temper! | Autism PDD

What are the seizure types. Mine was absence. I required lots of structure/routine. I also need lots of repetition for learning things. nikki

I can certanly understand where this is coming from

it may have alot to do with the changes in the seasons everyone knows school is coming up ive been stressed out myself too lately i think this may just be something that happens around this time of year we just get a little overloaded

i think alot of the doctors appointments nonstop

may be setting him off as well it can be stressfull for a frightened autistic child who does not know what is going on

i think that what might work if you can is maybe to postpone a few appointments until he starts to destress and relax it may be all alittle too much for him right now and this may be his way of showing it.

i understand though the seriousness of his seizures though he may need some i know we disscussed alot of this in pms

my advice is to keep on eye on him and speand alot of time with him i have a feeling he really needs you now

and try to ask whats bothering him im sure your husband can help with this too

good luck my freind and i hope that things get better

An autism consultant here in Norway explained that autistic children are under a lot of chronic stress, so many frustrations, for example sensory overstimulation and trouble communicating. It doesn't take much extra to push them over the threshold of what they can tolerate. Think of it as the straw that broke the camel's back, when he tries to rip his clothes because of trouble getting dressed.

It sounds like it's been an extra stressful time in your lives lately, due to the medical issues.

Do your best to minimize stress and sensory overload. Help him find alternatives that meet his sensory needs (if hitting seems to have a sensory component). Give him words for his feelings and let him know that you understand that he's having a hard time. Remind yourself that he is not overreacting -- he has a heavy load to carry.

At 4 years old, he might be too young for doing breathing exercises to de-stress on his own. You might have better luck teaching him to tell you when he needs a break. Here's an illustrated social story that can help with that.

http://portal.esc20.net/portal/page/portal/doclibraryroot/pu blicpages/SpecialEducation/autism/autismsocstories/NeedBreak .pdf

Good luck with everything.

Daniel has a Short temper.Trouble with self help skills is most likely a fine motor problem. I alsao think the other issue is the lang. issues are kids have. I think they are showing us their frustiration with things. I had to show Daniel how to do the clothing on/off thing many times useing adult clothes as the example. We need to mirror for our kids what we want from them. We used a pick a color with deep breathing and don't look at even with shots. I still use that today for me.

Hayden has been so short tempered lately! Weve noticed that the past couple years hes been short tempered but lately hes been such a terror! If hes having a hard time getting his clothes off he says he wants to rip it and goes into dramatics, or if his toy raptor wont stand up hel throw it and try to break it and scream. He wont ask us for help hel just act like the world is over. Ive taught him to do the breath and count and that dosnt seem to work because he gets pushed off the edge so easily that its hard to talk rationally to him and he runs away and screams bloody murder if you try to bring him to you or pull him out under the table.

I know the past couple monthes have been hard for him with his diagnosis, seizures, new meds, and tons of tests/apps non stop and today an EKG (attempt)but I dont know if this is why hes becomming so mean. He always has hit himself when upset, but hes also constantly hitting our dogs and not to mention us. Hes not like this constantly but its more like sudden bursts through out the day. Also we put him in time out but almost as soon as he gets out hes hitting the dog, throwing the puppy off the bed or throwing a fit and screaming because something didnt go HIS way. Some things that upset him are truly ridiculous too. We rarely do naps because it always has been a struggle to get him to take them, altho bedtime he sleeps perfectly (altho hyper in evening).

Anyway, sorry to drag this on.... what should I do? Nothing seems to work because he always does the same things again! Its like he dosnt understand that he shouldnt hit etc. but I know he does because hes an extremely sensitive person to the max and is constantly screaming "you hurt MY FEEEELINGS!" when we correct him. Any suggestions?

Rainman, his app. are pretty much over (hopefully), just an MRI this coming wednesday. I hope hes not stressing out about school, I have a good feeling hel do great there, but who knows? Hes excited but I guess he can still get stressed out about it tho.

For me i always found it to be stressfull and exciting then as i got older i just dreaded it i was happy to get out of school no doubt i think he might be alittle stressed.

glad to hear most of his docs appointments are almost over and im also happy the mri advice i gave you was helpfull

(((big hugs tou you and little hayden)))))

Thanks everyone.

Norway mom I love that social story! I think it will help him alot. Ill definately read it to him. I taught him the breathing exercises about a year ago and he actually used them but not anymore! Do schools have a little break space for kids? I need to make one for him, I think it will really help him and hel love it!

Emerald, hayden is also a visual learner thats what the dev. ped. told us. Ill try the visual chart I think hel really like that esp. if its using something he likes as pictures. Also did you get my pm? I sent 2 and I dont think their going thru cuz they arnt in my outbox, let me know.

Danielsmom his doc said hes having partial seizures. Hes very verbal so thats why I dont understand why hes not telling us whats upseting him? I guess its more of an overwhelming thing for him.

Thanks again everyone!

When Mason needs breaks at school they take him to the OT room...let him do some sensory stuff. This is for times when he is getting really frustrated and that temper is starting to get out of hand. They do let him take little walks if they catch it early enough...the teacher writes little "pretend" notes to someone and asks Mason to deliver it...just getting him out of the environment sometimes helped so much.

Mason is the same way. And it is so hard to figure out what is causing it.

For us we have been using pictures. Even though he is verbal his Dr said he is a very visual learner and those pictures will hopefully help him realize what we are truly asking of him. So now I have made some new "schedules." With pictures to show him in which order I would like him to do things.

Also stories with pictures on how to do things, like brush his teeth and get dressed.

We also use something his OT came up with to show him he isn't at a level we want him at. We chose to use Spongebob for just right--squidward for too high or crabby--and patrick for to low. When he starts getting crabby or frustrated we show him the picture of Squidward and remind him we want him to be like Spongebob etc. It works fairly well if we catch the temper early enough.

Good luck!!