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My son who is now six seems to get better in some areas but then he gets
worse in other areas. He still can not wipe himself, plus he holds it in until
the last moment. He has been watching my nephew playing football and he
thinks when he plays with his friends he will copy the football moves. How
do you let them watch sports, TV and not have them repeat what they see?
He also has to repeat things mostly when he is excited. "When are we going
pumpkin picking" over and over. Then he likes to know how many days over
and over again. My question is how do you know how to help or just have
the right answers? I just feel so helpless sometimes because I don't know
how to help him with certain situations when he can't help it himself! I don't
know if anyone understands what I saying but if you do PLEASE write back!!
THANKS!

As far as asking over and over again, I have been taking this class on autism/aspergers, and they said that if they do this:

1) answer the question the first time

2) have him answer his own question the second time

3) ignore after the second time

As far as bathroom issues, my son also does that, but he is only 4 so I haven't thought much about it. Since kids on the spectrum tend to get dependent on prompting, I have just been letting him wait til the last second and see what happens. He still has a few accidents, but it seems like he is getting better. It seems like the more I ask if he has to go, the longer he will try to hold it. So I'm trying to give the responsibility over to him. We went grocery shopping today and had to run to the bathroom 3 times, but he actually had to go each time. Then he won't go for hours and hours at a time. hth

We had an excellent discussion on repetitive questioning earlier this year. Here's the link to the topic, in case you want to read it. Lots of tips.

http://www.autism-pdd.net/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=12693&am p;KW=tomatoes+grapes

As far as the bathroom issues go, we use wet wipes to make it easier for our kids to wipe. If you can describe the problem your son has, maybe someone can come with some other tips.

When you say holding it until the last minute, are you talking about bowel movements or urine?

My 6 year old son is always waiting till the last minute to pee, and ends up getting a little in his pants. Boy does that get old. I think the best way to deal with that is to have good routines for going to the bathroom in transition situations -- we always go potty as soon as we come home, before dinner, etc. etc. It's healthiest for kids to go at least every 3 hours, but of course some kids need to go more often than that, and that makes it harder to build into the routine.

Here's a link to my potty resources links. You might find something helpful there.

http://www.autism-pdd.net/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=16098&am p;KW=potty+resources

Good luck with everything!

Daniel whose 11 at times still dose that. I think they just don't want to stop and go. Some kids inner parts also not as developed as the outside parts are. There is a Test for that. Daniel holds himself at times and has a little dance he he needs to go. 1 day/ 1 minute at a time mom's! Daniel uses a bthroom lots but he also drinks a lot also. Thanks you guys!

My J. still does not wipe. J. Leaves a Nice strip in her underwear and I won't scrub that out, yuck. I have a washer for that.

[QUOTE=amberwaves] My J. still does not wipe. J. Leaves a Nice strip in her underwear and I won't scrub that out, yuck. I have a washer for that. [/QUOTE]

... and lots of oxyclean!

I have one who won't wipe, and another who uses half the roll of TP and clogs the toilet regularly. And one in the middle ... but then, he leaves the seat down and pees on it.

Nick asks questions too, over and over. He will be looking at a picture in another room and ask "is this a ______" (whatever it is) over and over and over and over again until he gets an answer. He will even do it with his brothers. "Mom, is this Michael" over and over and over until I answer "yes - it is Michael."