need advice on HS school/home work | Autism PDD
I'm so sorry to hear he's in the hospital. I hope his mood stabilizes soon. Please keep us posted. In the meantime, I'll be thinking about you.
I'm sorry to hear things aren't getting better.
When my son first started elementary school, I mostly got "doing fine" feedback, and it was a shock to hear at the first meeting that I didn't have a realistic impression of how things were going in school. That was an awful feeling, so I can really sympathize with how you felt when "doing well" in math actually meant doing D-work.
I wish I could help, but all I can do is hope you can get more support and better communication from the school.
Good luck with everything.
Dorian got upset last night. He was admitted to the hospital. I think he is depressed. On a sad scale of 1 to 10 he said he was an 8. He became destructive. He has been really moody lately – angry then sad
This is the 5th week of school. The transition is not going as well as middle school. In addition to not wanting to do homework, Dorian shuts down in class and refuses to complete some of the assignments. He seems to have more problems in typing and English classes. He is in REI classes with a regular and Sp ED teacher and he has an aide. The aide is not with him 100% of the time like middle school, but is with him some of each class. He has an F in English, D in Math, and C in typing. The math teacher has been telling me he is doing well – so I was surprised to see a D.
The high school has a good system – every day(that Dorian brings the paper home) I get one sheet from school. Each teacher provides feedback about Dorian’s class period and homework assignment.
The school is willing to accept all late assignments – but Dorian still won’t do them without fighting. The typing has to be done at school during the resource time and the English can be done at home.
At home, I will say Dorian I want you to do xxxx. He will just walk out of the door and stay outside. Last week he came home and slammed his books on the table. I asked him to pick them up, go back to the door, and lay them on the table gently. He went outside and threw the books down in the garage. It took 1 hr of him staying outside kicking our house and doors and putting a dent in my van, and having the police show up, before he agreed to pick up his books and lay them on the table.
I don’t want to fight with him but at the same time, I feel that if his teachers take the time to write notes and work with us, we should have he try to get the work done.
I agree with tzoya, in fact I think I remember a prior post of yours where he was having difficulty doing his HW, but I did not know this difficulty extended to school. I hated HW and I eather got the work done at school during study hall or has a set time to get it done prior to going outside and watching tv. He sounds like he is getting overwelmed, and I know when this happend to me I would shut down and give up. I did poorly in math, and computer (sorta like your son, but I did ok in english, somewhat, so I think me and your son were in very similar positions when I was his age).No easy fix, seems like too much is going on as far as school work, he may need more assistance at school, he may need to cut back on classes (if possible). It strikes me how similar your son sounds like I was a decade ago, those were very hard times.
Definatly get in touch with the school, I bet hes very smart and can do the work, just may have difficulty learning verbally (like me) and may require a little more time and perhapse hands on learning, or examples and lots of them.
Im sorry things sound like they are not going so well. I know high school VS middle school, high school was far harder, and change for me was stressful and I did not do very well my first year in some classes because of this. I however did not have as much avalible to me as your son does, so thats good for him, I had to stick it out, and repeat classes, and work hard in study hall, and sometimes after school or at home
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I wish ya luck, keep us posted on progress. I think you may definatly want to talk to the school, ask for more help with work + lectures, perhapse he needs help taking notes as well. Ask for parent training to learn how to implement a postive BIP at home. And ask for an FBA and BIP in school, too, with compliance and completion of assignments the goal. Also, the person who is doing the FBA should try to determine if the amount of work is appropriate for your son. He might be giving up before he gets started because it seems to be too much for him.
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