How often do you communicate with her? Do you talk on the phone or email? That may influence how you approach her.
Maybe you could just say that your noticed a lot of similarities in your children and since hers has some definite problems at school you wondered of she would be interested in hearing your opinion?
Good luck!!
My Aspie brother has PTSD from being in a crack and not knowing until half a century. Being lower functioning protected me from most of it. Looks like history repeating with his sons.
Best of luck in this
Oh how sad. I wonder if you could call her and ask her advice in what to do for your son? It's kind of a back-handed way of telling her. It might not work. But, you could say that you noticed a lot of similarities between the two kids - but since her child is older, maybe she could give you some tips? Heck, this may be the total wrong way - but it's all I can come up with as my head is full of gunk (I'm getting sick
You might want to just call her and play dumb and not know if she knows about your ds and talk to her about him. This also might not work if you don't talk to her often. But, you might use seeing her a few weeks ago as an opportunity to "reconnect".
This is a tough one. Parents in denial are very hard to approach and you risk completely alienating them. I hope that doesn't happen. Good luck!
Oh! I forgot to say how sorry I am about the death in your family. Sending you hugs and prayers!I once again abruptly stopped posting to the group. My father died two and a half weeks ago, but that's not what this is about.
I went down to Texas for my father's funeral, and of course, got to see my whole family. I have a cousin with a son who is 9 years old. The last time I saw him was when he was 1 year old. While, now that I look back on it, this was apparent then, it's extremely apparent now.
My cousin's son definitely has autism. I have absolutely NO doubt in my mind. I was speaking with her about D and told her some of his behaviors, and she said, "Yeah. C was like that at that age too. But he also did a lot of head banging as well." (Now, I'm not 100% sure that she realizes D has a diagnosis. I didn't think to say anything because I thought my whole family was aware.)
I also talked with her about her son. She said that he's going to school. He was held back in Kindergarten by the school, and that he now has an IEP with pull outs once a week for an hour for math. She feels this is all he needs, but admitted that he barely passed the year before. (She feels that he just gave up in second grade and didn't really apply himself.)
Anyways, the day before I left, I finally got to see her son. He was very aloft. He didn't really look at anyone. He wouldn't come to anyone. And she ended up forcefully dragging him to the table to hug his grandma (my aunt) before she let go of him and just like him drift off. I feel rather sorry for him.
Figuring SOMEONE in the family would have told me if he had an ASD diagnosis too, I turned to my mom as she was leaving and asked if they had sought an evaluation. Apparently, everyone has been trying to convince them these past 8 yrs to go get him checked out, but they keep denying it. They keep saying there's nothing wrong with him. It makes me extremely extremely sad to hear this.
Anyways, I don't know how to approach her about this. I mean, I know where she was 6 yrs ago when her son was D's age. I know I didn't want to hear it either, but I kept an open mind and now we're doing all we can for D. I just don't want C to be one of those kids who slips through the cracks when I know there is so much they and their district could be doing to help him.