Daughter being picked on | Autism PDD

My 5 year old DD started Kindergarten last week and has been riding the school bus. The problem is today she was on the bus crying and got off looking really sad and upset. I asked her what happened and she pointed at a boy that rides her bus that he called her ugly and said her drawings were stupid. I've tought her not to pay attention to rude kids, but I could tell she is very upset and hurt. Also she is very friendly and seems to be having a hard time making friends for some reason. Ever since school started she has become withdrawn and sad all the time. I feel so bad for her and I know that I should let her figure it all out for herself but I cant help but feel like I need to protect and stand up for her. I was wondering if anyone else has had this happen to there children and what did you do that seemed to help? Thanks

Candy, Oh I am so sorry to hear this!!!!! Now I know that my advise will be wrong, because as a child I was often bullied (very poor, chubby kid from a DIVORCED family). I would call the teacher and discuss this with her and if it continues I would ask for a copy of the bullying policy. That is probably a overreaction because I KNOW how horrid it is to have someone mistreat you and you are helpless to stop it.

I know the others will give great advise and I hope that everything will smooth out soon so she can enjoy her school! You tell her her cyberaunt Jean says that her drawings are incredible and anyone that doesnt think so is no art lover!!!!!! I feel comfortable asying that even though I have never seen her drawings

i know this sounds crazy but it does work especially at there age and you need to stamp on this now while there little i agree though it may be wise to call the teacher just to make her aware that there is a issue.If this continues try a home school diary which won't stop the bullying but will help you pin point when it is happening and therefore enable school staff to interveen more appropriately.another suggestion which kind of ties in with the first one is to try and talk to the other childs parents and i know this is difficult(my 8 yo has been bullied at school too)try to keep calm and so the kids that your not happy but your not hitting and been mean.Its awful when your child is been picked on and i remember my mum saying to ds names don't hurt you and he turned round and said "names hurt me inside on my feelings" and that just broke my heart but we worked with the teacher and things are better now at school

good luck i hope things get better soon for you

Thanks for the support and suggestions, Jean I told her what you said and her face lit up and she says thank you

I'm going to talk to the teacher today, and the bus driver is also aware of the situation. Jade likes having friends so she thinks anyone that talks to her is her friend, so I'm trying to tell her that anyone that hurts your feelings isnt your friend, I hope she will be able to enjoy the rest of the school year. The thing that disturbed me is Jade said that he told her he was doing it because he was a popular boy and wanted to stay popular!! He is only 5

If it contiunues I will talk to the parents and discuss what has been going on. I hope it all works out.Thanks

My daughter (now 7) is very shy. She is friendly but has great difficulty making friends and being in social situations. I spoke with her teacher about this and my concerns and her teacher happily monitored her in class and would encourage her to play with the girls and the girls to invite her to play. She would also pair my daughter up with another girl in the class she thought would be a good friend and sometimes switch it so my daughter got to meet and make other friends. By the end of the school year she had made wonderful friends with all the kids in her class and even had a little crush on one of the boys!!! Now she has been redistricted to a different school and has to leave all her friends and classmates behind (I think ONE MIGHT have been redistricted with her) So we will see how it goes, and I have already spoken to the teacher about how shy she is.

Regarding the bus - my son has had difficulty being teased. I am fortunate the bus driver is SO wonderful, all I have to do is mention to her he had whatever happen and was extremely upset and she will move the kids assigned seats. If you don't know the driver, maybe you can at least jot down a note to explain the situation and ask for help. (keep a copy of the note)

I found now in anything we do with our kids NT or not DOCUMENT EVERYTHING! Unfortunately seems the schools don't really care about the kids anymore like they used to.... its a job, they are there for the paychecks, and anymore these day most people want to do as little as they have to for that paycheck!

I hope with you haveing spoken to the school already everythign will be resolved and run smoothly from here on out. Good Luck!