Family gathering tonite..BADDD | Autism PDD

I can SSSOOO relate to the whole weight and shower issue. I havn't been able to shower in 2 days. My son is 3 and rips the house apart if I try taking a shower while he is awake. That or he starts flushing the toilet non stop and laughing because I am getting scalded by hot water. My husband is working from 0600 - 9:00pm so this week I feel like a single parent. I don't remember the last time I was able to shave both of my legs on the same day. I feel like a walking BLOB! LOL

On top of everything else it's raining today so my son can't go outside (his favorite thing to do... GO OUTSIDE). I can feel the melt down coming today and it's only 8:00am. LOL. Maybe as I unpack boxes (we just moved from Belgium) I can build a box fort. He might like that.

CYNDIE,

My mother RAGS on me for not wearing makeup everyday. I tell her that she can wear it for me if she wants. I know she means well but until our parents have walked in our shoes for more than a day, they wont truely understand what we go through. So my advice. You have enough on your plate.... Let your mothers comments roll off you like water on a ducks back (a redneck saying but it's true).  

Cookiecookie3

Oh that sounds awful.  It's bizarre that the ones who should be supporting us and understanding and not adding to the stress often don't (my parents are dead but I have siblings and except for one sister the others don't even check in!!).  Thank God for this place.  Where else can you get so excited for a total stranger whose kid make a sentence, said a word, slept through the night, used the potty....We're here.  And I'm sorry you had a sucky night with your mom.

ps I'm 46 and I live in jean shorts--I applaud your make-up and a nice top.  Better than I can usually pull off!!  What does a 36 yr old dress like?

Dear Cyndie,

  I am so sorry the focus is on your clothes...don't ya just feel like your family is on Mars sometimes?  I went to Seattle for a wedding a couple weekends ago and my bro-in-law (the one we've set up to be trustee/guardian if something happens to us) commented on how much weight I've gained.   HEY!  I say, if you love your jeans shorts, AND CAN STILL FIT INTO THEM, GO FOR IT!!  Wish I could fit into mine!  I'm jealous!  If they could only walk a couple miles in your shoes, they would see how wonderful it is that you got a shower in, let alone worry about clothes!  It's a different world we live in, but just know that YOU ARE DOING A GREAT JOB!  HANG IN THERE! 

-sleeplessinmn

 

Cyndie,

It really makes you wonder who the special needs people are in our lives when parents just don't understand. 

For starters, jean shorts are great.  Wear them and enjoy.  The other thing is, you can never change your parents, if the are good or bad.  Just love your son and don't repeat the mistake, be original and come up with some new ones.

John

One solution is move to Oregon (the services suck) but people don't dress up and don't wear make-up! I am originally from Oregon and I don't think I even own any make up (not that I couldn't use it)..my mom can't complain because she doesn't wear it either

Renee

WELL MY DAD HASNT SEEN MY SON IN almost 2 1/2yrs. b/c hes in FLA.n hes up for the week.the last time DAD was here my son didnt speak n bit bit bit...jumpin on dad n so on..but tonite we went to dinner with him my mom n my son..was GREAT!!!!!I WAS ON EDGE THE WHOLE TIME..MY DAD WILL SAY HES DOIN GREAT OF COURSE B/C I DONT GIVE UP N PUSH FOR ALL SERVICES I CAN GET FOR HIM..HES VERY PROUD OF ME FOR HELPIN MY SON..HIS GRANDSON.
I haven't spoken to my parents in about 11 years now because they were so critical. I sometimes wish though that I had ignored their hurtful comments for the kids sake. I wonder why they think it is ok to criticise you when all you need is support.

There is no easy answer to peoples insensitivity and really I think you chose the best route. Offload to people like us who understand.

Cyndie, I'm sorry you had to go through having your mom hurt you like this. But I had an idea... The next time she gets on you for what you are wearing tell her that she can go out and buy you a new outfit for family gatherings until then she can SHUT UP!

Tammy

Cyndie,

Glad your feeling better about this.Your post gave me a good laugh

I think you are suposed to dress for what makes you feel comfortable and what you judge is appriate for the occasion. But I also have a mother with strong opions that I'm required to listen to so I completely understand.

Clothing issues are backwards here my Mom dresses skimpy

I also got the you will never understand because you will never have a daughter so you can't truely understand the mother-daughter relationship. I told her true but I'll have another mother-in-law daughter-in-law relationship that she will never have. She says she feels sorry for my future daughter-in-laws because I am to close to my sons I will be the MOTHER-IN-LAW FROM H*LL!

GOOD LUCK on going back to work!

Nelle

PS. I'm 36 and I pratically live in jeans shorts none of wich come to my knees.

 

 

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