Asking for re-eval-- how to handle???

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	J really needs to be re-evaluated.  How should I ask his mom, as politely as possible, to persue this?Hello, anyone??? Just say that you're noticing he is still doing ....yada yada - has she thought about re-visiting the issue? don't know!   My son's ST brought me a book on SID ... and suggested that she saw some traits and suggested I get him evaluated.  She didn't say the "A" word at the time (although that is what she suspected), but just wanted to give me that little push to get it done. I cannot thank her enough for doing that.  I thought all people with autism were like Dustin Hoffman in Rainman.  I did not understand it was a spectrum disorder whatsoever.  I was really in a deep denial.   It's a sticky situation...I'm not sure how I would handle it but.....maybe you could say something to the effect htat you still have concerns about J, then tell her what you're still concerned about that you see while he is in your care..Does he have Early Intervention" or is he getting any therapy elsewhere? If so you could ask how therapy or EI is going. I thought with child find the school are supposed to be on the look out for kids who are developmentally delayed.  If it has been a year just tell her that he need to be reevaluated to see how much, if any, progress he has made.  I wonder if, as a daycare provider, it would be acceptable for you to call child find. I read your ealier posts regarding J.  I replied to them, but I am replying again.  I would suggest asking her if she has noticed him doing (insert behavior here) at home because he has been doing (insert behavior) while at your house.  Ask here if she has noticed any improvement in (insert delays here) since the eval last year.  The schools will not always push for medical evals because it would require them to provide services.  I ran into that when I suggested something was off about Shawn's interaction with his peers.  I was told for a YEAR that they were evaluating him.  My husband at the time didnot push the issues and I was deployed.  My son was not diagnosed until he was 9.  Really push the issue with J's mom.  I know you said that you were afraid she would be mad at you, but it is really in J's best interest to get support as soon as possible.  Be gentle but firm.  Try to phrase any conversation in a non-judgemental manner.  Just point out what you have noticed while he is in your care and that you are very concerned.  Then suggest that she get a second opinion about the evaluation. Hope this may help.   God Bless If you're getting no help from mom, maybe you can call the school....they are responsible for Child Find and anyone can clue them in.  This includes for reevals. The worst they can do is blow you off. The truth is, the Mom is in charge.  If you get too involved, your advice might backfire and she might become stubborn and not seek help at all. If the child becomes too much for you to handle, you can always do the "final" talk and tell her that if he doesn't get help, you won't be able to take him on any longer.  I know you don't want to do that, but that's the emergency back-up plan that you may be pushed to, eventually. Some dr.'s don't send people to Ei I know a lady all her boys were late talkers and now is here grandson. Their dr. said don't worry. He is over 2 but yet not 3. Some dr. think let a child grow as is. It is so frustrating for me.  My husband and my mom keep telling me that I've done all that I can do and that I need to stop obsessing over it.  And deep down I even know that too.  But, I just can't help it.    It is not my nature to be able to just let it go.  I just wish they would "believe it" and get him more services. Thanks for all of the advice.  I just don't know what to do.  Would the mother really rather go another year and let him get farther behind?  Of course not.  I just wonder if maybe she is still concerned and would be relieved to hear how concerned I still am????????  Who knows!  Maybe it will all work out. Since "J" is only 2, and mom doesn't seem to see anything wrong, I believe you have done all you can and just need to step back. If it is any comfort to you, I didn't open my eyes either to this until my son was 3 1/2.  It gets more obvious with age.  Once I had my lighbulb moment, I jumped in with both feet and he has made great progress.   Sadly some parent's don't care. The ones of us who do, have the hardest time getting all the services our kids need. What makes it worse is that ins. doesn't cover asd therapies enough either. Some areas only can do stuff 1 time a week like small towns cause the countey shares therapist with all the schools in that area. Here' it's that way.
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