Frustration | Autism PDD

7 was the age when my son could no longer keep up with his class on homework, let alone in the classroom. It was always hard for him, and he took longer than the other kids, but at 7 it was just too much of a stretch and he was chronically stressed. We were forced to give him a break from homework for awhile, and then started up again with a lighter homework schedule and personalized assignments.

Do you see the same frustration problems with homework as the teacher sees in the classroom? If not, what is causing the difference? Calmer sensory environment? One-on-one assistance? Catches the instructions better? etc.

You can try and teach him how to handle his frustration more appropriately, but if his impulse control is a problem, then this would be tough for him to responsibility for.

Good luck with everything.

Daniel has never had patient so this is a big problem for him which was 1 reason I chose homeschool this year. I'm useing aop publisher except for math cause their stuff is created for those with attention problems. The science pack we use is in small amounts and he's laerning about Health this year. My main concern is the lack of willingness to do reports. I have seen in the past he can do it he just refuses here. He types poorly so what can I do.

I talked to Jacob's teacher today. I gave her this social skills check list to fill out. I plan on adding his deficits to his IEP. (For anyone who is interested, it looks to be a great form. I think I found it on here even!)

http://depts.washington.edu/dataproj/SocialSkillsChecklist11 -04.pdf

She told me his meeting all his goals with 80%, but........she is finding many more issues that need to be taken into consideration. The most frequent and troublesome---Frustration.

We know the academics is getting harder for him, which leads to frustration. He can not handle that. He rips up papers, yells, screams, etc. Even his peers tell him "It's OK Jacob, its not that bad" and "Calm down , Jacob". It must be from the friends who had him in class last year too and know him better.

How can the teacher and I go about decreasing the frustration level he gets to?

Im not sure, sorry! Someone will come along soon i hope and give you some ideas like maybe a break when hes starts getting worked up or maybe some tutoring for problem areas?

Im worried about my son as well who has a low frustration level. Hes only in preschool and its hard to get him to trace the alphabet of the week! Im worried how he will be once the demands are more there? I hope someone gives you some good advice and Jocob starts feeling better.

I wish I had seen this checklist earlier, were going to haydens dev ped app tomorrow i would have liked to have given this to the doc too.

143hayden39400.5968402778He might need some accommodations written into his IEP. Frequent Breaks, Shortened Assignments,( if he can do 5 math problems correctly, does he need to do 20) A Scribe if he has trouble with fine motor skills or Alternative to written assignments, Extended time to get work done, Break down of Assignments. ( accuracy vs speed) Oral testing if he has reading problems. No timed testing if anxiety is a problem. sensory breaks if his frustrations bring on stims. You will have to find out what exactly brings on his frustrations first. The Schools behaviorist should be able to watch your child in classroom and get information from his Teachers on when this behavior occurs and come up with a plan to help him. My son has a behavior chart in which he gets rewards for completing work, that along with his accommodations and a sensory diet that is implemented with his breaks have done wonders for him. Your son might be overwhelmed with everything he needs to do in School everyday, some small changes could really help him. How is he after School? Before my sons plan was in place, he was a real monster when he came home from School. now that has improved greatly and we are starting to do some homework again without a meltdown.

Loki has some great suggestions. My 8 year old experiences MAJOR frustrations, and what she stated are some of the very things he has in his IEP, and it has helped a lot for him.

He is also allowed to chew gum ... for some reason the chewing gum helps him focus more.

I agree with Loki too.I would talk to the teacher about breaking it down and also bringing in a resource teacher to maybe take him to a quite room and do 1:1 with him to do his work without all the other things like noise/lights/kids to distract him..

I have to bribe Sarah to do her work which works very well most times...sometimes she just has her own agenda and I am very aware she is capable of doing the work..if she is highly upset then I allow her to answer only one or two questions at a time & take a break but always bring her back to it. She is only in first grade so when she gets older this will only get harder for her. I hope by then she is more motivated by then:)

Mason's frustration has been getting worse too. Looks like it could be a part of the age. But we were seeing it increasing with school and anything related, but now it seems to be bleeding over into everything. My poor guy gets frustrated with EVERYTHING and is constantly saying "I can't."

I am constantly trying to tell him he can, being very positive with things. We have learned with Mason that he needs these breaks, and sometimes very frequent breaks, from things that even he can do fairly easily. We found out that a bean bag chair with a weighted blanket really relaxes him...sometimes so much that he falls asleep, but we just go with that right now. But he has recently just started to ask for the bean bag when he feels the frustration coming on. This is huge!! I am also reminding him to use his words. I feel like I say that 1000 times a day, but that constant reminder is helping the frequent flopping to the floor when he is getting frustrated. The teacher and I are starting to get a good read on how intense this frustration is. Mason likes to chew things, so sometimes giving him a piece of gum when he is starting to get frustrated helps. We have also used a squishy ball that he holds and squeezes. This works great for him in times when there is a lot of verbal going on. It keeps him calm enough to at least sit and hear it out. Where before all the verbal was so overwhelming he would immediately start acting up, just to get himself out of that environment.

I'm just giving you some ideas by telling you what has helped us. I hope you can get something out of this!! Good luck and keep us posted.