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Hi
My name is Hollie
I found out last week that my 2 1/2 son is autisc
I don't know what to do I want him to talk to me and call
me mama all I here I dada
Thanks
Hollie
Welcome!! We've spoken already but I wanted to say it again. You'll get great support here. Both emotional and practical. So glad you're here.
pat
Hollie,
I also noticed with my HFA son (Takoda) 3 was a magic age for his speech development. He was in ST from shortly after he turned 2 but it still took nearly a year til he was truely verbal.
I also couldn't call Takoda conversational at 3 but at 4 1/2 he is somewhat. Takoda answers questions and asks them and is also learning how to answer feelings questions. I think his ST and schooling has really helped.
I don't know what level of the spectrum your son is on but my point is don't give up he may surprise you.
Also welcome to the board!
Nelle
Alot of kids say dada first. It is easier for a child to say than mama. Different muscles of the face are used for mama versus dada. My kids said dada first. Some kids develop language later. And early intervention is the key. Now Gabe always babbled but you couldn't understand what he was saying until he was older. Jeffrey had speech and then lost it. He didn't begin speaking again until he was 7. But both of them had early intervention and went to a day treatment facility, which really helped them.
Tammy
Hollie,
Hi and welcome to the board. My son didn't call me ma ma when he was that age either. He did start saying Mommy when he was about 3. Every child that is autistic is different too. Some don't ever speak...some will speak much later...and some speak early. Early intervention and therapies are in my opinion the best thing out there right now for our children. My son is verbal but by no means can he carry on a conversation yet..LOL His language is filled with "i want ___" or echolalia mostly. The language that he does have that is appropriate was taught through his echolalia or rote. But he is making progress so I just hold on to hope that one day we will have that conversation talk. I hope you like it here. There is so much support. I've met some really good friends here and this board has been a life saver!! Take care,
karrie
My son was 2 1/2 when he was dx. I use to dream that he started talking and I called and cancelled his evaluation. But, alas it was a dream. At 4 he still is mostly non-verbal, his words come and go, as does his use of pictures and / or the minimal signs he has.
Just keep on doing what your doing, As the Ped Neuro told me, no one knows what our children's final outcomes will be. Some children go up and down and on and off the spectrum. He has an asd child himself and it truly showed in the loving and compassionate way he treated my hysterical child, during his exam.
Hang in there!!!!! I can say that about 6 months ago, I was hugging my lil guy and telling him I love him (like I do everyday) and he looked up at me and repeated "iluewe', I cried for an hour and then called and / or emailed everyone I could think of to let them know. He has never said it again,,,,,,but he said it once!
Best of luck to you!
Wow, Jean ... that's terrific! How wonderful that you got to hear your son say those infamous words the first time (am praying you will hear them many more times to come).
Hi Hollie! Welcome to the board. our son is almost 2 1/2 and he says very few words ... Mama and Dada being the main two (and mostly Mama). I know how upset you must feel, as I felt that way before Luke started saying Mama (he usually only says it when he's upset about something now). You have to hang in there and let the therapies work. I've been told by everyone involved with my son's case that this is something that will take years of therapy to help him to continue to progress. It is SOOO frustrating when all we want is to hear our children's sweet voices speaking with us ... you certainly have many empathetic friends here.
Welcome Hollie!
My ds is 4.5, he is verbal but can not hold a conversation. This board is wonderful and the support, well I just can't say enough! I feel like a gained a whole bunch of new friends.
Never give up!
