OMG! REAL phone conversation! | Autism PDD
Ths post made me cry too what a sweetheart you have EVEN THOUGH I AM NEW HERE THE PHONE COVERSATION STORY IS AWESOME! YOU MUST HAVE BEEN SO EXCITED! I BET JASPER ALSO FELT SOME SORT OF HUGE ACCOMPLISHMENT AND EXCITEMENT ALSO, HATS OFF TO JASPER!! IT'S PARENTS LIKE US WHO WILL NEVER TAKE FOR GRANTED A SPOKEN WORD OR BETTER YET A SENTENCE. PARENTS OF CHILDREN WITH NO DELAYS OR SPECIAL NEEDS MIGHT NOT EVEN UNDERSTAND THE IMPORTANCE OF WHAT YOU AND YOUR SON JUST CONQUERED. THERE IS HOPE THAT THERE IS A LIGHT AT THE END OF SOME OF THESE TUNNELS WE TRAVEL.
MOTHER OF ABBY GRACE WHO IS 3/DX WITH PDD/NOS
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You are truly the people "who get it"
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I agree wholeheartedly. I just love visiting this forum and finding people who UNDERSTAND... that is so precious.
Mary
MamaKat....I don't think I would be able to type, let alone speak after your experience. I am soooo happy to hear these things from people such as yourself with older tots. While you "brag" (and believe me...I would)...you are giving hope, which is a wonderful gift. Thank you!
It is moments like these.....
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Thanks everyone for your posts on this. You are truly the people "who get
it" I can hardly wait to hear your good news!
Thanks for letting me share. I'm floatin' on air.
What a hearwarming story........I am smiling a mile for you!!!
I've hardly ever talked to my kids on the phone (they're either at school or with me 99% of the time). But when they talk on the phone to other people, they don't say much, their attention fades, they're basically hopeless. It's a skill we need to work on.
Thanks for sharing. Success stories give us all hope.
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Well... ill be turning 25 in about a week, and I must say, to this day I dont talk hardly at all on the phone, all I say is what needs to be said, then I say, good bye!
I hate phones, only use them when I must, when its nessissary to contact someone and relay info quickly, checking my call history over the past week on my cell, no call I have made exceeded 60 seconds, heh.!
Woodsman25 -- I'm not so fond of the phone myself. I'd rather send e-mails or text messages most of the time, especially in my non-native language (where I really feel the lack of shared context and visual clues, so I struggle with comprehension).
What is it about the phone that you don't like? Do you remember learning to use the phone?
Mamakat,
I am so happy for you and Jasper. Wao! I would be floating on air too. I am so glad you share with us. That gives hope to those of us who are not there yet. When that happens to me, I would definitely share. That is not bragging. We all know how you feel.
Concernedpa.
[QUOTE=NorwayMom]Woodsman25 -- I'm not so fond of the phone myself. I'd rather send e-mails or text messages most of the time, especially in my non-native language (where I really feel the lack of shared context and visual clues, so I struggle with comprehension).
What is it about the phone that you don't like? Do you remember learning to use the phone?
[/QUOTE]I was taught how to use a phone at the age of 8, when I moved to CNY in 1991 (summer). I had never used a phone prior, yet I remember my phone number to the house i lived in to this day even b4 I moved in 1991.
I was 8 turning 9 in the fall, and recall making several phone calls during that period of time to neghboors kids my age, trying to organize whatever we were doing at that particular time. My phone messages were always to the point and short. The only thing I recall as far as being taught phone etiquit is saying 'hello' in the beginning and 'bye' at the end, and I had to fill in the middle myself. I hate small talk, and will only engadge when nessissary, anyone you talk to who talks to me on the phone, eather it be past or persent will tell you im quick to convey my message then suddenly when I have said all I need to ill say, 'ok, see ya then good bye' and hang up quickly b4 they even can say their 'goodbye.' I have always been like this, not sure why, I always my whole life have felt rushed in my activities, like their is a time limit for everything (and their is) so I try to acomplish the most using the least amount of time.
I love using the computer, text messaging works great I can do small talk at my own pace, think about what was 'said' and formulate a response at my own pace. I dont feel pressured by a time limit.
