Getting dressed!Any good ideas out there how to get the "I am not getting any of those clothes on" kid dressed. Especially when you are in a hurry. This is the kid that will scratch, spit, kick, scream, bite and fight to the death before he would put on pants. So far I have tried getting him to pick out his own clothes. Has worked on some occassions but not enough. Just throws all the clothes all over the room. Unloads dresser drawers causing way more work. Have tried treats. Does not work. We are in therapy but have not gotten to this behavior yet. So any good hints I would love love love. Lay um on me please! LOL Hugs, Sunny
Thanks a lot Shelley that is a great idea as well. I have a lot to think about with the clothing. LOL. Many good ideas I am so glad I posted. Hugs Suns He looks old enough to benefit from a visual schedule. T is much happier without constant intervention from us. She looks at the pictures and follows them! I used google image to put together one -- undies, pants, tshirt, socks, shoes, watch, hair, toothbrushing! Keep it simple. Or ... could it be the seams or textures bug him? T wears only cotton knits. Anything else is a waste of money! ETA: she also prefers ME to pick. Go figure! But morning is not the time for her to make decisions of any sort ... so I do. You might have him try choosing each piece the night before? Great idea! I have started pictures for places we go and people we are going to see. The clothes is a great idea. I will work on that. Have you been to the website polyvore.com? My daughter showed me it. Has tons of fun clip art and fashion clothing. Neat site for kids and could be great for photos to use. I will work on that. Thanks!! Hugs Suns You can also take photos of his actual clothing and of him in his pj's and then dressed. If you laminate this pix, you can create a fun, participatory schedule board. Form two columns of velcro, top to bottom of a board. The left column should be entitled DO! and the left column should be entitled DONE! Doesn't matter that your child doesn't read. He'll come to recognize these words. Start the DO! column with a picture of him in pj's, then the pic of underwear, shirt, pants, socks, shoes and him dressed -- in that order. Show him how, once he has put an item on, he'll get to tranfer the pic to the DONE! column. The final pic should be of some kind of treat. Maybe just a pic of you hugging him with the words GREAT JOB! there. It'll be fun for him to transfer the pix from one side to another. Your other child might like a board for herself, too, even if she doesn't need on. This board can be used for other tasks that require steps. All it takes is another bunch of photos. PS -- CONTROL is usually the issue here. If you give your child choices and a sense of control (and this includes NEVER rushing -- start two hours early if necessary), the noncompliance is likely to be reduced. Great ideas! I love the velcro board idea a ton! I will do it! Weeeeeeeeeeeeeeee. Yes, rushing is not good either. Yikes. Somedays it does happen unfortunately depending on if he slept good or not. Hugs Suns [QUOTE=tzoya]PS -- CONTROL is usually the issue here. If you give your child choices and a sense of control (and this includes NEVER rushing -- start two hours early if necessary), the noncompliance is likely to be reduced.[/QUOTE] SAGE WISDOM, this! LOL. YES! Sunnygirl,FYI, this is the treasure chest kit I bought for my DS: http://www.orientaltrading.com/ui/browse/processRequest.do?d emandPrefix=12&sku=5/919&mode=Searching&erec=7&a mp;Ipp=16&No=16&D=treasure+chest&Ntt=treasure+ch est&Ntk=all&Dx=mode%2bmatchallpartial&Ntx=mode%2 bmatchallpartial&y=0&N=0&requestURI=processProdu ctsCatalog&x=0&sd=Treasure+Chest+Toy+Assortment Check your local party store. They might have it, or something similar, in stock. Sorry, the link might be broken. It's probably faster to go to www.orientaltrading.com and enter "Treasure Chest Toy Assortment" in the search field. Hey cool. I will check into that. I remember the dentist we went to as kids had a little treasure chest. When you were done with your appt you got to pick out a treasure. FUN. LOL [QUOTE=tzoya]PS -- CONTROL is usually the issue here. If you give your child choices and a sense of control (and this includes NEVER rushing -- start two hours early if necessary), the noncompliance is likely to be reduced.[/QUOTE] Control was the issue with my DS (4 yr HFA). He could put on his clothes correctly, quickly if he was motivated. But most mornings he would resist, let himself get distracted, or complain he didn't remember how to put on his pants. So what I did one morning was to say he didn't have to put on his clothes and he could go out in his underwear. My DS was happy with that. So the whole family got all our stuff together and walked out the door. He got about 3 feet out the door then realized he was freezing (it was a Jan. morning). He protested but the rest of us proceeded to the van. He protested some more. I told him he had 2 minutes to get dressed (we left his clothes by the door) and if he wasn't ready, he'd have to stay at home by himself. I've never seen him dress