THATS A GREAT BATTLE CRY!!!,SCHOOL IS LOOMING,MAYBE I NEED TO THINK MORE POSITIVE
Thanks Evie.
Linda
I want to say upfront that I do NOT wish to offend anyone with this post, and it is NOT intended to be a commentary on others and where they are right now on their journey with autism. This is just where I am now, and where I hope to go in the future. I felt the need to post this here, where hopefully, others will understand what I'm trying to say to myself, kwim?
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I have thrown in the towel. I am giving up. These are the things I am giving up:
I refuse to be afraid anymore.
I refuse to worry incessantly.
I refuse to feel sorry for myself, or for my son.
I refuse to reduce him to a label, an IQ number, a skill set, or a bundle of deficits, or allow others to do so.
I refuse to mold him into someone that he is not.
These are the things I want to do from here on out:
I will try to find the silver lining in every cloud.
I will do my best to emphasize his strengths, and support his weaknesses.
I will keep my ears, eyes and mind open.
I will not stand in his way, when I should step aside, and always stand up for him until he can stand up on his own.
Thanks for letting me quack away! Whew. I feel better, getting that off my chest. It really feels good to let go of all of that stuff. I'm trying to take a leaf out of my husband's Book of Eternal Optimism! All the negativity has been getting to me, and really it's all for nothing.
I'm going to see that Jason gets the services and supports that he needs, and I'm not going to keep getting sucked into the doom and gloom of future prospects, especially when we really have no idea what the future holds for him right now, except for endless possibilities, and not all of them are bad. I'm going to do my absolute best to remember that.
Hope y'all will excuse my rambling...I think I ought to get to bed soon!
That's how I feel exactly Evie...especially the silver lining to every cloud part.
When Brendon smeared peanut butter everywhere....he tried a new food.
When he got fingerpaint all over himself...he followed directions and painted.
When he takes his pull up off and pees on the floor...he's not peeing in pullups anymore.
I just try to look for something positive in each situation lol. It's hard sometimes...but not impossible.
Hey Evie, can I borrow this and try to do the same for my child? I am so tired of the stress and worry. I really needed to see this post today. Thank You. '' I refuse to mold him into something he is not,'' that is my motto now. I love this statement. I don't think you've rambled at all. It seems you've thought things through thoroughly. I applaud this new thinking. Once we've gotten our kids intervention, the rest is up to them. Believe me, many surprise us. Keep us posted on how this new attitude is helping.Good for you
It sounds like you are developing a great attitude and outlook on how to deal with everything that having a child with autism can bring - the good and the not so good.
Evie, that is inspiring! Good for you!
What an inspirational post! I love it!