Hmmm I musta skipped over "nbsp" sorry. I believe the family as a "whole" should be included in ALL of this. Therapy or counseling should be at no extra cost for those of us who are almost ready to divorce. It is just sooo hard to cope with everything that entails umm ASD? I think I got that right. (lol) To hafta deal with a hubby who is always finding things for you to do all the time..just makes me NutSo! Sorry about hubby issue; it is too common - on all sides of spouse spectrum. He really needs some ABA or like training. ONLY positive intervention will help - never threats or punishments (unless really life threatening). You also may want to explore local NPS non-profits that specialize withing ASD; they qualify for FAPE and district pays under IDEA. Also explore WRIGHTSLAW website for education on your rights under IDEA and related laws. Her mild assessment probably does not qualify for inclass aide (shadow) so it becomes a serious issue for her behavior support plan part of her IEP in a general education or so called inclusion classroom. While this is the ideal under NCLB theory, it is far from generally effective in current district practices. (a Spec Ed teacher)
Thanks for the quick response!
So far, our daughter is only getting help thru Occupational Therapy,Physical Therapy and Speech Therapy at her school....we have recently found out about her PDD so this is a whole new ball of wax for us!!
We are currently going thru the steps of getting a "Wrap Around" for her
Hello, I am new to these boards. My daughter is 7 and was recently diaginosed with mild PDD/autism. Lately, she seems to be "going backward" instead of forward (by this I mean acting much younger than she is) and has started school (public). She has been having meltdowns of tears and cannot settle down! My husband had to leave work to get her because she did not want to be at school (second day of classes) and today she acted up again and I fear she will have to be removed again!!
This is extremely frustrating as both my husband and I have full-time jobs (we struggle paycheck to paycheck) and this isn't helping matters much! Suggestions and thoughts mean a lot!!!
Thanks
Welcome to the board!
Does your child have an IEP?
If she does, what does it say will happen when she has a meltdown? I am certainly hoping that it does not say that her parents will come and get her, or she will quickly learn that she doesnt have to stay at school if she acts out. I know that their is a BIG difference between her having behaviors she can not control and learning that she can go home if she acts out, but the IEP needs to have a firm plan regarding what will happen.
Has the school done a behavioral assessment? If not, you may want to request one. Have you contacted other parents in your area? I strongly suggest that you do, they will know the in's and out's of your system and how to get your DD the correct supports so she can receive her FAPE.
My heart goes out to your family.
Actually, there were a few.....my daughter had a tutor last year who was a little harsh with her and it didn't help that she looked a bit scary (hehe), so my daughter was convinced that she was going to have her again this grade and that lady retired already.....the fire alarms, and so onYou may also want to find out if there's a particular time of day that it "happens" or if there was an "event" that happened that started it. For us last year, 2nd grade, Gym class became an unbearable thing for Riley, group that with the lunch of 3 grades that he had prior to gym, and the noise etc. scared the bejesus out of him...crying before school and even the night before became a daily thing...basically, it was complete panic that "froze" him....this year he's doing much better with a smaller class.I am happy to report although she had a meltdown when she got to school, her tutor worked with her for several classes and the rest of the day went well. I made sure to give her lots of praise when she got home
I agree strongly as well. Giving in will not solve anything---only make it worse
Thanks all---this is a great support group
You may want to consider family work with a PSychologist, that can help you both 'sort' out things and agree upon the 'rules'. The Child Psych we see says she treats the entire family unit. This sort of goes along with the thread here about us moms feeling it mostly falls on us to fight the fight..........
It seems as if you may (or not) want to reevaluate what you expect from the school and your DD's IEP. I know that some school are excellent and a parent never has to even ask for support services, evaluations, etc.. You can think about it and ask yourself if your DD has everything in place to assure she is able to participate in her frree and appropriate education. If you feel she needs to have the functional behavioral assessment and then the ARC can use that data to develop a behavior plan to address her meltdowns. You will need to call for the ARC to meet and make a formal request to start the process. This is just my opinion and I am just a Mommy, no credentials and no initials after my name (well mabe TIRED), we didnt sleep well AGAIN last night.
Guess what??? My husband has taken it upon himself to keep he home today as she has had another meltdown
He says he is not playing games with her today and is telling her she will go to a new school tomorrow if she does this again (not really, of course)---this is one of our busy days at work and she is really obnoxious
This is absolutely awful as we are arguing
Anybody go thru this?? I am trying to get her out the door, dispite her acting this way and my husband is not helping the matters any
The school is very aware that she is autistic, but they don't seem to know how to deal with her crying spells...this is a public school with some autistic programs (pt,ot,st)
Unfortunately, between him and his parents, it gets difficult with our daughter
Had to vent
I have some good news--- our daughter is not crying as much the past few days and is now actually looking forward to her classes!
Now if we could only get her to eat---she is given money for lunch everyday, but either won't give it to the lunch lady or loses it, or hides it in her desk
at least there is some progress with her getting out the door the past few days
Hang in there as daddy's are very important for their sons. Life is much more complicated if you are on your own, and separation should be avoided for your son's sake if possible.
However, when they start finding things for you to do all the time it rags on you. My ex got to be so bad that when it became grocery day, he would recite everything (I mean everything!) for me to get at the store as he was going out the door. I really had a hard time maintaining my self-esteem and confidence because he was always there to tell me a better way to do something. Husbands need to learn to "mind their own business" (just like we all do).
Terrell...CONGRATS! That's a big step! Just getting them there is a start! She must have a good teacher that's making it a little easier and more comfortable for her.