so fast! Fortunately he's not one to call our bluff. Now most of the time he's good and on the occasions that he wants to test us, my wife and I make loud noise that sound like we are getting ready to leave. SPColympics, Oh man I have tried that. Leaving the house. He does cry and have a fit. He then says he wants to get dressed but then goes back into struggle mode when I have to put the stuff on him. He is not cooperative enough to do it himself once he is that upset. So I guess I will be getting up at the crack of dawn to get him up and happy before we have to go. I will try to get him to bed earlier which is another struggle. LOL. There is always something huh? Hugs Suns Sunnygirl,Does your child cooperate more with rewards? At home, we implemented a reward system with coins. He gets a coin for doing something right and if he gets 5 coins, he gets to open a treasure chest containing little toys and his favorite candies and pick one item. With the coins we have a carrot and stick approach to changing behavior. We give our son some choices with the wrong one having an undesirable consequence, ie going out in the cold naked, and one choice having a desirable reward. The going out in your underware routine didn't work at night after his bath so we used the coins to motivate him to put on his clothes. At first we had to be very generous, giving a coin if he put on just one item. Then eventually we worked it to 1 coin for putting on 2 items, then 1 coin for putting everything on, etc. It took awhile and now he'll dress himself in a reasonable amount of time. I know you said treats don't work but are you only offering a treat if everything is done right and quickly? If yes, perhaps you need to lower the threshold at first so that even the attempt to cooperate is rewarded. We do a lot of encouragement, but no treats really. I make the HIGH FIVE, JUMP around a lot when they do something extra special (yes, that earthquake you felt was me, jumping up and down over Taylor saying she was hungry..lol). They seem to really get excited when we get excited. Colin and Taylor now love to get dressed on their own. I have to inspect, of course but both can match pretty well. I do have to point out a shirt inside out every once in a while or, check to make sure a favorite shirt or pants wasn't pulled out of the clothes bin--but they have shown massive growth in independence in this dept. I have had them take clothes I had put out the night before and decide, that isn't what they want to wear and go and get something else. I allow them to do that. It's great to see them make their own decision--(although one day, when I was dropping my oldest off at her school, taylor decided to put on pajama bottoms and a heavy tee shirt, and was on the bus before I could get back--I had to go over and drop off PROPER clothing..lol). I am trying to teach Taylor, now about wearing night clothes. She loves to strip down to her Depends, and sit naked. As she is developing and, um..her younger brother is also noticing, I am trying to get her to realize, "She is a big girl, in 5th grade now and big girls wear shirts and pants". I have been putting night gowns on her and, for the first time in 10 years, she still has it on in the morning. Now, if I can keep her clothed ALL the time, that will be major accomplishment..lol. I say, whatever works, go for it. I think each of us has tried everything at one time and, when you find something that works, stick with it. It's all trial and error for us. God Bless, Kelly Las year I got Sarah those leggings/top matching outfits from gymboree and she slept in them..terrible I know but the mornings were so much easier. This year I got this organizer..they have them at Lillian Vernon for $20 but I found it cheaper on Ebay:) She can help pick the outfits out on the weekend and we do the whole week}it holds the outfit, socks, undies..even a bottom slot for weekends. It has pockets all around it too for items...I love it! Thinking of getting on for my teen too! Here it is:
Best of luck:) SPcO, ,I love the idea of the little treasure chest and coins to open it. I can see that really working for him. He loves money and treasure. NEATO. Great ideas! Kelly4jesus, LOL. I wish the high 5s and things worked for Jax. He gets made when I encourage him. Like when I saw "Great job going potty!" In an excited voice. He says to me "Don't say that!" He gets mad. LOL. I don't know why. Then sometimes he will surprise me and say "Good Job Jaxon" about himself. Kelly -- Kids often have to have PRIMARY reinforcers (treats -- toys, snacks, stickers etc.) before secondary reinforcers (high-fives, hugs, etc.) work. Coupling primary reinforcers with secondary reinforcers will help to transition away from treats eventually. Also, speak to your child's OT. It may be that his "planning" freezes when he's upset. I know from personal experience how much of a pain it is to accomodate our kids. We're human, too, and that extra half hour of sleep means as much to mom as to the kids. But autism wins in the end, so we must accomodate it. Best of luck. |
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