my son makes eye contact, but once I started thinking about it, he will look at me, or anyone else who is in the room, but it generally is not for very long because he's playing or distracted by something else. When he is playing with his toys, and I am on the floor with him, his eye contact is kind of fleeting. He glances at me, sometimes gives me a smile and then goes back to what he was doing. What is a reasonable request for eye contact? I am not trying to be nit picky, but I just want to make sure I'm not over looking something. I know I must seem so neurotic! If you act like you are about to tickle your son and make some repetivie sounds before you do it, does he make longer eye contact in the aticipation of the tickles coming? he should be starting to anticipate things like this and to want more of it he should be seeking you out with eye contact. if he isisnt start doing some of this floor play type activities. make a certain sound before doing something like tickles or raspberries and dont do the actual action until he has given you eye contact. This will help with eye contact, read up on floortime too by stanley greenspanI can tell you that my son with HFA also had hit or miss eye contact at that age. I'd go back and forth on wether there was an issue there. Now that I have a 2yr old that is so far typical, I can see the difference. If I don't look at him, he will actually twist his head, to make eye contact.  It is dead on. He brings me toys, we play back and forth, he's looking at me and the toy. I will sing songs and he will maintain eye contact through the whole song, as we do the hand gestures. My oldest never did these things, on his best days with eye contact.I think I mentioned this before but: I used to sit taylor in the bathroom, with me on the floor and her in front of me. I would close the door. I would play little games--anything from singing songs to doing peek-a-boo. When she would look into my eyes I would say, "good looking" and smile big time. When she took something to play with, I would take it from her and start doing the same. She would look in my eyes when I took the toy or something she was interested in and I would say, "good looking", once again. I did this for about 2 hours a day, morning and night. She now will look me direct in the eye. Contact lasts up to 5 full minutes or more, depending on what she is doing. If I am scolding her or telling her to do something, I touch her chin and make her look me in the eye as I am talking, but I smile when it is about her doing something--then she smiles cuz she knows what I am about to say, and waits--I say, "good looking" and she giggles.
God Bless, Kelly Hi i was going to post similiar question.Dont want to hi-jack your post but i will be watching with interest.My dd (13 mths) will give good eye contact from 4 + feet away for short periods of time.If she is on my knee and i look her in the eye she pushes me away or looks away herself.I am not sure if it is bad eye contact or tha i am in her personal space and she does not like it. When cuddled she is the same,if i cuddle her she pushes me away and gets distressed,yet she is fine to cuddle if she puts her head on my shoulder.It is like everything is on her terms. What do you all think? Hunter08 i hope you dont mind me adding question,seemed silly to post same thing. xx &nbs p; &nbs p; &nbs p; I do not mind at all!! Everyone here seems to have very good advice/opinions and is very kind! |
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