Discipline question for 2 yo | Autism PDD

Hi hun

i am shell mum of 6

one with autism one with aspergers one with triats one with lbd

i also have AS

children do not understand discapline really untill the are abit older and with a special child they will not see it as you do bullying

he may like the response he gets from his sister the tears her screwing up her face or screaming

he may like the attention he gets or he may like you raction or your voice change

i know my son likes people crying

he used to poke everyone in the eyes just to see tears lol

shell

My son is 2 years 3 months old. I haven't really seen a need for much intentional discipline until now. He has gotten into a habit of poking and pushing his baby sister quite often. This seems kind of like normal behavior for a 2 yo, but I'm not sure what disciple would be appropriate or effective for him given his ASD. So far we have just told him "No" and "Be gentle with baby sister" but the message is not getting through. I don't think he will get the concept of a time-out.

I have thought about taking away his "lovey"--a plastic star that he carries around ALL the time. It is something I could do immediately after the behavior but it would cause him to throw a major fit. I have thought about trying to reward him when he treats his baby sister well, but there really are not that many opportunities for this.

Do any of these sound like good options? What else can I do to teach him that behavior is not acceptable?

We've always done discipline exactly the same for both boys.

At age 2, we just used redirection. If a toy was thrown, it was taken away. If a child hit another child, we just separated them and said "no hitting." We didn't really punish at that age.

Around age 3 we started 123 Magic and have used that ever since.

Hi Joy
I am sure that you do but when you tell him no or Be gentle do you show him what you mean and redirect his behavior?

Does your son like to be read to. If he does perhaps you could make up a social story for him to show him how to play with his sister appropriately or as I am sure you have probably done already get some of the new baby books out to read to him.

BTW My son is extactly the same age as yours. Good luck and I hope that things improve.

Joy,

I wouldn't use "No" unless it adds what you are saying not to do......."No Hitting"

I also would be wary about saying "be gentle with your sister"..........as a 2 year old with ASD this may be a little long and the message may be getting lost?.

I use two/three word sayings. i.e

Feet on Floor

Hands down

Food on table

No hitting

sit to eat

etc etc.......break it down but tell exactly what you want.I personally wouldnt take away the star - unless its being used as a weapon :) hitting with star? Star gone!

Hi
What is 123 Magic?

My son has some behavior issues at times. We do time outs. I didn't think they would work either, but I find they have been. I also praise him when he is behaving appropriately. But when he is hitting, for example, I have to remove him and place him in time out. I don't sit him there for long, just long enough for him to calm down. Then I have him say "sorry' to who ever he hit and have him tell me why he is in time-out. He will say 'hitting'. Then I say, 'yes, we can't hit people' It took awhile for him to get the rountine, but he understands it now. I am more successful at home however then when I'm out because I don't have a time-out spot. So I still need to work on that part..... Good luck.I love 1-2-3 Magic. I believe you can start using it at age 2. I got my copy from the library, it's a quick read and very effective.