is it abuse if you KNOW your child is autistic and do not want them labeled so you do not pursue getting her the meds, structure, school, and other therapies she needs. i have a friend that feels all of these are crutches and she does not want her dd labeled and will not pursue benefits for her... makes me feel like she thinks i am a mooch, or that i WANT my child labeled..... she just expects her dd to COPE and LEARN TO DEAL with the abilities that she does have.....
what is your feeling?
kate
I do not feel that it is abuse. It's a shame though if her child really needs these therapies and such. I do however believe that everyone handles these things differently. Just like every child is different....so is every parent. I really don't consider it abuse though as long as she is taking care of her child properly as far as clothes..food..love and nurturing etc.
Karrie
oh, she takes good care of the girl. it's just hard to watch her ground her all the time for mis behaving, when i think it is really beyond the childs control.
Its sad but maybe not abuse, just lack of realizing the true nature of what her daughter may have...I feel for the girl because of the lack of therapy and help...does the mom work w/ her? Is it more like denial that she has it or is she just thinking it will stop w/ some discipline...that makes me sad too...did she get a dx?
sorry for the questions...hope she gets the help she needs!
hugs,
Ali
Hi
Does she talk? Does she understand what you are saying to her? How old is she? IF the Mother KNOWS she is lacking in something, she really should TRY to get her daughter the help she NEEDS. It is not easy to accept the fact that there is something wrong with your child. However, we hafta accept and get that child the help he/she deserves. Early intervention is the key!
she does walt and talk. she is 13 and really a difficult child. she does ok in school- c-d average. but she is constantly being compared to her brother. the mom knows that she has ODD, ADHD, and she scored her on that PDD questionnare and the child got 130+.she steals, throws away the brothers homework and retainers, chases the cat, screams and thinks nobody loves her, and is constantly looking for approval from parents and peers. it is just so sad to me, b/c she knows that my son is hfa/adhd and she just does not want the stigmatism placed on her dd. i would rather have the label and help than to expect my child to grow and become a part of society that constantly makes them feel inferior, instead of exceptional......you know what i mean.
there is a reason that our children are challenged, i think it is cruel to try to fit a square peg into a round hole. i would rather know that i can do so much with a sqare peg, and make it the most stable square peg that i am capable of making it. you know?
sorry if i turned this into a vent. i just don't know where neglect comes in.........
kate