I always feel I need to do stuff in a certin window of oppertunity, otherwise ppl will notice. Its strange yes, nobody else seems to operate this way, but, life is time limited, and i wanna acomplish all I can with whatever time I have left on this planet. Perhapse thats the subconsious thinking I exibit when I deal with others eather in person, on the phone or even online. I have always stressed when I felt I was not being 'timely' in fact, ive been punished so much growing up for not being punctual during curfew, that now I constantly have to know the time, and never, no matter what happens, am late to anything. Heh!That is such a sweet story. That is a wonderful story and thank you so much for sharing it with us.
It gives me hope for the future.
Wow! That's truly amazing! Thank you for sharing that, MamaKat...I would be thrilled, too.
I am turning carwheels for you and your sweet boy! I know your soon to be ex is a bit of a scumbucket, but I'm happy for him too. I will rescind the scientology newsletter I had him signed up for. Glad you're pleased and that he was able to let you know what was worrying himLove it! What an amazing little boy you have!
That is so wonderful!That is amazing what an awesome job Jasper Wow, that sounds like it could be a major breakthrough! Ill bet you wished you could have recorded it! Hopefully its the start of great things to come.Wow, that was really touching.
I'm glad you shared your story - it reminded me how far Sam has come this past year. He's been doing so many new things with a new sense of himself that I'm becoming alittle blaise over his recent accomplishments.
mama to Sam 8yrs PDD NOS OCD ODD PPD and Alex 2yrs
FANTASTIC... I absolutely loved reading it. Just beautiful!
Mary
That's terrific!
I've hardly ever talked to my kids on the phone (they're either at school or with me 99% of the time). But when they talk on the phone to other people, they don't say much, their attention fades, they're basically hopeless. It's a skill we need to work on.
Thanks for sharing. Success stories give us all hope.
Tyler would rather pick up the refrigerator than the telephone. Imagine my shock when I called home Tuesday and he answered the phone, "Hello Daddy". He didn't look at the caller ID but just answered the phone that way. He also answered the phone that way when my wife's cousin called the night before
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We had a 4 sentence exchange before he gave the phone to my mother-in-law and walked away. He also said, "Good bye Daddy, I love you". when we hung up. I was floating on air the rest of the day. That is so, great on so many levels. Him asking for help before he was overwhelmed, and being able to convey his feelings over the phone, then asking about you. WOW!! This is something to celebrate. That's so very wonderful for many reasons! I'm impressed he asked about you, too. Way to go Jasper. That's a 4 year old?WOW That is absolutely fantastic. I read it twice and brought tears to my eyes. It gives me so much hope! I am super happy for you. I bet you got off the phone and didn't really know what to do. Congrats!!!It's late, but I needed to share. I just had the most amazing and
unprecedented phone conversation with my child! WOW. I swear we
spoke for at least 15 minutes straight.
He has been having a really difficult time navigating all the changes in his
schedule lately. His sitter moved away, school's out, I'm studying fo
finals...you can't imagine. He spent a couple of nights up late worrying
and crying, not being able to sleep. I stayed up with him, comforting
him, validating him, and helping him get through it.
Tonight he went to his Dad's house (something he never does on a
weekday) because his Dad--and this is another amazing thing--actually
took work off tomorrow so I could attend classes all day tomorrow.
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So he is having one of his "hard nights" and his Dad has never dealt with
this. He said Jasper wanted to call me. Jasper gets on the phone and tells
me he is "so sad about so many different things" I told him it must be
hard to have another change in his schedule. He said,"yes, and I don't
know what to do. Can you help me?"
We talked about what was making him sad, and we came up with a plan
to help him get to sleep. (included asking daddy to get him a drink, turn
the lights on, and make a schedule of everything that was going to
happen tomorrow, so he could look at it and feel better) He said "there
are two very important things I have for the schedule, It's not about
breakfast or lunch, it's that I need to put something special I can do with
Daddy on it." uh, wow. I blew him kisses over the phone. He giggled and
said he "got them all". and THEN HE SENT SOME BACK TO ME!
after we weathered the "storm" he said (no joke)"Um, well, how are you
doing tonight?"
You have no idea. I just can't believe it. I'm not bragging, I'm AMAZED
and shocked. I think I'm going to cry. seriously. my mind has been
blown. This kid hasn't said more than one or two three-word sentences
on the phone in his life. Always followed by a really LOUD, "Bye-bye!!!"
Mamakat - I"D BE BRAGGING!!! AWESOME!!!!!!!!!
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