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Hi my kid teacher and special teachers wants my husband and I to have our kid tested for autism, my kid is ADHD and a slow learner w / behavioral problems . I read all about what is autism and I don't see were my kid needs to tested.
Listen -- what if you're wrong? What if you find out at 12 that yo've lost years and years of help because you didn't even try to see if they're right? Get your child to a pediatric psychiatrist. ADHD is common among autistic children. And there are many very high functioning autistic children. They're not all head bangers and retarded. Your child could have a very high functioning form of autism, but that has its own burdens. Ignoring the possiblity will only cause much worse problems in the long run. Don't be afraid. Find out once and for all now. If the answer is yes, it's better to find out while your child is young enough to truly benefit from any help he can get.I was also in you position mlst.. Just about 1 month ago.. My daughter had ADHD or so we thought and I felt the same as you when it was suggested that she had Aspergers. I went through my denial.. even told her psychologist that she was way off on the assumption that my child could have anything of the sort.. Needless to say, I was wrong but I needed to work through the feelings I had about it. No parent wants something to be wrong with their child, but what is most important is helping my child. Asperger kids and others on the spectrum all have different symptoms so don't just read symptoms and think that they don't ALL fit your child because they won't. My daughter doesnt have many of the symptoms but she does have problems making friends and understanding social situations. There is a lot of help out there. I suggest to just get an evaluation. It wont hurt. mlst I agree with everyone, I know how hard it is for you to even hear that something else could be "wrong" with my child. Teachers are somewhat trained to recognize these types of things. I'd rather be safe than sorry, you want her to succeed to the best of her abilities, getting a correct diagnosis is part of that. Work out your feelings bearing in mind that this is what is best for her. I say that from experience I have two sons with autism. They are 1 yr. 2 days apart in age, and they were diagnosed 1 yr. 3 days apart. I stayed in denial for a LONG time. Get support wherever you can find it. Educate everyone around you as you learn. You can do this! I agree with the forum it is better to be safe than sorry. Denial is a part of the process if your child does have Autism you need to find out now not later. I agree get your child tested and find out...denial should not be in your vocabulary..best of luck...Rick.Agreed!! I thought my son had ADHD but it didn't explain everything. When we found out about Asperger's it was a HUGE RELIEF to know that someone else shared similar difficulties and there was something we could do to help him. It doesn't change who they are in any way...it may help get them the right services. You are not out anything if you let the school do the testing, even if the teacher is wrong. So many of us have the opposite reaction of you...we want to know everything we can. Don't be afraid....you aren't getting into something new. Testing will not give her/ him an Autistic Spectrum Disorder, if they find it ...it already exists. Good luck.....bonniePlease for the sake of your child, get a diagnosis! When I was first told that my son may be autistic, I cried and cried and asked what I did wrong. I went through an entire grieving process for both my kids. Even now once in a while, when we've had a rough day, I go to sleep with tears. BUT, since getting our diagnosis and getting the PROPER help and therapies, my children have come so far! Early diagnosis and help is absolutely neccesary for your child's future. The earlier the better. The truth may hurt and you may feel like your losing your child, but if you don't start now trying to help your child, there could be a chance you WILL lose him to autism/pdd. He may close himself off completely without early intervention. I hope this helps you out. Rachelle [QUOTE=tzoya] They're not all head bangers and retarded. [/QUOTE]Not to try to sound harsh (though I find the words in this post I quote to draw a definate response out of me): Some of course, are "head bangers and retarded." and what then if you find that this is your child? What will you do? If this is the worst case scenerio and you do find yourself in it, then what? Do you turn this child away somehow because this one won't be a 'convinient' or 'easy' child? Or do you suck in your breath and take this child home, knowing this will be the one above all others who will be vulnerable and most needing of your love and protection and guidence -- *your parenting* -- and learn, get to know and to love this child? Having children (any children) the last time I looked, is not an easy or convinience-based experience to begin with. We are not talking about a carry-out fastfood meal, we are talking about children. As I see it the challenges of having *any* child are merely different one from another. *All* of them equally worthwhlie and to be treated and thought of with love and respect. Just what DO you do? Think about this, think it through. I know what I did and I don't regret. Theda -- proud mother to all of my kids -- but most especially of my 'head banger and retarded,' son, Stevie. |
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