Well, it doesn't belong in the hangout with friend section! This is a very serious issue. I apologize that I don't have a lot of advice for you. I would watch sending a button camera - I think that could get you into serious trouble, but I'm not sure of the legal rights. I would investigate that further.
The teacher should not be withholding recess. I would do a google search for how important recess and breaks are for kids with autism. My dear friend did this for her ADHD son and got it in his IEP that he could not miss recess or important other things if he didn't complete his work on time.
I'm so sorry you're all going through this - hugs to you!
At about the same age as your son, my son went through a phase of making threats. We had success with telling him firmly "no threats" (interrupting if need be) and then modelling more appropriate language for expressing his feelings.
Is there anything on your son's IEP about physical or verbal aggression? If not, this might be the time to get a proper plan put in place. The teacher is evidently unable to prevent such incidents and handle them calmly and professionally.
Good luck.
The wrong match with a teacher can sure make a difference in a kidsThere have been some very good, well thought out responses to your problem.
I have had this problem too. But my ds behavior was deeply ingrained. Luckily it sounds like your childs behavior is not. For my son the threats were not against his teacher or outsiders, my ds was treatening me, dh and dd. This problem became very severe. The psy. really never offered any type of help with this;(yes he's another long story) though he may have talked to my son privately about this, I don't know. My ds is now 10, and it had been going on for about a year & a half. He is HFA.
I had to take very serious measures to stop this behavior.
In our case no amount of talking, teaching, and parenting got my son to stop this behavior. I did make sure our environment was always safe in case he decided to be impulsive. He always threatened us in anger.
I needed to know if these threats were a tool he was using in anger or if he really did have underlying psy problems that needed to be dealt with.
One day about 5 months ago, he threatened my dd again. I held a family meeting and firmly told him that the threats were going to stop NOW and if he threatened any of us again that he would have to live in foster care because our family needed to be safe. He clearly understood what I was talking about, and he knows what foster care is b/c we donate things to a facility near our home.
The behavior has stopped since that day 5 months ago.
I know what I told him was very serious, and not what a child wants to be hearing from their parent. Please understand I'm not suggesting any parent have this conversation with their child.
she has tryed to enter his world when she was not invited
she will have come to him when he wanted a me moment
i know i get very angry if my thoughs are interupted or unwanted communication is asked of me
believe your child
if he is that angry with someone she has done something that he felt was wrong
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a, ok, ty ;)I don't know what happened to the 1st post about this, but here it is again:
My son is threatening his teacher. He is 7 years old and high functioning autisitic. PDD-NOS is his Dx. I wonder what she did or said to set him off, but she is not a very nice person and I'm sure my son can sense that. I sensed it from the first time I met her. Nevertheless, I gave her the benefit of the doubt. My so does not usually dislike someone without a reason. She must push his buttons. In any event, he has been telling her he is going to kill her and threw blocks at her, one of them hit her in the back of the head. I do not know what to do about this. The last time he did this he was re-assigned to this school he is in now. They said his needs were not being met. Well, he is in a small class now with 6 other students, his teacher and an aide. I think he needs to be more closely supervised. He tells me he is always missing 5 minutes out of his recess. He tells me when the timer goes off if he is not finished with his work he gets time out of recess. I think it's not fair to let my son sit alone and work and then when he daydreams and doesn't finish he is punished for it. This enfuriates me. I have a meeting with them on Thurs morning and I am so afraid I am going to tell her off. I don't know what to do or what to say without coming off as rude and defensive. She stated she was going to have to tell administration about his death threats. Can you believe it? PUHLEEZE. I told her "you do realize that he is autistic and does not have the ablitiy to express himself in ways that normal children do, right?"
Oh God, I hope this woman is not abusing my son mentally or in any other way. I seriously thought of getting a button cam to see what the heck goes on all day. If I go to observe, no one will behave as they do whan I'm not around, so observation is pointless, u know?
Help, please, advice is welcome and wanted.
Angie it's in the Hangout with Friends section.