Well I do love all eh suggestions that were brought up I see a few that would work for all three of my boys.
mosesjr_mommy I am not one who belives in any type of spanking, expecially a child with ASD. It only makes them feel confused and more aggitated they think heck if you can hit why can't I.
Ihave been dealing with the same issuse that you have yet my son will actually kick hit bit spit outside the house to he even tried to hurt some police officers the other day.
May I suggest that if you can't hang a punching bag you buy a large pilow maybe a body pillow and have him hit, kick at this if possiable attach it to his bedrm wall or a wall that he can get to easily. this way this pillow is use only for getting aggression out. I did try this for awhile with my son until the pillow was so beat up, It looks like I may have to go out and find a new one for him. Also I found finding a pillow with colours that are relaxing work the best yellow was one that worked well with him. It did have some patterns in ti but was mainly yellow.
Good luck
It looks as though the little guy is seeking proprioceptive input to his body. I would suggest increasing his activity level during the day with Crashing, jumping, and heavy work(large muscle) activities.... children need 4 hours of "sweating play" when they have an underactive sensory system. If your child is seeking these type of deep pressure movements from others, he needs to have his needs met in other ways. This is your child way of asking for help with regulatinghis body. Gymnastics is a great way to give this child input!
trampoline; rolling your child up in blankets to squish them; obstacle course though the home; carrying heavy baskets of clothing/toys to another location in the home; wheel barrel elaking on hands; animal walks up/down the hallway; relay races; etc.
i have come to conclusion he is seeking deep pressure movements . thsi apt. is so small. but his behavior started getting worst when we came from vacation where we were in my dad's huge vacation house with a yard etc... besides he use to get trampoline etcc on his oocupational... thank god school starts in 2 weeks and he will continue this. Might help me gain control in the house. But when i do spend the whole day out with him in park etc... he behaves better at home afterwards. Thanks for all your advice! Fianlly his behavior gets a name! hello , i been dealing with my son pushing everybody he passes by ,he kicks,stomps.hit you in the back, kick you if he is sitting next to you. all this is in my house obvious. to the people who live here. we live with my parents.hubby and us. why is he doing this? no natter how much you scold him, veerything is funny to him and he cries but keeps doing it.My guess is it's sensory.
One of the things we try and do when C starts sensory seeking behavior in an unacceptable way is to find an acceptable way that is as close to the unacceptable way as possible. A psychologist recommended this to us once and it works wonders for both kids.
C liked to jump on the couch & beds. We bought a trampoline. When he would jump on the couch we would redirect him to the trampoline - "we don't jump on furniture, we jump on the trampoline" and take him there.
C liked to throw things. We bought a bin of soft balls. When he whips a toy at his brothers head we redirect him to the balls - "we don't throw toys, only these balls" and we play catch with him.
How about going to a sporting goods store and buying a training bag like they use for boxing and hang it from the ceiling? And even some boxing gloves? He can push it, kick it, punch it all he likes. You could redirect with "we don't hit people, we hit the boxing bag." They also make some soccer trainers where the ball is attached to a rope. You could get one and redirect the kicking to the ball.
A question - what does he do when you ignore the behavior completely? Just pretend you didn't notice? If he stops when you ignore it, then he was probably liking the reaction of the target more than the sensation of the action. If ignoring makes no different, then it's likely it's the sensation of the action that is giving pleasure and redirecting the sensory need might have a positive impact.
One of the most effective strategies for reducing negative behaviors (kicking, biting, hitting) and increasing positive behaviors (using language to control situations) is called Positive Behavioral Support (PBS). This is a system in which the events that lead up to a negative behavior are identified. An alternative behavior is then taught to the child to replace the negative behavior that was getting them in trouble. For example, Positive Behavioral Support works best when you can create a team approach. Every person who interacts regularly with your child should participate (teachers, therapists, bus driver, parents, cub scout leader). The goal is to identify the situations in which the child breaks down. Try to figure out what is causing the negative reaction. Is the task too difficult? Is the room/bus too noisy? Is there some other sensory issue? Sometimes the causes can be difficult to determine. Perhaps there is an association with something negative that happened before. Once the causes are identified, replacement behaviors need to be developed. This might mean teaching the child a specific sentence to say when frustrated (I can't do it. Help me please.). It might also mean changing the expectations of others Social stories are often used to help children within the autism spectrum. These stories illustrate to the child specific situations and give them possible responses. Social stories can be tailored to your child's specific needs.
hi hun
he carnt stop himself it is an overwhelming urge
he gets pleasure from it.and he gets upset because he can not help it and gets into trouble he knows that
what he doesnt understand is why he carnt do it why touching or smacking people is not acceptable.
you could try a reward chart with a treat at the end,ice cream,game,book whatever something to motivate him
for a full week make a chart and each day if he has not hit anyone put a sticker on the chart if he hits someone take a sticker off
it will take a while to show any affect
this is a link for online certificates to make for him if he doesnt hit anyone give him a certificate
we use quite hands visual aids
it took a long time to make lucas understand
every time he touched anyone or hit them has yours does in the supermarket,doctors,etc
we would show the card and in the end he knew he he should not be doing it.