I AM SO UPSET | Autism PDD

I know it sucks. i was making no where near that. i stil lhave 1 boy that will start back in sept. and his mom knows about mason and so does he and they have no problem being here.

mason is the same way he does not realize he is being rought with someone. but nothing happend while she was here. she was just in fear of it over her little girl. but did not care that her other daughter was here.

Oh how I can relate..... I also did at home daycare for 3 years and one of the mothers was a relative of mine which sometimes is even worse!!! I was hearing through the family grapevine that she was making comments about my son and his behavior. At the time we had no idea he was autistic so I was doing everything in my power to get him to behave along with doing daycare and taking care of my own baby!!! Well she would always make rude comments about him not wearing clothes because her child was a girl so I fought my son day in and day out to have clothes on while her child was here and it was awful the stress I was putting him through just to keep her happy. Well she even went so far to tell other people she knew that were looking for daycare that I was great with kids but.....my son acted like an animal and wouldn't keep his clothes on so on so forth. It went so far as every time her child threw a fit or acted bad that it was from being around my son!!!! That she was learning this behavior from him which she may have, but if you have a problem with that take her someplace else!! Any how I haven't watched her in about a year and we were all at a family gathering not to long ago and her dauhgter was TERRIBLE!!!!!!! She was hitting other kids and taking toys away telling her mom to shut up and spitting at her!!!! The child is 3 by the way. The whole time we were there my son was (thank goodness) perfect!!!! He even tried to redirect her when she was being nauhgty!!!!! LOL so I felt like I kinda got the last laugh because her child is NT and now acts worse than my child who isn't!!!!! Just thought I would share!!!

Nita

well that was another one of my problems cuz it took evrything to get mason dressed. he liked to run around in his underwear and since they were girls she did not think it was appropriate. so i told her to try to get him dressed. she did not like that.

What a terrible situation.

Maybe it is for the best, you are right if the child fell or accidently got hurt while in your care the parents would have placed blame on your son.

Mason IS Mason and you love'm with all your heart!

the thing is with keith, is that he does not understand he is hurting another child. he may hug too hard, or he pushes his siter down b/c she is just stating to walk and he is afraid she will fall, so he'd rather knock her over instead.

regardless, it ends now that i can not have a licensed childcare in my home for 18 years! and i was making 00.00 per month at the time.

kate

here is my story. i have been doing child care for 5 years. for the last 2 years i have been doing just before/after school. i have had one girl since last summer. she is like a daughter to me and she is 10. well in may we got my son dx with autism and severe adhd/and SI. well in august her sister who is 4 was going to start with me and i would be taking here back and forth to preschool starting in sept. well the first week of august the mother calls me freaking out and saying that she is not comfortablw with emily coming thinking Mason would do something to her. so i told here that is she was not comfortable then i did not want to keep her. then she starting getting upset saying i cant beleive you are not going to watch her. she had already given notice at the other day care. and had no where else to go.

well 2 weeks later on monday she started i thought everything was ok. then on friday the dad came in and asking 101 questions about mason and how he acts with emily. i answered his questions truthfully i told him mason has his moments he has temper tantrums. he throws fits. but he has never hurt a child to be mean.

so i made it a point upon my self and called the preshcool that emily would be attending and they said they could start her full time on monday. so i thought great. so i called her and told her this since i could tell that they were still concerned about mason. she went haywire. stating they were looking and could not understand why i am not giving her any notice. i said that she could start on monday she did not need any notice that this is the shool she was going to part time for preschool so whats the problem. anyways she took her other daughter with her. after having her for over a year with no problems.

she brought a letter to me and stated that i terminated care before a two week notice. and that i should consider a new profession and not keep children anymore.

so for over a year i was the best child care provider for her 1 daughter but once her youngest started she had a problem that something would happen. (due to mason having a disablity) she keept saying that about mason how mason IS?

Well how IS Mason. mason has autism and he will have it for his life.

so i am just very upset that she did this to me and my son i cant beleive she did not trust her daughter here with my son but still wanted me to watch her for 2 more weeks. so what if she fell and hurt herself she could sue me and said my son did it. Yea Right. i ams soooooo upset.

thanks for letting me vent.

It never ceases to amaze me... how some people respond to our truly special kids.

What a complete jerk of a mother!! I'm so sorry that happened to you and Mason. I just don't know what in the world people are thinking. It does sound like you're better off without her....but that doesn't help the sting.

We're with you!

pat

I'm so sorry that happened!! As others have said, though -- you're better off without her. Sounds like she was more of a potential liability anyway. Can't imagine what she's teaching her daughter about being accepting of people with disabilities. How sad that she took a situation where she could have taught her daughter something very special and decided instead to teach her that people with disabilities can't be trusted. I mean, it doesn't take a child with a diability to hurt another child! Kids in my school beat up on each other all the time and they weren't autistic! (Just MEAN!) Cyndie,

I'm upset for you

. Unfortunately, there are some people who just don't understand and don't take the time to understand. It gets harder when our kids get older because people see teenagers and young adults.

I'm sorry this happened and am glad you came out here to vent--we understand.

Hang in there--maybe there is another child out there that needs your care so this just opened up the door for them to come to you--trying to think positive for you.

Robin

I am sorry too. Fear is such a terrible thing. People assume so much just because our kids have a label.

There are just as many kids out there who are nt who are little pains. I had one nt girl attack my son when he was two and bite him and scratch him so badly that he cried for over an hour. His face was covered in marks and her mother's only response was "I thought she had stopped doing that."

There is no way that we can change people's prejudices overnight but as more of our kids are mainstreamed and as our advocating gets results, I hope that it will improve.

Hugs to you both, these sort of people just aren't worth the worry.

thanks all for listening. i know im better with out her, but its hard cuz the older daughter was like a daughter to me. very special. sorry it took her mother to screw everything up.