My son does this sometimes and people often do not understand. I'm sorry they dismiss you like that, I like the idea of getting some literature together for them. Sometimes it helps if it comes from a more nuetral source. My son says all sorts of things when upset, particularly things we've yelled at our teenager - like "don't do that, every again!!!" or "don't talk to me like that" etc. Sometimes they are quite funny but they are confusing for other people who do not understand their scripted language.
Does she go to a public school? Is she diagnosed? I ask this only because you mention her school gives no services. If she is not diagnosed "officially", is this something you're working on getting? One other ?, does your daughter even use these phrases at school? She may not--she may only do it with you. That said, have a talk with the guidance counselor and relay your thougts about how you feel the teacher's not heeding your warnings. Maybe s/he can have a heart to heart with the teacher on your behalf. Then, if need be, work up to the principal.
I posted a link to delayed echololia that was original posted by Norway Mom. I'd print that out and give it to your child's teacher. I gave the article to my son's teacher, and she found it very helpful, even as a special ed teacher for autistic children.
My son will scream "don't hurt me don't hurt me" when you want him to do something he doesn't want to do. When he says that to people that don't know him, you can bet it has caused me some problems. He was going to a regular pre-school for a short period of time a year ago, and came out with this when they tried to get him to use the potty. Suffice it to say, I tried to explain to them that this is just something he says - nobody has hurt him - but I could see the skepticism in their eyes. He still says it over a year later ... it's just what he does.
My dd, 5 as of July, uses a lot of memorized phrases and its starting to become a problem when she is in trouble. I am very concerned that she will say something that will get her in more trouble at school or around a group of kids.
Just a reminder incase you dont know, dd is in a mainstream kindergarten class. Her school will not consider any services even though she shows autistic traits because her Vineland scores did not meet the cut off for help.
Anyway, lately when my dd is in trouble, she will say things like..."shhhhh, do not talk to me like that!" She has heard me saying this before. She tries to also put together a spontanious sentence but either it does not make sense or she comes off sounding rude.
Last night she had a huge fit because she did not want to brush her teeth. We have this issue a lot lately. During her fit I took away her computer time today. She wanted to use it of course but I explained why she couldnt. She did the "shhhh, do not talk to me like that!" and added some other things, like "start telling the truth." I am not sure what that meant. She also said "I dont like it when you tell me what to do, I want to do only things that I want to do."
I know her and she is not trying to be "bad." This is her way of communicating. I am just looking to see if anyone else has gone through this and see if I could get any advise to help her out. I have told her teacher about my concerns but they were dismissed and nobody will listen to me. The last thing I want is for my dd to be misunderstood and put in time out or something when she cant figure out how to say something.
Thanks everyone:)