from another Holly
If it is a specialized programming in preschool to deal with his disabilities then I am pretty sure they are used to non verbal kids and even kids that do not eat solid foods. That could be a sensory delay. The more early intervention you get for your child, the better his longterm outcome will be. Tammy Hollie I know we all fear our kids going to preschool unable to communicate, not eating, tantruming and scared to death.... But it really is the best way to get them help. You will be surprised what repetition structure and routine do for these kids and the teachers are usually trained even in my poor school system. (LOL) Have you addressed your specific concerns for your son in his IEP? ALot of schools will work on eating issues....... Hi Hollie, As soon as my daughter was diagnosed we started her with Early Childhood Intervention. And then we did OT and PT "on the side"......you are doing the right things. Read, Read, Read......Hang in there!!!!! Jerri Paul didn't have sentences til he was 4-5 and didn't have anything that resembled conversation (you know, back-forth-back-forth) til he was 7-8 and that was off and on. He is, within, the last year started to have conversations. Nothing deep but hey--they are conversation! This thread reminded me of the first time Paul ever called out to me. He was 3 and we were at my sister's house. All of a sudden we hear Paul calling from upstairs "WHAT!!, WHAT!!". She and I looked at eachother--puzzled but we were used to that--then she cracked up laughing--"that's exactly how you sound when anyone calls you so he thinks that how you call someone. It took a while for him to understand that you use the person's name when calling out to them. But he called for me!! What Welcome to the board Hollie. My 26th mth old is not dx'd yet. He has been in ST for a few mths, and just started saying mama finally. At first he would just repeat it over and over w/out real purpose (though I could care less I was thrilled to hear it anyway!). Now he uses it for me. It's so great. He doesn't say much else, but I just love hearing it. And I really wondered if or when I would. ST can really do amazing things, sometimes quicker than you expect. So I would for sure enroll your child in some speech therapy, if not in it already. Every child w/ asd is diff in the way they progress. But there is always plenty to have hope about. I was flipping pretty well when I first was concerned ds might have asd. Now I'm prepared for his eval in Sept. I am accepting of it. I've had some time to digest it and learn a lot about it. I've talked to parents on here and other places. And I've learned that it's not the end of the world. He will be fine. I love who he is. I find his odd quirks endearing. It's challenging for sure w/ the tantrums and other such issues. Taking him places can be a headache and half many times. But it's all worth it when he decides to give me a kiss. See my ds allows affection most times, but he never gives it. Rarely at least. I can count on less than one hand the times he just decided for no reason to give me affection. And I remember each time like it is so precious, because it is. The third time was just last week. I had him in the front of a grocery cart in Walmart and he was being unusually good while we waited in line at the deli. Suddenly he pursed his little lips together and I bent down to see what he wanted (he makes very odd faces and grimaces for no reason all the time so I pretty much just thought that's all it was) and he gave me a kiss. Then he just looked away like nothing happened. But I about teared up. I know he loves and needs me even if he isn't good at expressing it. And he has my heart. Amber
I have to figer out what he wants by guessing or listening
to his crys I just wish he could talk so he could tell me what
he wants
He is in early intervention for speech and feeding and he
gets OT and soon behavioral therpy
Mommy,
Sign language is a big help. My daughter didn't call me Daddy
until she was almost seven. She had been saying Mama for more
than a year. She did use the sign for daddy for a few years.
If he learns a few signs for the basics you can really build on that
and then you will get so good at guessing what he wants people will
think you are pyschic. The therpies should incorporate some sign.
It is very frustrating but allow yourself to realize you are not expected to know everything. Just never stop trying.
John
Thats great that hes already receiving EI does he get speech through them? Also was he premature? Wondering what got EI involved when he was so young. All sorts of things will play a factor as Im sure you know. If he can say DADA it shows he is capable of speech.... its just finding that connection for him to start progressing with it.... hang in there.......
at birth he had a feeding tube for the first two weeks of life because
he would not latch on to a bottle It took him until he was two 1/2
years of age to come off of baby foods to eatting soft
foods like honeybuns and pbj sandwitchs and some crunchy foods like
crackers and cookies
My son gets IE a speach for feeding OT for fine motor and a specail ed
teacher for learning now they are sending out a behiavoral person for
my son But right now he is still in day care until January when he
turns three once he does turn three he will go to preschool
Hollie
program and I don't know if I am going to let that happen because with
him not talking or eating sold foods I think it will be hard for him.He
still has the under standing of a one year old he do not under stand
what we are saying to him
He is in day care but preschool I am a lttle scared that he will have a hrad time
Hollie
Hi Hollie Welcome to the board.... Hang in there....... Sadly our kids have delays and waiting to hear them speak (if they ever do) takes time and patients! as others have mentioned Early Intervention is the key.... make sure you get the therapies and stay CONSISTENTMy son is in early I ntervention and has been for two years
Hollie,
Keep talking to your son and encouraging him to talk. My son Lil
J used a lot of grunts and hand pulling at first when he wanted things,
but we continued to talk to him, when we would go on walks I'd point
out things and talk to him about the things we were seeing. Over
the years he has picked up words and phrases (still doesnt have
conversations with me), but I'll take what I can get. Even though
your son doesn't talk at this time doesn't mean he will not. It
actually took his little brother to teach him to say Mommie. My
youngest would always call me from his room, mommie, mommie, I said,
mommie, of course I would come running. Once Lil J, discovered by
calling mommie I would come he yelled out "mommie" one day--I almost
fell out my chair. Of course, I went running right away and there
in his room was my 14-year smiling from ear to ear.
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