If you have time, I would find a copy of the book called "The Kissing Hand" My ds is higher functioning like yours is, and Korban understands the concept at his age(2). It is a story of a racoon who has to leave his mommy to go to school, and each time they part, they kiss each others' palms, so when they are lonely for the other person...er, animal...they just put their hand on their cheek for a kiss. Korban and I do it, and dh has told me that when he gets sad that I am not there, he reminds ds to put my kiss on his cheek. It's a cute thing that I do with both of my kids now, but it's "our thing." And we use it all the time, like with my 5 yr. old NT dd when she went to Kindergarten for the 1st time...
Hope this idea helps, hang in there, things like this are usually way more traumatizing to the mommies than the kids, God bless them, they are so resilient!
Hugs,
Kristi
Ok, so with my job, I have to travel once every 3-4 months or so. I have been able to keep from traveling for 5 months now but I will have to make a trip to NY in early Dec. Normally, it wouldn't bother me to travel. I feel incredibly guilty about leaving my husband and son at home alone but they are always fine w/o me, which is great. Most of the time, the trips are a welcome break from home life.
Not this time. I don't want to go. I will be gone for 5 days and I was having to fill out the travel paperwork today and started crying. I just don't want to go b/c Ash is doing so well and he's old enough now to really understand that I won't be there for 5 days. I know that I have to go but do any of you know how best to prep him for it? I want to talk to him about it and maybe do some type of calendar. I will also let his school know.
I am just so upset about it this time around. That's all.
Mindy
Wow, Kristi, That's a great idea. We love to read so I think Ash would love that idea!! I will have to get the book!
I also thought about a web cam. I can set it up to use it from the hotel I think but I didn't know if it would cause too many issues. Ash is very visual. I think it's mostly "Out of site, Out of mind" for him. What do you think?
Mindy
I think it's up to you. You are the one person in the world that knows your little angel the best. I know that Korban is very reward driven, so maybe if Ash knows that if he gets ready for bed like a good boy, mommy will help "tuck him in" might work great. For Korban, the visual of me would make the night too rough for dh since I am such a security blankie for him, so dh specifically doesn't dwell or dote on "I miss mommy" moments, just reminds him about the kiss I left for him and re-directs. I think it depends on the kid, to sum up the babbling, and remember how much better you know ash than any of us!