I thought it said homework Quilt, not homework Guilt. Boy, that had me puzzled at first. LOL.
We're struggling here, too. "School is school, home is home" he tells me every dang day. I've just started to answer him, "it just doesn't work that way." The struggles are getting less, so hopefully the problem will get better rather than worsen with age.
Today I tried a new tactic. I had a lot of their Legos hidden away in the attic, and I told the kids that after homework, they could make a homework creature, vehicle or building as a reward. Put the bricks away before dinner and said we'd have a great collection of creations by the end of the week. It also keeps those dang Lego pieces off my floor -- it's been driving me nuts lately, but since it's their favorite toy I have to deny them...
Lego is probably not motivating for a 13 year old, but keep thinking creatively and you might come up with a solution.
Good luck with everything.
When my 13-year-son with AS brings home homework assignments in multiple subjects -- my heart just sinks. He's in 7th grade and so sweet. But homework brings out the beast in him and I admit that many times I just leave the room and cry where he can't see or hear me. I get so frustrated and upset and try to refocus him on the task...just little steps to get through the assignment. The attitude, stubborness, refusal to sit, etc. takes so much time that work that should (and could) have taken 30 minutes, ends up taking 2 and a half hours (no kidding!)
Hi! Here is a thread containing homwork resources compiled by Norway Mom.
http://www.autism-pdd.net/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=19740&am p;KW=homework
My AS son is only 10, but homework can be a struggle at times. I've always tried to break things up for him, rather than have him do it all at once. Just knowing he's going to get a break after completing an assignment seems to help him get through it.
Good luck!