More than one with ASD...question | Autism PDD

NO advice Rhosyn - just a gian mega hug

Just remind yourself that your child is not the diagnosis - he is Jacob with all his strengths and his weaknesses

You can do it !

One day at a time Thanks guys...I knew ya'll would help me put things in perspective. I have been raising 2 all along. Nothing changes...we just need to take it one day at a time and keep up a steady pace. Okay...taking a deep breath and going on with life now. [QUOTE=Rhosyn]I posted over in the hangout with friends thread about Jacob's evaluation today. After about 15 minutes they wrote "PDD evident" on his file and said they would be contacting me about a more formal evaluation. I expect it will go something like B's formal evaluation went since we're in the same parish he was initially evaluated in. I guess the question I'm searching for the answer on is...what now? How do I process this in my mind? How can I handle it with 2 on the spectrum. Before I always had the hope that this was just the terrible twos everyone talks about and he'll grow out of it. Now it's looking like that's not gonna happen like it did in my dreams lol. I know I've done it once...but it seems like the grieving process has started again...can't stop crying today. I love my boys with all my heart...and I know they are no different than they were this morning before we left for the evaluation...but now it seems that I'm different if that makes any sense. Thanks for listening and thanks in advance for any advice you have to offer. It's been a rough day lol.[/QUOTE]

You will handle it the way you do now. Nothing really changes, right? Just your thoughts for the future. And even with NT kids, we cannot truly predict their futures, either.

You've been handling two on the spectrum the whole time. Strange thought, hum? But's it's true. I had three....my boys and their father. Now I just have the boys and my nt daughter, but we do what we have to do. It's a lot to deal with, no doubt.

Jen
Yup. I have two, too. You get used to it, and as souldjen said, you've been raising two all along. Not much advice, but you're not alone.I posted over in the hangout with friends thread about Jacob's evaluation today. After about 15 minutes they wrote "PDD evident" on his file and said they would be contacting me about a more formal evaluation. I expect it will go something like B's formal evaluation went since we're in the same parish he was initially evaluated in. I guess the question I'm searching for the answer on is...what now? How do I process this in my mind? How can I handle it with 2 on the spectrum. Before I always had the hope that this was just the terrible twos everyone talks about and he'll grow out of it. Now it's looking like that's not gonna happen like it did in my dreams lol. I know I've done it once...but it seems like the grieving process has started again...can't stop crying today. I love my boys with all my heart...and I know they are no different than they were this morning before we left for the evaluation...but now it seems that I'm different if that makes any sense. Thanks for listening and thanks in advance for any advice you have to offer. It's been a rough day lol.

There is one ingredient for being a good parent and it seems you have it -- COURAGE. (((HUGS))) Take it from one who has been living this for 16 years -- things will get better.