Trouble with school work
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Hi everyone, I am so stressed and confused right now I did not know where else to turn. To make a long story short, my son lost his aide that he had had for the last for 4yrs this past Februaury. Since then, things have gone from bad to worse at school (missing assignments, doing poorly on tests, getting into fights). My son was so despondent when his aide had to abruptly leave for personal reasons. They tried to place someone with him who was just mean to him and did nothing to assist him. We have decided to place in him a non public setting for next year since he will be entering 7th grade and we know things will only get worse at the public school he is attending now. In the meantime, we have to get through the next six weeks and my biggest issue is his dad, my ex-husband. We found out that my son had missed an important deadline with a term paper in one of his classes. With everything we had been delaing with, this just got past us. The teacher is allowing him an extension, but my ex-husband is so angry with our son and is accusing him of lieing about not knowing the assigment was due and saying that he is just being lazy. I am trying to make him see that we are also to blame for his school work suffering and that punishment and lectures are not going to make the situation any better. I feel torn between feeling bad that I was not following up on his school work and at the same time feeling like I need to be a buffer between him and his dad. I just don't know what to do, any advice or feedback would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!I'd just concentrate on helping your son get the assignment done. You are not going to change his dad right now. Change is very, very difficult for ASD kids and suddenly losing an aide who has been so much a part of his life is like a death. He needs to mourn. I am SO sorry this is happening. Encourage him and help him get through this next month or so. Try to explain to him that his Dad loves him and is hoping to help him become more responsible but just doesn't understand how. Then let it go. Focus on the assignment and bolstering your son's feelings about himself in as many other ways as you can. Summer and next year will be here soon. BTW, this is why most schools don't allow aides to stay with a student for more than one year. Some schools even rotate the aides throughout the year.Thansk SO much for the feedback, you are right!As kids get older, they're expected to have organizational skills that kids with autism won't have unless taught directly. It's not his fault, and it's not your fault -- after all, there's a limited amount you can do unless you have direct communication with the teachers who give these assignments. I'd definitely try to get organizational skills/strategies on the IEP. Your son needs a system to follow that the school can support him with. Thank you Norway mom, that is sound advice. So much of our IEP sessions are spent on his behavior issues, but I think that orginizational skills are going to beome a bigger issue as he gets older - so much to think about, huh?? Maybe I could use some training in that area too!
http://www.autism-pdd.net/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19740&am p;KW=homework+resources Thanks Norway Mom, these are great!! I am forwarding a couple of the articles onto my son's dad as well. You are giving me hope-
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