My son lashed out at his little brother when he got frustrated during play. This went on for many years. I just kept modeling how to express his emotions appropriately, and eventually he grew out of it at age 7 or 8. He's 9 now and shows zero aggression, and the school says he's very good at expressing his feelings.
But that's a long-term fix, and you probably want something more short term... These behavior plans show how professionals analyzed and recommended dealing with aggressive behavior:
Aggressive behavior (Format #2) (PDF)
• Aggressive behavior (PDF)
Good luck with everything!
My son is 5 and has always been pretty easy behaviorally, but that is slightly changing. He's started new therapists and he's having to listen to a lot of new people. Much more demands on him, etc. He's always hit his sister when he's angry at her and there have been times in his life that he's hit me and his father. Not real aggressive. More like how a two-year-old child would hit when they're not getting their way. But now he's hitting me more often, he's kicked therapist when they're making him do something he doesn't like.
I've tried several different techniques: time out, sending him to his room, ignoring it, naughty stool, social stories One of his therapists is adament about ignoring it. I tried that for two weeks and I couldn't do it any longer.
Any techniques that might work on him that anyone could suggest? I'm so scared he's going to take this to school. He's already kicked a therapist and hit my father-in-law.
Help! Thanks so much!
Mom to boy, 5, HFA; girl, 3, pending diagnosis
oh boy can I relate! My ds is almsot 4..when he gets frustated, he will slap and kick. We have tried alot of the same things as tiy..but he still does it. one thing that helps a little is saying"nice hands"when he hits and making him gently rub the arm of the person he hit. I am thinking of getting the book "1,2,3 Magic". people have posted about it before.Good luck.. I am in the same boat!
Cassidy just started this with us about a month ago. For her birthday a couple weeks ago, my Mom got her a punching bag. ALL aggression has been channelled to the punching bag while we are at home since the day she got it, it's been AWESOME. I like giving her something appropriate to channell that 'need' when possible.
However, we cannot figure out what to do while we are not at home... when she is overwhelmed she just 'lashes' and if ANYONE is in her space, she hits & kicks. When she wants to chew on something, the nearest object will be chewed on - which yesterday was my friend's arm, shoulder & back. :o Other than bring her punching bag with us, I can't figure out what to do. :(
Will be following this thread!