Knows his ABC’s but no potty please.... | Autism PDD

The same pattern here. DD knew all of her alphabet, the phonetic sounds of each letter, numbers up to 20, shapes simple and complex by the time she was two but I could not get her to use the potty. She also would wear underwear and hold it and hold it until she got in a pull-up and would then let it go. When she was three she finally did urinate in the pot but in truth I had to just force her to by holding her firmly there when it was coming. Once she saw that it did not hurt her to go in the pot she was all for it. We went through the same process for poop.

I know the experts say never force but with her it was just the only way. She would also hold the poo in for days causing her pain. Once she saw it didn't hurt she was trained at 3 1/2. Thank the Lord just in time for preschool.

Hang in there!

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My guy who is 2.3 also is so not ready for the potty and I hear ya about being a big guy he is 39lbs and 39 inches. Wearing size 6 diapers and 4t and some 5t clothes. Glad I am not the only one.

Good luck

My son won't be 2 until January and he already knows his entire alphabet, numbers 1-20, colors, shapes, etc., and can read some words- very smart boy but he is NO where NEAR close to the potty. He plays with toilet paper like a cat, he throws toys in the toilet, he has no clue how to pull off his pants, and he would sit in dirty diapers all day if I let him!

Anyone else's kiddos in this boat- so smart in some areas but so behind in others? I know he is still young so I don't push it at all- not even thinking about it until closer to 3 or 3.5 years; just frustrating at times and he is as big as a 5 year old so that does not help!

Thanks for any input.

My NT 2.3 year old daughter is no where near it either, we've introduced it, she knows to sit on it, but she's not all that interested in it. She is very smart too. He is still really young. I know very few 2 year old boys that are successfully potty trained, (I know 1) its more common with the girls.

my son is smart in some areas but in others like potty i think he was more lazy to take that extra step until he hit 3 1/2 and did it all by himself, cause he already knew what to do,cause he followed me since he was 1 year to the bathroom.

Yes! We had this exact problem. My dd knew alphabet, shapes, colors, numbers at about 18 months old (very visual!). Actually ECI used this to tell me she was too smart and could not possibly have autism so we waited to get her dx/services, but that's a different matter.

Potty training was really, really hard. She was 3.5 before she would urinate in the potty, but she absolutely would not make a bm in the potty for anything. I tried everything - rewards, bribes, special treats, sitting her in front of the tv, having her run around naked...nothing worked. In an effort to prompt her I put her in underwear b/c she'd stay dry, but she'd wait for her diaper to make a bm and then we had to deal with the constipation issue. Then we got her evaluated by an OT who said we were having a hard time b/c of her sensory problems. And wouldn't you know it, only a couple of months after starting OT to deal with her sensory issues she transitioned to being fully potty trained (that and a glow-in-the-dark star reward every time she was successful!).

I would encourage you to be patient and let him do it when he's ready, otherwise it will become a power struggle, it was for my dd anyway, her body was the only thing she felt like she could control. (I'm trying to take my own advice my for 2yo who does not seem in the least interested in training yet!)

Good luck and try not to worry about it just yet, he's still young.

swankyankee39342.7638657407Well, My kiddo is now 4.5, can read at about the level of a nine or ten year
old, is learning how to play the piano, AND STILL WEARS PULLUPS TO
SCHOOL. waaah

WAAAAH!

I KNOW it will be soon, but sheesh! Jacob will be 3 in December and he's not trained yet. I'm hopeful though. He's starting to show an interest finally. Brendon on the other hand potty trained at 5. He still has accidents, but with an 80% success rate, I call him trained. He went about training backwards though. He has been pooping in the potty with little issue for a year and a half. It was the pee training that took forever with him. I wasn't pushing him at all though. He overheard a conversation I had with my mom about how his still peeing in pullups might cause some problems at school. He really loves school and now will pee in the potty. It just clicked for him the day he overheard us talking. Just to let you know how recent this was...he overheard us talking about a month ago and started school last week. Rhosyn39342.7882175926

My son started peeing in the potty just this week! His NT twin has been potty trained for a year and a half now. I was starting to lose hope. Our BCBA suggested taking him to the potty every 15 minutes -- it took 4 solid days to get through to him. How I wish I could get back those 4 days of my life. It was truly awful, BUT it WORKED. I'm not sure it would've worked any earlier in his life though. Everything with my son is a power struggle and I think all the times I started potty training before, I just did not have the endurance to fight him.

I have 2 packages of size 7 diapers that I haven't opened yet and will be exchanging for pullups....it's a miracle.

Ditto here. My dd knew her shapes & colors VERY early. Her cognitive
score is 140 (which is often considered 'gifted')...but, her social-
emotional & adaptive skills are in the 70-80 range, communication just a
tad higher. So, she also has that uneven development.

She is no where near ready for the potty. Like your son, she will sit all
day in a diaper. Often, the only time she alerts us to it, is when she starts
freaking out because it is leaking. She shows absolutely no cues as to
readiness. We are working (& have been for 1 year +) on the whole
pulling off & on pants, she can pull off loose pants 50% of the time, with
A LOT of help/prompting. Along with that, we are hoping she'll start
alerting us to her diaper being wet/dirty, and also correctly replying when
we ask her if she needs changing.

She is 3y4m, btw. We'll get there. Our ped said not to worry, and that
she may be 4 or older before she is ready to start training. We're hoping
that with school, it will help push things along, she is one of 2 who are
not trained (out of 6 kids). Stuff like that doesn't bother her the way it
would have her older sister, so who knows if 'peer pressure' or whatever
will influence her in anyway to use the potty, be in panties, etc.

My son was potty trained @ 3. I took a class on how to potty train ese kids. I took 1 week off work and did it during his spring break. All we did for one week was concentrate on potty training. I set the timer and every half hour I'd take him to the toilet. If he produced, he would get a reward (he liked the rubber stamps, so, by the end of the day he was stamped from head to toe) not to mention, lots of praise. I would not yell or get upset if he didn't produce, but there would be no reward, either. Also, no more diapers or pull-ups from the very 1st night. He had one accident the 1st morning, but after that, the bed was always dry. It worked.

The pull-ups send a mixed message. They think it's ok to wet themselves if they are wearing one. I also got him a bunch of undies with his favorite characters all over them.

You need to be sure he is ready before trying this. If he is expressing an interest in sitting on the toilet, or can say that he is wet or has to go, then he is ready. My son would take his pull-up off and finger paint with his poo. This is how I knew he was ready for the toilet. What an ordeal, but thank God for that class, and I hope this info helps you as well.

My son was the same way, at age two he new all the colors, shapes, letters, numbers. He wasn't potty trained until a few months after his third birthday. School was a really big help with the potty training.