Pacifiers??? | Autism PDD
Don't feel bad dbcmom - Jess still uses hers to sleep too and she's 3. I also know this isn't good but I'm afraid of never sleeping again if I take it away! Need to find something to "replace" it maybe since she's so oral. Have heard of something called "chewelry" but have yet to look it up on the net..... [QUOTE=kristys][QUOTE=camusa]
He would not give it up si I started by cutting a small hole in the end to decrease the suction. I started telling him that the binky was broken and then explained to him that "big boys don't use binkies."
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Cam - This is why I wished we used binkies. I can tell R that sucking his thumb will hurt is teeth, but I can't slowly start lopping off pieces of it LOL!
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You can't?
I am feeling like a total slacker on this....their are so many issues to work on with C and i ahve not made the paci a prority. Feeling like a bad mom becuase I know it should be long gone!!!![QUOTE=camusa]
He would not give it up si I started by cutting a small hole in the end to decrease the suction. I started telling him that the binky was broken and then explained to him that "big boys don't use binkies."
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Cam - This is why I wished we used binkies. I can tell R that sucking his thumb will hurt is teeth, but I can't slowly start lopping off pieces of it LOL!
Much as Nicole said, if BB had his way he would still have one.
He would not give it up si I started by cutting a small hole in the end to decrease the suction. I started telling him that the binky was broken and then explained to him that "big boys don't use binkies."
Within two weeks I had cut the rubber down to a nub that he could not even get his lips around and just kept explaining. It was pissing him off though and he kept asking for "blue" before going to bed (the color of his favorite night binky). We had just done this a while back and he still wants to sleep with that piece of plastic in his HAND some nights, but no more sucking the binky!
Refrigerator tubing- what a GREAT idea! My 4 1/2 is also VERY oral and he still uses a pacifier ("kiki") at night. I'm not particularly worried about it b/c it also really helps him calm down. Sometimes he'll go up in his bed during the day to suck on it for a bit- we joke that he's having a "cigarette break!"
[QUOTE=dbcmom]I am feeling like a total slacker on this....their are so many issues to work on with C and i ahve not made the paci a prority.
Don't make the choices that others have made for their family make you feel like you're doing anything wrong in YOUR family! *hugs We all do what we need to do for our family, especially in regards to sleep! We chose sleep & less seizures over braces as a teenager. Ahhh well. lol
Both of mine did but only for about a month. They were the speciality pacifiers from the hospital that were the scented newborn ones.
Yes, with the twins one did (my older two didn't). The one dx'd with asd did until somehow I lost it, and have no idea where i put it <cough cough>. I believe he was about 11 - 12 months old - I am guessing. Now his brother was a thumb sucker up until - oh my - 5-6 yrs old. That was harder to break than the paci - I couldn't just take his thumb away.. lol..
My 5yr. old still has one (ONLY for sleeping since she was a year old).
We've talked & talked & talked about when she gets her first loose tooth, no more Paf. Her open bite isn't *that bad* right now for as long as she's had it. & I don't even want to mess with the permanent teeth. :p But it's seriously the only way she gets to sleep. I can take it from after she goes to sleep & she's fine... Her therapists, drs. & dentist all know she 'still' has it & have all been supportive (even more so than me lol).
Anyway... it doesn't bother us too much (I could care less what anyone else thinks ;)) as I know many who suck their thumbs do it much longer than this (including me when I was a kid ;))... but I hated braces so would love to avoid them. LOL
I dont want to admit it, I know its not good, but C still uses his sometimes and he is almost 4!!!I loved it--great for soothing in the car while waiting to eat!
(our ASD child didn't take it at all)
[QUOTE=dbcmom]I dont want to admit it, I know its not good, but C still uses his sometimes and he is almost 4!!!
That's Cassidy too... she is VERY oral, is always chewing on something. Though she's only had her pacifier for sleep times since she was a year old, she does chew all day. We have TONS of chewers lol. Some are 'offical' - the grabber, etc. We have a green P, blue P, green T, a couple baby teethers, including the vibrating star and a few water ones that she likes cold. She uses the rubber end of toothbrushes, baby utensils and most recently we got some refrigerator tubing at Home Depot and right now that's her favorite.
