Thanks for the great advice Norway Mom. I'll have to try social stories with ds. He is overwhelmed after a long day at camp and then therapy soon after he gets home--unfortunately there's not a lot of time for down time but he clearly needs it. This is the last week of camp so things will mellow before school starts.I take your point about just wanting to be left alone. I think that's true and he tries to get that point across but it comes across as being rude. i just don't want him to hurt someone's feelings.
Rude behavior and disrespectful talk is unacceptable, but he might not know or have the energy to come up with a polite way of asking for what he needs. I usually say "try again" and if necessary model conveying his message politely. Luckily my child doesn't mind repeating after me or trying again, but some kids do.
A social story would also help. Here's one with pictures that could be adapted for home use. (Otherwise, there are probably other possibilities under the topic "Sample Social Stories" here on our forum):
As far as chores go, we struggled quite awhile with that ourselves at age 6. I think the task often felt overwhelming, and our son also resented us standing over him while he worked. Well, it occurred to me that nobody likes to work while someone else just watches! So we made everything into teamwork at first. "I'll pick up the Duplos, while you pick up the train tracks." Gave him lots of praise. Now, at just-turned 9, my son will often take initiative to help and can work more independently.
Camp is a new environment and it sounds like it's stressful for your son. After he gets the alone-time and/or sensory stimulation he needs after camp, you could try getting him to talk about his day using a worksheet like this one, where he points to or circles activities they did and points to or circles the facial expression that describes his feelings about them. He might find it easier to talk with this kind of visual cue.
Good luck with everything.
I would highly recommend social stories and not accepting the behavior. I have always had the mantra as parent and teacher that "You may be in special ed....but you are not that special".....by that I mean even though our kiddos have autism they still need to learn socially acceptable behavior. By teaching them that behavior is not appropriate we are doing them a huge service....giving them the skill to be more successful as they grow. Where is the best place on the web, bookstore, library or wherever to get social stories? I hope this can help my ds become more socially aware and approriate. Right now he 6 going on 3 behavior-wise :(
Moreisee1 --
Books by Carol Gray, the "inventor" of social stories, are available for purchase and might also be at your library. Some of them have illustrations, but not as many as I would like.
This forum is probably the best source of free social stories on the internet. There is a topic devoted to it, with hundreds of links. It's a little disorganized, but you can use your web browser to search for a keyword you're interested in (for example, "bus"). Just go here:
http://www.autism-pdd.net/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=14154&am p;KW=sample+social+stories
His behavior is rude and embarrasing. Oh, and sometimes he will push people which is totally unacceptable. I immediately put him in time out but eventually he does it again. I'm not sure if his behavior is getting worse b/c he is out of school and in a camp that is special needs but I'm sure not as strict or structured. I'm at my wits end regarding his behavior
I FIND MY KIDS NEED TO BE RUDE IN ORDER TO BE LEFT ALONE OUR AUTIE CHILDREN NEED SPACE ROOM TO BREATH.CHORES DONT MEAN ANYTHING TO HIM HE GAINS NOTHING PLEASYRABLE FOR DOING THEM LOL
MAKE SOME SOCIAL STORIES AND LEAVE THEM WITH HIM DONT FORCE HIM TO READ THEM HE WILL DO IT LOL
HE KNOWS THAT PEOPLE WILL GO AWAY IF HE IS "RUDE"
BUT YOU HAVE TO UNDERSTAND WHAT RUDE IS FOR IT TO BE A PROBLEM
HE MAY NO THE WORD BUT THE MEANING WILL BE A HARD CONCEPT FOR HIM
LOVE SHELL