struggling with 2 boys autism and add | Autism PDD

wow! I know myself I was a handful for my parents, my younger sis is NT, but 2!!

Now days, their are services avalible, stuff my parents and I never got to have, the sooner ya start, the better you are. I know nothing about the theripies avalible these days, and often wonder how different my life would be, or at least growing up, had I had them, tho I feel, dispite, I did fairly well for myself, and my parents are proud (tho i never finished collage )

Start making calls, or ask someone on here, (most are parents, so they know the drill) what their advice is. Start making calls to get the services you need. Check with your inshurance company, unfortunatly most inshurance companys are insanly evil and dont wanna help ya if they are asked to (its why I have 0 inshurance, i try and take care of everything myself cause i cant trust them) but once you have a family it becomes to much of a gamble.

Gather information, and make your choice, u may even have to pay outa pocket, and these services are very expeincive. I feel sometimes they are nessissary, sometimes they are not, i dont know your kids, but the less functioning they are the more services required im assuming.

Good luck, and definatly do your homework, look at your situation and make plans for the present and future.

Hi everyone, i'm looking for advice and resources to help me with my 2 boys. they are 3 and 4. major behavior problems. lack of understanding of language is a huge problem. my 4 year old is in a program but i am still pretty much left on my own to figure ways to help him and our situation here........any help would be greatly appreciated!!!!!

This is exactly the kind of information i need, I'm so glad i found this message board.

Thanks again everyone!

When my son was first diagnosed at age 7, getting a good meltdown strategy and getting a handle on his sensory issues were the two things that gave us a better quality of life. To bring you quickly up to speed on these things, here are a few articles:

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv -ppiep&msg=2462.1& an article called "Thoughtful Response to Agitation, Escalation and Meltdowns in Children with Autism Spectrum Disorders." I am copying this article to a separate post below.

http://www.isec2005.org.uk/isec/abstracts/papers_m/myles_b.s html - "The Cycle of Tantrums, Rage, and Meltdowns in Children and Youth with Asperger Syndrome, High-Functioning Autism, and Related Disabilities" which is an article by Professor Brenda Smith Myles, with a list of 7 strategies you can use in the rumbling stage (ie agitation and escalation towards a meltdown/rage).

http://www.autism-pdd.net/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=16187&am p;am p;KW=inside+scoop - " 'Meltdowns': The inside scoop (or rant)" which is a popular topic on our forum started by Stickboy26.

http://www.sensory-processing-disorder.com/sensory-processin g-disorder-checklist.html - for identifying sensory symptoms

http://www.tsbvi.edu/Outreach/seehear/archive/mannerism.html #Chart - for identifying self-stimulating behaviors ("stims") under various sensory categories

Understanding language was your biggest concern, so here are a few basics (just in case you haven't heard them before). 1) get their attention first by repeating their names, before you tell them what you need to say 2) use simple language, and 3) use visuals wherever you can. There are a lot of free visuals available on the internet, for example by googling or on http://www.setbc.org/setbc/communication/frame_pictureset.ht ml.

Are your kids diagnosed?

Are you interested in arranging respite care?

Any other specific problems we can help you with?

Good luck with everything, and welcome to the forum.

I know what its like to need help and not really get what you need. I know what it is like to have your child perceived one way at school and have a totally different set of dynamics at home. It really stinks.

The earlier you can tackle behavior problems the better, I was left to handle these issues on my own. Its been very hard. Tzoya posted a site recently that has lots of very helpful information, and it is presented in such a way that you, as a parent, can actually apply it to your home life.

http://cecp.air.org/familybriefs/

Print the material and take some time to read the essay's before trying to tackle them.

Best Wishes

Norwaymom

Thanks for the links.. they also are very helpful. Especiallly the one on The cycle of tantrums.

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Carol,
Maybe you could consult with a BCBA (board certified behavior analyst)? Yes, they are expensive, but they can teach you techniques and plan interventions for your children.
At least, that's what I hear! I've been discussing the possibility of consulting with one. We've talked by email and it seems like she'll be able to offer me a lot of guidance for my son. I'm excited, because I have no one to tell me what to do and I'm tired of it! This one will work with me by the hour.