She prefers to chew on her fingers & arms, but has bitten until bruising so we try to stay very vigilant about making sure she has available 'chewers'. :)
My DD used one until she was 4, my ds never did like them, kept pushing it out of his mouth, didn't like them at all.my son gave his up himself at 8 mths i was cheerin! I wasnt going to give him one at all but then when he was born he couldnt suck so they gave him one in hospital, he had really bad reflux and used to vomit all the time so i guess thats y he gave them up!I always hated pacifiers. I freely admit this was an ignorant "before I had kids of my own bias." I just thought kids looked ridiculous walking around with those things in their mouths. So, we used them a little when boys were infants but I tossed them all in the trash by the time the boys were 3 months old so they wouldn't get addicted.
OK, dumb move in retrospect. R (NT) took up sucking his thumb and C (ASD) took up sucking his fingers. At age 1 both boys got rotovirus and threw up 24x7 for 5 days. Ever since then, C never put his fingers in his mouth again. 1 down! However R is 6 1/2 and still sucks his thumb. I'm really worried about how this is affecting his teeth. The dentist said most kids stop in kindergarten because of peer pressure. Well, that was partially true. He doesn't suck his thumb at school or if other kids are around, but he still sucks pretty heavily at home. We're all working on it. Anyway, I wish in retrospect I'd given him a pacifier because it's a heck of alot easier to take away a pacifier than a thumb! Oh well, you live, you learn.
[QUOTE=Chera25][QUOTE=dbcmom]I dont want to admit it, I know its not good, but C still uses his sometimes and he is almost 4!!!
I hope I am not the only one....C has a lot of oral motor/sensory issues and sometimes its the better choice to have him put in his mouth!! He twnds to chew on anything....[/QUOTE]
That's Cassidy too... she is VERY oral, is always chewing on something. Though she's only had her pacifier for sleep times since she was a year old, she does chew all day. We have TONS of chewers lol. Some are 'offical' - the grabber, etc. We have a green P, blue P, green T, a couple baby teethers, including the vibrating star and a few water ones that she likes cold. She uses the rubber end of toothbrushes, baby utensils and most recently we got some refrigerator tubing at Home Depot and right now that's her favorite.
She prefers to chew on her fingers & arms, but has bitten until bruising so we try to stay very vigilant about making sure she has available 'chewers'. :)
[/QUOTE]Your daughter is adorable!!!
My ds loves his binky. He is very oral and needs it daily. Before he got sick in Feb he only used it to sleep with and then became very attached to it in the hospital. He is slowly needing it less and less. His OT suggested that we get him some Chewlery. It is a terry cloth covered necklace with a star or elephant on it. He loves it. He chews and that and as a result isn't as interested in binky and slightly more interested in other things. He is 28 months.
If it was up to her, Trinity would still have one. We are still working on her not having one. she is 27 months. She also is VERY oral about everything. I have no idea how many pacis we have bought but some days she will find one that she has hidden and come out with it like it is normal. It might not be the best parenting but we take them along with her outside and give it to the dog. None of my other kids took one.
My 5.5yo would still have one if we let him. Honestly, I didn't care what anyone else thought and it was just used to sleep. However, one of his speech therapists just told us that it causes speech issues. The sippy cups too are terrible because they can actually cause lisps. It is the way the tongue is used forward to drink. Straws are supposed to be awesome for developing the muscles (like pursing lips) to aid speech. We threw them out and James was very sad for about 2 days but has gone along with it. He always slept with a towel or 5 as a blankie so he still has that. Good Luck!My oldest Rissa did and at 3 still uses one for bed. I cant get her to toss it. her nueologist said just let her have it because its her comfort... that and she grinds her teeth...the paci stops that.
gigi my youngest never used one.
Do or did your kids use pacifiers when they were little?
I was just sitting here thinking about that! J never did like a paci. I am curious if anyone's child did.
My oldest did, and my youngest did not.Both used them when they were babies. My oldest just gave it up one day out of the blue and I was thankful for that. My youngest took longer to give them up.We tried using a pacifier with the girls when they were young and screaming all of the time. It didn't work - they just spit them out. They both do something odd, though - they such their tongues. My son does it, too. There're the only kids that I've ever seen doing this. It's the same motion as they used while breast feeding. My son is almost weaned off of his tongue (though I still catch him doing it, on occasion, when he's relaxing with his special pillow) and the girls are starting to do it less, too (for them, it goes with their special blankets).
Their mother sucked her tongue until she was eleven and I sucked my thumb until I was about 6-7 (though I did it in secret when I was in school). I can still remember doing it, so i was old. I guess this form of stim runs in the family.
