Should/Can I teach dd to be jealous?? | Autism PDD
This question will be probably take u by complete shock (mixed in with disgust and disdain!) BUT>>>>>>>>>> should I be fostering feelings of jealously in my dd as a medium of emotional development??
She doesn't care if I hold another baby/toddler... she doesn't bat an eyelid - continues with what she is doing - if at the same time sh eis smiling at me, she continues to smile, if she is turning pages of book, she continues to do that!
I know that at this age (2 yrs +), choildren start showing feelongs of jealously when the mom takes to another child... I see this in ALL the neighborhood toddlers but my own! Is this somwething that NEEDS TO BE TAUGHT?? I know I sound strange but will I need to teach her all emotions/ - positive or negative??
Rita - Payne was the same way...eventually he just started to do it himself. Payne is 7, but is socially and emotionally a 4 year old. I suspect the same of your dd...just a little behind emotionally. No biggie.Thankyou Payne's mom.
What about the whole" it's mine" concept Can it be taught??- My dd couldn't care less if we snatch something away form her.. My biggest fear is that ppl will trample all over her and she wouln't even notice... or rather know what to do and ppl will continue to harrass her!! I am not saying I want a fiesty child (believe me when she hits me, it REALLY hurts) but I do want her to be able to stand up for herself....
I went through the same thing with Zoe when Skylar was born. She is almost 8 and he is gonna be 5 next month. They have JUST started to show slight (VERY slight) jealousness. And I am so happy for that. Skylar can be a very demanding child and Zoe is very well aware of why he is the way he is, and she knows that as soon as I get his things out of the way, I am all hers. Skylar shows a lot less jealousy then Zoe does, I just assume thats its due to the autism. Chances are she will eventually discover jealousy. I wouldn't worry too much about it right now. Trust me, most of the time its a blessing that they aren't jealous.
I guess I've never thought about this before, but neither of my kids have ever been particularly jealous when I held or paid attention to another child. Maybe because of the twin thing that they have always been used to sharing mommy?
My ds didn't ever say "it's mine" until my daughter started taking his toys (at about 9 months old). Now, I hear it all the time!
Like others have said, you will probably eventually see it - but she will probably take longer than others tp develop this concept.
I don't know if you want to teach jealousy - but definitely standing up for herself. I would monitor her close in playgroups/playgrounds and if someone takes a toy from her, I would go intervene and try to get her to say politely to the other child, "I was playing with that. Please give it back." If that doesn't work - you can model for her and tell the other child that it is not nice to take a toy from another child without asking. Hopefully, eventually she will start doing this as well. Before my dd was born, ds was ALWAYS having toys taken from him and I would have to intervene every time. I didn't suspect autism at the time however...
My son is very very jelous, a way too much, I cannot hold anyone`s child at all, and it does hurt as well. I guess there is a bit of nature of the child as well.
I would teach her to be jelous, but she is too young, maybe when she is 3.
i only have one child and my son isnt jealous or hasnt shows any signs but i do notice that when he see's me using somethiing from my hubby,he tell me put it back thats daddy's. i dont know if this is being protective ,but when he tells me this he sounds so serious and firm about it.Copyright Autism-PDD.net