I am having a really bad week!!!!!!!!!!! | Autism PDD
Hello Everyone! I am having a really bad week. A couple of weeks ago I was overjoyed to learn that I was pregnat again. My husband however was not quite as happy as I was. We had always planned on three but he was concerned about the chances of Autism in this baby but just when he was starting to give in to the idea of having another little angel to welcome to our home. On saturday I started bleeding and by Sunday I had lost the baby. I know there most have been something wrong and it is natures way but I really wanted this baby. It is so cruel how happy you can be one minute and have your joy stolen. I am not giving up though. If God wants me to be a mom again I will be . I could just use a hug. Sorry for being off topic. Amy mom to Joshua almost 4 in a couple of weeks PDD - NOS and Jenna 2 and a half(((((HUG)))))))So sorry to hear the news. You are right you will be a mom to 3 if it is meant to be.
So sorry for your loss...be extra special to yourself:) (((HUGS!)))
That is so sad. Wishing you strength.
Oh, I'm so sorry. I know that's awfully hard. Hugs to you.
I AM SOOOOOOOO SORRY! If you need anyone to talk to, please, please PM me. I know how hard it is to lose a baby. When I was 19, I was pregnant . It was a baby I had no means to raise, my life was a mess at the time, I wanted to finish college, and my boyfriend and I were not together for very long....I was scared to death to be a mother, but when I lost that child who I had come to feel so much love for in the few months I was pregnant, my world caved in. I will never forget the sweet angel I never got to meet. I named her Rain. She would have been born in November and ironically on the day my grandmother passed away. Anyway, even with Ali...I still think of Rain. I have forgiven myself for not taking good care of myself (I blamed myself for losing the baby) but I will always love the child I never got to know. Anyway, I am so sorry for you!!!! I personally feel like even knowing you are pregnant for a very short time (planned or unplanned pregnancy), losing the baby is hard. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and if you need anything I am here.
oh, gosh, sorry Amy. That's a tough thing to go through.I am so sorry you have to go through this. I am sending some love and
support your way.((( Hugs))). I am so sorry for your loss.
Mega mega mega hugs
WHat an AWFUL time - so sorry you are going through this
Thanks to all of you for your support. My husband is sad as well but he did make me feel better by telling me that we can always try again. I told him maybe it is for the best. We really were not prepared to be parents again but we also were not prepared for Josh or Jenna and Terry and I believe that our children are gifts and I am so happy to have them in my life. I should be happy to even be able to be a mom again in the future because I see the pain in ny best friends face as I keep having children but she can not concieve.I know it is so hard to watch me with my kids and the one thing she has always wanted to be a mommy she will never get to be. She thought about adopting but did not get approved beacause of her financial situation. Thanks to all of you for your support and friendship alot of time I get really down because my family and friends do not understand how diffucult but on the other hand how joyful and rewarding it is to raise a child with Autism. Alot of times they only see Josh as Autistic and not the sweet little happy boy I see. For all of his disabilities he also has strenghts like his compassion and his pure sweetness. Most of my friends focus on the negative and say things like I am so sorry for you. I think if they would just get past it and treat him like a normal little boy, I would feel much better about things. I have noticed since we got the offical diagonsis that I have been withdrawing from the very people I used to love being around, I know I should not do this but I do it to protect myself from whatever they are going to say or do next to offend me and I am really afraid of just losing it and saying something I know will cause a big rift in the family. But I do know the reason I do this is to protect myself as well as my son. I have already seen how they treat my aunt who is mentally retarded. She is pretty much no longer invited to family functions because of the way she acts and I am terrified that they will do the same to Joshua. If I am not his advocate who will be? If anyone has any advice on this subject I would appreciate it. Sorry for such along post. Thanks again Amy Mom to Joshua almost 4 PDD - Nos and Jenna 2 and ahalfSorry for your loss.Oh I just seen this...I'm so sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself now.
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I am so sorry! I have been through this myself, last year. It is so hard. I pray that you can have another one. :hugs: Amy, I am sending you makjor hugs.. God will only give you so much.. things will get better.. Just take it easy..I am so, so sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage before my ds (at 13 weeks of pregnancy - right after we told everyone) and then I had a stillbirth at 28 weeks between ds and dd. I am telling you this in case you want to pm me to chat. It is not easy to go through and it is hard for others to understand unless they have been through it. But even people who have gone through it have different experiences and may react differently.
Please take care of yourself and allow yourself some time to grieve. It is hard when you have other children to take care of - but maybe after you put them to bed or they are at school - take some time to yourself and let it out when you are ready.
