My 2.5 yr old son cries uncontrollably just out of the blue. It's the kind of crying that's more like screaming or shrieking as if someone was putting a knife through him & it's so heart-wrenching, it's awful. I just hug him & pray or try to sing for him but sometimes it makes me cry with him because I just don't know what to do to for him. Fortunately, it doesn't happen frequently maybe about once a month on average. I used to think he was in extreme pain maybe in his head but I've noticed that sometimes he will stop suddenly if something distracts him like suddenly hearing the Barney tune or the front door opening. He hasn't done the laughing in many months.
Is this kind of crying/laughing a common thing? Have any of you experienced it with your children? Is there anything you know of that calms them?Could it be frustration? My ds is non-verbal and once in a blue moon when
I am not sure if screaming/crying is the same as the laughing but a lot who follow biomedical would suggest that the laughing like that is a yeast issue.
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Don't know if this will help anyone, but when my son gets on the whole crying and screaming thing (and when I try and ask him to stop he tells me he 'just can't') I find that holding his feet works really well at calming him - to the point that he often now asks me to hold his feet sometimes out of the blue.
I guess it's some sort of sensory thing - but it seems like it almost 'grounds' him.
Anyway - it usually works for us.
My son used to do this, not very often, but I remember the crying when he was under pressure or emotional duress.( like using the bathroom )and then he would think of something funny and start laughing. I also think a lot of people with Autism are more emotional than NT"s. His reactions were always to the extreme and still are at times. [QUOTE=equinn]
...It actually makes me angry. Some behaviors need to be nipped in the bud. He's just too big. It is difficult when you have a very smart kid who takes charge, decorates the whole outside house with lights humming silent night, rigging cords etc, that suddenly screams like a two-year old throwing a tantrum.
Please don't be angry with him no matter how old he is. I REALLY think it's involuntary - they CAN'T help it. It's sort of like having a siezure. In fact, the Pediatric Neurologist that saw my son said it's possible that these crying/screaming episodes may be mini-siezures of some sort. But all the tests, EEG, MRI came back negative so nobody can do anything about it.Daniel laughs at things that aren't funny. He has a rude attitude at times as well. Sadly I'm a screamer also. How do you get our kids to get the rude thing when even negative behaviors are a joke to him. Sharlet used to do this daily, she now still does laugh uncontrollably, often until she vomits. She does cry like that too sometimes but it has gotten less as she has gotten older and also the risperdal has helped immensely.
My ds replays clips in his head at any given time and sometimes it's funny scenes of anything. So, it will make him laugh out of the blue. I can ask him to recall any sitcom or movie and he will do it, easily, to tedium.
Latelly, we have a high piercing screech on this end that makes me shudder. It's usually an overload and feeling of helplessness, I know. Still, I reprimand and explain it's not fair to neighbors, someone will call police thinking somebody is really in trouble etc. He stops, listens and it seems to make sense to him (I think), but we still have a few of these. I tend to get overexcited about minor things (working on it) and so I think it takes it to heart. Still the screaming has got to STOP! He's too old (8!).
I remind him that I don't scream, that no one in our neighborhood screams and that this is not an appropriate response. I don't dare give him a consequence because this would result in further meltdown, more elaborate and extended. I just can't deal with it. I think just looking at him, jaw dropped, wide-eyed is enough. It stops him in his tracks. I literally treat his behavior, sometimes, as if he's flipped his lid. Maybe this is wrong. But, when I witness something nutty, I call him on it like a high piercing scream. I tell him "you're out of your mind...shoo...go away...go in the other room" and I know this is probably wrong, but it really shakes me up when he does this. It actually makes me angry. Some behaviors need to be nipped in the bud. He's just too big. It is difficult when you have a very smart kid who takes charge, decorates the whole outside house with lights humming silent night, rigging cords etc, that suddenly screams like a two-year old throwing a tantrum.
J laughs at the wrong time like the time J tried to drown T.