more than one child with autism | Autism PDD

Well, as you can see from my siggy, that I have certain issues with all 3 of my children.

My middle son is more then likely undiagnosed Aspergers.  He has so many of the symptoms and characteristics, but I never had him formally evaluated.  He was just this year educationally classified as "LD", and so far that has helped him tremendously in school, as he gets extra help in SPED.

Honestly, as terrible as this sounds, if #3 was #1, I don't know if I would have had more children.  I love my boys unconditionally, but it is hard as a single mom to spread myself so thin.  I do DO IT though ... and I have to pat myself ont he back ... I do it well.

My children have different fathers as well, so it is obviously on my side genetically for a pre-disposition to mental illness.  I have no maternal history (I was abandoned by my mother at age 2).  My father's side has no history of any mental illness. 

We had planned our second child before our son was diagnosed.Once we got the DX we started thinking about not having anymore but just as I was accepting that and only 2 months after the news, I was pregnant again. Kerri it's genetic. J has Asperger's and T is showing signs

My oldest has add with some aspergers traits.  My 4 year old has pdd-nos. My 2 year old has speech disorder and sensory processing issues - probably pdd-nos.  I didn't get a dx for the 4 year old until my baby was 9 months old.  We definately won't be having more kids but we were done anyway after 3 boys!!!

 I have 3 boys 2 are on the spectrum but it's worked out wonderfully for us, it was a blessing in disguise.

Good luck - I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.

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I have also thought about adopting, but I don't want another child to think we adopted them just to take care of Daniel when we are gone, or because Daniel isn't good enough (neither is true). I have always wanted 2 children. 

And I don't think I could handle 2 children on the spectrum right now. My husband always being deployed, and trying to get my son the services he needs is so tough. I know some of you go through 10x what I do in a day,  but everyone has their breaking point and I know mine, lol.

Well I have two boys on the spectrum and a daughter who is not.

When we got pregnant with our 2nd son we were still not sure what the problem was with Gabriel. He got his diagnosis when Alex was six months old. The pediatrician had already been watching Alex and saw red flags by eight months old he was referred to ECI, Neuro, etc etc. He has been all but officially diagnosed because we are still awaiting all the full testing but he has been said to be classic autism by everyone who looks at him and examines him.

I was told once you have child on the spectrum that when you have another boy its a one in four chance they will also be on it and only one in ten if the child is a girl. I don't know what the numbers really are just going by what our doctors told us.

We are now expecting twins and worrying about it. But... God had a plan for this happening and we discovered it when I went to have my tubes tied actually lol.

I have 3 girls and 1 boy. The only one on the spectrum is my son. He didn't get dx'd until older and my youngest is only 20 mo behind him---and we knew she was totally NT early on---especially when she was already playing pretend with the kitchen set by 15 mo!!!

My 11yo has some issues--but alot of the similarities with my son are due to anxiety and sensory issues. But she is not ASD.

I only have one child with PDD and my soon to be ex hubby and I decided to not have more children because the chances of having another on the spectrum are 1 in 10 his pediatric neurologist told us.

My question is if I ever remarry will I want to have more kids? I just don't know. I would not change my son for anything but on the other hand I can't iimagine 2 with ASD...................

Two of my three are on the spectrum and the other one has developmental delays.

My four year old son is diagnosed with pdd:nos.

When he was 14 months old I became pg with twin boys.  Of course this was all before I knew about autism.

I watched them like hawks and sure enough for one I called EI for an assessment on gross moter at 8 months when he was not rolling over.  and they tested him and he had delays in all areas.  although after three months of therapy he caught up in all areas except for social skills (i guess that happens when you have two sibs who dont speak or interact)

  The other twin I saw signs around 10 months.  much more then the other twin.  he had almost the same symptoms as my older son.  He was diagnosed with pdd at 11 months old now.  we started therapy right away.

dh and i want to have one more child.  i often battle with the thought of having another asd child.  could i handle it??? i dont know so for now we are waiting.

 

 

Both of my boys are on the spectrum.  They are on different ends of the spectrum, so raising each of them presents it's own challenges.  I hate to compare the two of them, but it's like apples and oranges.My two year old has signs but he is very, very social and has an expansive and very articulate vocabulary. He does hand flap, he is a poor sleeper, he gets very aggressive and impossible to discipline. He displays echolalia often.  I'm really thinking he may have Asperger's like his father. I have a 1yr old boy and live in fear he will have ASD.  So far so good.  He has always turned to his name and started pointing this week.  I never had a child that pointed this young, it's so cute.  Anyways, I really understand your paranoia and fear.  Do you best, keep your eyes open, and don't let it stop you from enjoying a moment!I am getting my youngest, who recently turned 2, tested tomorrow.  His 5 year old sister just got a PDD-NOS dx and his brother is showing some concerning traits.  I think the youngest is just a speech thing, but I want to know for sure. So far out of our two children only our 4 year old son has Autism.I can't help but be paranoid that one day our 2 year old daughter will show signs.Plus I am due in December 07 to have another baby boy.We are so thrilled to be getting a second chance at raising a boy hopefully who doesn't develop Autism.(not meaning any disrespect to our son now,cause we love him!!)
I see at lot of posts from parents with more than one child on the spectrum.

Kerri I have another daughter whom I think has developmental delays. she is 16 months old , just started walking , says mama & baba only, points & her eye contact is good.
Again, I'm still worried , doesn't she have to have more words. Do I have to get her tested becoz my 1st was diagnosed with ASD???????????

i have 5 children and only one on the spectrum he is my 4th child and my 5th child is 3 yrs old and doesnt show any signs he does however love to copy his brother and this is maybe what some people see as concerning behaviour in a child after having an autistic child that younger children often appear to show signs when in fact they are just emulating there older brother which is afterall what brothers and sisters do i dont have any concerns at all with my 5th child .I have 2 on the Spectrum, 7 and 5 yrs old, . I know that this is still very controversial but I wouldnt let them give my newborn any shots right after the child is born, knowing what I know now. My take on the situation is that our kids have so many allergies to different things these days that who is to say giving them shots at 1 and 2 days old would not hurt them. How do the Drs. know that our newborns are not going to have an allergic reaction to the shots, they dont, they cant know at that early age. If I had to do it all over again I would refuse shots until the kids were much older and had been tested for allergies and then and only then would I do shots that were spaced apart and green!!! But that is just me. Good Luck with your little ones and God Bless! I have 2 children on the spectrum (both have a genetic duplication of 15q in an area that has a known association with ASD).  My DH is also on the spectrum (same genetic duplication).  DH has a cousin on the spectrum (ditto on the duplication); and that cousin has two children on the spectrum (same genetic duplication).I have 2 on the spectrum, 1 boy, 1 girl. Both have a dx
of PDD. My son was dx'd very early at 19 months. He was
on target with all of his milestones but never developed
speech or language. My DD was delayed from the time she
was 6 months old. At 6 months she was dx'd low tone,
couldn't sit and crawled and walked very late. Later,
other issues emerged. She wasn't using her hands because
she depended on them for support while sitting so she
qualified for OT. At a year she had no speech or
language, would sit in silence, and was still eating baby
food qualifying her for speech. Around 15 months she
began banging her head on the wall and thrashing in her
stroller, had no eye contact, didn't respond to her name.
After a psych eval she was dx'd at 16 months.

There definitely is a familial aspect if not genetic. I'm
not the only one on here with more than one, look how
many others posted first. There are tons of ASD sibs at
my kids' school as well. Just be aware and don't drive
yourself too crazy with milestones.
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