my dad kind of seemed to ignore it at first, like he was just hoping they were wrong. but he's come around. dad's a physicist, and he loves the fact that my son acts like a little scientist! he's learned to see the positives of it, one of which is that he's a really bright, curious kid.
and then there was my ex's grandma, who suggested we get aidan
EXORCISED. to release the demon's from his poor little brain.
right. okey dokey.
anyways, mostly family has been really good about it!
becky
our family wants nothing to do with us or our 'abnormal' son!
Don't fell bad I have in-laws that are the same way. My fil always asks when my son will be normal. They only come to visit once a year and even that sometimes is to much. They don't understand why we have a routine and why if we go anywhere we have to be as prepared as we are. I just have resigned myself to being on the defensive and never talking to them unless I have to. I don't really care about them and don't really treat them as anything more than my husbands parents. I swear everytime they come I am going to take up drinking. I think they got the clue this year that I don't like them when I told them I wouldn't be coming to visit them.
How funny my husbands parents just left..and his father is very laid back...he didn't realize what we were going through. We made them watch the Opera special and he never made a neg comment which i was thankful for. However, all good comes with bad...his step mother on the other hand made no effort to get close to him instead her theory was don't upset him and I don't want to see him start bawling. They do not live in town and it was stressful for my son so things were of beat. His father though made huge efforts and Carter finally warmed up to him.
Sorry things did nt work out for you as well.
Well I guess there are a lot worse in laws than mine out there.. Im sorry for what you all have to deal with :(
My hubby's family like to take the stance like this..."OH...he's gonna be just fine" And here I am trying to convince them that he may end up living at home forever..LOL So what you are saying makes me think that regardless of what our inlaws say that maybe it's never the right thing to say. Or maybe it just depends on each individual family etc.
I just have a question here...WHy is it not ok for them to worry just like us parents do? I'm not trying to take away from your vent...I am really just curious to how you answer this one.
Sorry that you didn't hear what you wanted to regardless though.
Karrie
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and then there was my ex's grandma, who suggested we get aidan
EXORCISED. to release the demon's from his poor little brain.
right. okey dokey.
anyways, mostly family has been really good about it!
becky
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OMG!!! I'm sorry...but LMAO
Karrie
My family also tells me "he's going to be fine." I'm the one handling things with school and his therapies, so I suppose I tend to talk about the areas in which my son is lagging behind. I think my family just sometimes tries to counter balance me. Maybe if I was super upbeat about him, they would bring up the negatives just to keep everything in perspective.
I can understand how your FIL's comment rubbed you the wrong way. However, it is nice that he cares.
Karrie, its fine that they worry.. Of course. They wouldnt worry at all if they didnt care about him, and I know they do.. I guess I just dont like my FIL to be so negative, and I just dont agree with what he is saying... but everyone is entitled to their own opinion....
Thanks for the interesting points of view! :)Hi everyone. Well, I just had a visit with the in laws this past weekend. It was ok. They were nice enough I guess, but I really dont appreciate their attitude towards my son's autism, especially my father in law. We were talking about my son and my FIL says well I just worry that he will always have to be with yall, meaning that he will never have a life of his own or be succesful. I just responded to him that with all the reasearch, treatments and therapies there are for autism now that I think he will be just fine. I told him I have to stay positive about it. I dont know why he cant. I guess this is just the old fashioned way of thinking about autism. I just know that my son is smart and I do think that he will be able to have his own life and be happy.. Anyway, just wanted to vent a little, and Id like to hear others experiences.. I know I am probably not the only one who gets opinions like this! Thanks for listening!
Jen