Yes! My son has a fixation for DVD boxes. He takes them in the car and has to leave them when he goes into school. I save the very same ones he chose that morning and give them to him after school. It makes him very happy. I feel that he feels like I am respecting his feelings because it is hard for him to leave them behind.
[QUOTE=zayzer]I feel that he feels like I am respecting his feelings because it is hard for him to leave them behind.[/QUOTE]
Exactly! T acts so grateful that I understand her!!!
I was just thinking of an example of this, and how much meaning it carries, for T.
One day her toy horses were by the front door, so I took them with me and gave them to her, when I picked her up from school. She was so touched, it has become a regular gesture, between us!
Do you do anything like this, to communicate with your child or children?
Wow -- I see a huge trend here with the DVD cases! I had no idea -- thought my kids had an idiosyncrasy going. I don't let them take them out, but they ALWAYS want to hold a case while they watch TV -- even other movies.
I just think it is interesting how responsive our kids are, to nonverbal stuff like that. Yo ucna develop some nice "games" or rituals, based on it.
That is very nice, foxl. I'll have to pay more attention to my son in that way. That is beautiful communication.Most young kids carry dolls or action figures or the like with them when they go out....Ali carries leaves, DVD cases, plastic spoons, etc. with her when we go out. People look at her like she is insane, I just smile.
Ali had gotten into a routine of getting as many bubbles as possible on her arms and hands before she gets out of her bath (only way she will bathe is in a bubble bath) and when she gets out she shakes the bubbles all over the place. If there are no bubbles left at the end of her bath she flips out. Well, on the rare occassion she forgets the bubbles on her hands & arms, before she can remember and get upset, I reach in and grab up some bubbles and put them on her and she smiles a huge smile and shakes them all over the place. The first time I did this she said "awww, thank you mommy...but now you're gonna get soaked" and she flung them all on my dry clothes...I just laughed. SIL does not appreciate my pointing out that her arm flapping and ear covering are concerning.My son also will carry his favorite DVD boxes (Hot Wheel Acceleracers box
set) and leaves it next to his car seat. He will do the same for a specific car.
Sure enough, he looks for the item as soon as he gets back in. Thinking
about them does make him happy too.I think you are respecting his feelings. Things like this just strengthens our bond with our children. They deserve to be understood and respected for their way of viewing the world around them. What may seem trivial to others may mean the world to them.My son leaves his Wendy doll (yes, we're still dealing with this issue if any of you remember from a few months back) by the door sometimes. Wherever he leaves her, I make sure she stays there (which is not easy as my dd wants to "clean up"). This way he always knows where she is when he comes home. Some days he wants to throw her and others he just wants to hug her. I get a good clue as to how his day has been/is going to be from just this gesture. I hope I am respecting his feelings by doing this - I think he appreciates it!
[QUOTE=mamajot]Interesting topic! My niece, who I have concerns about, carries around a DVD box in each hand.
That described my son at 2. That's when he started the dvd box thing. The arm flapping and ear covering started before that.