Again, I am so sorry for your loss. I will send good thoughts and prayers your way that you will have strength to get through this difficult time.
Hugs and prayers for you and your little angel.When I read your subject line of "having a bad week" ....I was prepared to hear about meltdowns, battles, and frustration ( the bad weeks we all have and understand so well)......That would have been a breeze compared to what your week really was.
My thoughts are with you in your very sad time. It is a real loss and you should give yourself the time you need to grieve it.
I'm so sorry to hear it.
Oh Amy I am sending an arm load of hugs to you and your family. I will keep you all in my prayers.
I lost a baby in between my daughter and son. I was devastated as anyone can imagine.
When I got pregnant with my son were were elated. A week before Xmas the dr called and asked us to come to the office as he had the results from the AlphFeta Protein Test. He sat us down and told us that our son was probably going to have downsyndrome and it was still early enough for us to have an aboration. You can not imagine how
I changed drs immediately and never went back to see that Whack of a Dr.
I love my son and daughter more than I could ever imagine and I am glad I made the choice to have the both of them but more so that we didn't let the dr sway us into having an abortion.
friscomom - I don't want to get into a religious or moral debate on the topic, but a lot of parents would feel that they weren't capable of bringing a child with a disability into this world. I honestly don't know how I would have felt initially when presented with that information. Would I have had an abortion? Almost definitely not, but most doctors feel that they need to tell their patients all of their options. If they didn't, they wouldn't be fulfilling their duties. I would guess the doctor didn't know your personal feelings on the subject - but wanted you to know what was available.
It sounds like the doctor wasn't particularly sensitive in how s/he presented the information though. But a lot of people would feel differently from you and I am not saying whether anyone is right or wrong - that is up to the individual. But, I'm just trying to give what may have been the doctor's perspective. I used to work in adoption, FYI, and when I was counseling pregnant moms I was required to present all of the options to them, even though abortion is against my personal religious beliefs. But, they were MY beliefs and as a professional I was obligated to not impose my beliefs on someone else. Again, I'm not saying you are wrong to feel the way you do AT ALL - just giving another perspective on why the doctor acted the way s/he did. I wasn't there - so I don't know for sure!
Amy,
Again - I am so sorry for your loss. Please pm me if you want to chat. I have been there and having a loss like this can be isolating if you don't have people around you who support you (I really hope you do!). We are all here for you and I hope that you are given the strength to get through this awful time.
Amy, I am so sorry for your loss. There are no real words to describe the pain and loss that you feel. I suffered the same fate twice before I got pregnant with my oldest child Zoe (I had endometriosis) and was told that I would NEVER be able to have children. My last miscarriage, I was 8 weeks into the pregnancy, and I was absolutely devastated. I went to the OBGYN to have the DNC and went back a week or so later for my check up and he told me to wait about 3 months (to let my hormones level back out and my body to heal) and to try again. 3 months to the day later I found out I was with child again, 5 weeks in they said that I was having another miscarriage and was taken to the hospital for my doc to do yet another DNC, well a doctor named Michael (don't know his last name) came in and told my doctor that he was not going to do the proceedure until Michael was allowed to check me out again. He picked me up from the bed, put me in a wheelchair and took me off to have a second ultrasound, and after just a couple of minutes he told me, your baby is going to be fine. In my honest opinion this doctor named Michael(that I remind you, came from out of nowhere) was my daughters guardian angel and he saved her little life.In other words, I know its hard honey, but like you said, If God intends for you to be a mother again, he will make it happen when the time is right. Hang in there and PLEASE don't give up hope. I beat the odds, 7 doctors telling me that I would NEVER have children and I have given birth to two beautiful kids. You are in my prayers, and I truly feel that those prayers will be answered. I don't know when or how, but I have a lot of faith. Bless you and take care of yourself.
Wow, what an awesome story - what ia miracle!
I hope Amy that you are sent the strength to deal with this and know that we are all here supporting you!
Thank everyone so much for your words of encouragment and support.I am also sending hugs to all of you who are or were going through the same thing. I have put my faith in God. I am already blessed to have 2 darling little angels and I am so happy to have them in my life. I am just going to leave it to fate and not even worry about trying. The truth is all of my pregnacies have happened when I was not trying. If it happens I will be happy. If not well I still have Josh and Jenna and believe me when I say They are what makes me happy. If God wants me to add to our family I will gladly accept another, If not I already have a loving family and I will be happy with that. I have still been really emotional but I am getting better, Thanks again Amy Mom to Joshua almost 4 in a week PDD- Nos and Jenna 2 and ahalfCopyright Autism-PDD.net