Mommy To Abby Grace 3yrs old PDD/NOSEthan, at 3.7 still has one, all the time. He just chews the nipples off of them. If he doesn't have one of those in his mouth, he will chew his tongue till it bleeds. We have tried tubing, teethers, a number of more "acceptable" things to no avail. Another one of those chosen not to battle over. My older nt kids : 1 never had one, 2 had them till around 2.5-3, One had one till kindy. I have a very small study going. My grown up kids, the one who had the pacifier as long as they wanted, never smoked. The one who never had one does. My older brother and I were not allowed them and we both smoke. My younger brother had one and doesn't. What do you think ? Not enough oral stimulation in childhood leads to more in adulthood.? Or a really great way for me to justify not quitting altogether.Our five year old Ryan (mild Autism) still wants his passy to go to sleep. Gets very upset when we take it away. On the contrary our 3 year old "normal" never wanted one and doesn't even suck his thumb. I'm not a Mom, just an Aunt with a nephew who is autistic.
Concerning pacifiers, has anyone questioned the material the pacifier is made out of? Do they/can they contain things like chemical softeners, parabens, PVC, or phthalates?
After reading this article about brand name baby bottles leaching bisphenol A, it makes me wonder about pacifiers.
Edit: And what about sippy cups?
This is a great thread! My 2 older children used them until about 3 years of age, and taking them away was like a drug addict going through withdrawal! They were so addicted!
My little one never used one.
My three older daughters all used the "Binky" the only type they would take. My youngest daughter who has asd refused them all. She has always sucked her thumb and strokes her bellybutton with the other hand.
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I hate to admit it, but my son still uses one to go to sleep. I can't get it away.Well, I'm sure I could if I really had the energy to put up with the agitation that would surely develop. This is actually a very sensitive subject for me, because my bil, who has a master's in psychology, blamed his autism on the pacifier. He says that he is "stuck" in an emotional state, and that's why he's autistic. I don't even call him by his name when I speak of him anymore, I just call him "Siggy".
Anyway, I know it's BS, because I used a pacifier until I was 6, and my friend's NT son uses one when he gets off the bus after school (he's 7).
I know, he's too big, I really plan on working on it. I have to be tough.
He'll make some orthodontist a little richer one day
just didn't make it readily avilable during the day. Then used for sleeping
only, then I'd take it out of his bed after he spit it out, so he couldn't pop it
back in, took a few months before we wrapped them up and sent them to
my brother's new baby "who didn't have ANY binkys"
Oh yeah, I made a huge deal out of making a special binky box when we
went down to sleep only. We decorated a box with stickers and glitter, and
the binky had to be put back there when not in use. Helped him understand
the routine, and that we no longer carried binkys around with us. They
stayed in ther very special box at home until night-night time.Ya my son is almost 4 and still wants that soother day and night.He has always had that need to suck or chew.I try to put it away where he cant see it in the morning.
Gosh.... I started this thread several days ago!!! I was surprised to see it on here still.
My little girl (NT) just got rid of her paci a month ago at 16 months old. I was quite shocked at how well she did and is still doing. We had started cutting her "paci time" down little by little during the day when she was 10-12 months. I mean she was so addicted to it. We're talking like having one in each corner of the crib and one in each hand, plus the one in her mouth!!!!
Well, one day I had given it to her just to get some peace, b/c she was just screaming and crying and wouldn't stop. She ended up having to go to time out for being "ugly" to one of her friends(daycare kids) and she looked up at me, took her paci out of her mouth and said, "Here Momma" and handed it to me. Like she knew she shouldn't even have it in the first place!!! And that was the day that I decided to take it away for good. She just loves her Gram and Poppa's dog, Hoover. So, we came up with the idea that she would give her pacies to Hoover. We took her to their house that same night and she threw them into the dog pen and that was it! She mentioned "sassy" as we were about to put her in her crib and then said, "Hoover???". She still talks about Hoover and "sassy", but we just remind her that she gave them to Hoover and she understands. No big fits, sleepless nights, or any trouble at all!!! VERY SHOCKING TO ME! I kept waiting for her to wake up crying for it during the night, but she never did. I'm so thankful she did so well with it.
Good luck to you all who are trying to get rid of the pacies! Maybe you will be able to share your "success story" too!!! LOL [QUOTE=DisneyMommy]Your daughter is adorable!!![/QUOTE] Thanks!
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