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Jasper has been having more difficulty lately with the transistions when he
goes to visit his father. I was wondering if anyone could share advice, or a
ritual/routine that has helped them in this situation

This entire summer has been pretty challenging for J, and he has 'kept it
together' pretty well. But he's showing signs of cumulative stress, I think.

New routine and room at summer school, new camp, new babysitter, I went
back to school after taking a term off, now he's on break, etc....

He's always been happy to see his dad, but now he seems conflicted and
stressed out. (whiney, clingy, stalling...) I really want to help him through
this rough patch. Any thoughts are welcome!I am unsure I can give advice yet- my husband and I just decided to get a divorce. I know for my son, I try to give him lots of love and attention, set boundaries, and try best I can to tell hubby what we have been doing and try to be consistent. I know it is tough and I hate it for our little ones- I wish you well.Q's father and I separated when Q was 3 yrs old. He's 10 yrs old now. Looking back it was tough at first with all the changes. His dad moved in with someone right away. i started going back to work and he started going to daycare all in a 6 month period. At the time I did not know that he was on the spectrum, i just thought his troubles were all due to my depression and bad marriage.

If you and your ex can make things similar at each house that would help alot. At the time my ex wanted to do things his way at that was that. Over time the ex got less and less pigheaded(sp) and we were able to work together to make thingsw easier on Q.

It takes time for our kiddos to adjust but eventually he will.

I am here if either of you need to talk or you could pm me any time. Even if I don't have the answer I'll gladly listen

Hang in there! momof139320.6061921296There's a book I read a while ago....Mom's House, Dad's House.....I think it was called, that really helped me.  It basically said to keep the routine the same as much as possible for toddlers.  Fortunately, my ex is pretty compliant....my son WILL NOT sleep anywhere but his own bedroom during the school year at this point in his young life.  That is for everyone's benefit as my son craves sameness and is a wild man without it.  As my kids get older, I think they will be able to handle Mom's House and Dad's House better.  But for now, they "live" at Mom's house and "visit" Dad's house.  Maybe Jasper will be less stressed once he gets familiar with all the changes going on around him.  Good luck.
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