What a day for the kids! | Autism PDD

When I met the school bus this afternoon, my daughter got off the bus mad as a hornet and said that some 9 year old boy was trying to kiss my 5 year old on the mouth. I said are you sure he wasn't tryng to kiss him like an adult would kiss a child? She said "No, it was as if they were lovers or something. So I chased the bus down to the next stop and although I wasn't there and don't really know what happened or what the boy's intentions were this is inappropriate behavior regardless. So the bus driver said she was going to write him up tomorrow and notify the school because he was already giving her a hard time as it was and she was getting ready to report him for other unruly behavior. So, I don't know what to think about this! My daughter said that this boy does this to other little kids all the time. Of course, she said she was getting ready to punch him. Then I had to tell her, that her job in protecting her little brother is to notify an adult, not take matters in to her own hands. I'm sure she was embarrassed too. Daniel totally did not understand. He said, "That boy tried to kiss me! Yeah, he did! And I wanted him too! " Then I had to tell him he was not suppose to kiss other kids. That was not good behavior. Anybody else had this type of a problem before?

Then when we got home Daniel said "My teacher flipped my card today!" I said "Why!" He said because I was suppose to be in time out. I said "why were you suppose to be in time out and he said because she flipped my card! etc,etc,etc........You can imagine how the rest of the conversation went. I asked what color he was and he said Green. Which is the closest thing to going to the principals office. But, his folder reflects that he was on white which is good behavior. So go figure! I don't know what happened for real.

Wow, I hope they deal with that child, it is very inappropriate behavior.
The one good thing about our school, unless the children are going to a
daycare, the spec ed kids are all bussed together (w/ the driver plus an
aide). We don' t have buses for the school, only for the spec ed kids.

Our dd told us (in her own way!) that she cried (apparently a lot) when she
spilled some water. The teacher never mentioned it. She's talked about
other issues, on other days though. Sometimes I think they only let us
know about the really serious or crucial issues/problems...perhaps
reporting on every single thing would be defeating to us parents. I also
know, our older dd has gotten into trouble before, and lost 5 minutes of
recess (minor stuff) and the teacher never told us about it. So, I guess it
holds true for NT kids as well--teachers won't report every single detail
of our kid's day. I would ask the teacher about this--if he was in time-
out & if the "green" card was brought out, that sounds like something
more serious & should have been mentioned.

Oh, almost forgot...KUDOS to your daughter. She is awesome! My dd is
such a great big sis too, super protective. I think that's just great.

Never had anything like that happen, but my kids don't ride a bus either. It wouldn't surprise me if this other kid needed extra help (either because of a "diagnosis waiting to happen" or emotional problems) but obviously it shouldn't happen again. Can your kids sit closer to the bus driver?

When my autistic son started elementary school, we seldom heard about the problems, even after we got a blank book for writing notes back and forth. We thought everything was going well until our bubble was burst in a meeting.

Ask the teacher for more frequent schedule of conferences, weekly phone calls, or some sort of simple communication sheet. It is as much for her sake as it is yours.

Here's a topic on our forum with resources for better school-home communication:

http://www.autism-pdd.net/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19561&am p;KW=communication

Good luck with everything.