Keep doing what your are doing with her...never give attention to the inappropriate behaviors except to warn her of the consequence and reminding her of the rules:) Give praise when she is doing good and any attempt of her trying to be good:)
I would find a consequence that she hates~Sarah cant stand to be in her room alone so guess where she has to go when she is naughty?
I do feel over time if you and everyone that is around her is consistent with this method that it will surely go away over time:)
Please consider diet change.
And keep up with training. Making her pick up what she throws is good. I have had to put my hands on top of hers, and bend us both over, to 'make' her retrieve thrown objects and then put them back where they belong. If you are consistent, she will begin to pick up the items when you tell her to.
*eta You have to keep her away from the baby.
Marrissa is Lapsing into Really agressive destructive and aggressive Behavior again. Im not sure how to handle it. If she doesnt get her way she will pick up stuff off the table, counter or where ever and throw it. Yesterday she picked up our little mini travel cooler that had Ice in it and threw it down the stairs
Of course She is usually asked to pick whatever shes throwing up and put it back and of course she doesnt so I have to follow her and direct her to do so. Short of that and time out I dont know what else to do. She's also been walking up to her little sister and smacking her across the face or pushing her down for no reason. Im really growing concerned about this...add her sleeping issues and Im a very stressed out overwelmed momma right now.
She has an Appt for her Well baby on the 7th and a Nureology appt on the 8th so of course i will bring this up but I want to know what other parents have done....
Is she in a therapeutic preschool with an IEP? Schooling can work wonders. It can also keep her away from the baby for HOURS. In the meantime, do what you HAVE to do to never leave them alone together for a second. That means not doing a thing during the day if necessary. Autistic kids have been know to severely harm siblings at this age. Tho it is rare, it is certainly possible. This is serious. She threw the ice chestdown the stairs. Imagine if that ice chest had been your 16 month old! Don't allow either of them access to the stairs -- ever. Babyproof the whole house with Marissa and her behaviors in mind. You are not a bad mom, she is not a bad child, but these are EXTREMELY dangerous behaviors given your children's ages. A physician is not the best resource for this. A BCBA is.I will DEFFFFINATLY bring that up at her Nuerology Appt... ThankyouI started him on Melatonin a few months ago and he is a changed child. He takes 1 mg at 8, is asleep by 8:30 and wakes 11 or so hours later - happy and calm.
Just my $.02, because it's always good to look at everything - diet, discipline, sleep, allergies.... you know what I mean.
Good luck!!
My 10 yr old has very aggressive issues...now we are discovering that his liver is very toxic...when I look at the past, he did this very same thing...he used to through things at the walls and kick the cabinets/furniture...no one knew what was wrong until now...this liver issue can cause severe aggression, they can't control it...they just don't feel good!!! My 10 yr old came to me and said "Mom, why do I hit, I don't want to hit, how can I stop"....well, we are using a variety of liver detoxifiers to cleanse the liver!!!I agree with Tzoya get a BCBA if you can. With ASD it's a different ballgame. Our daughter goes to mainstream daycare and the staff were like "wow! we didn't know to do that" and even at times inadvertently, we were prompting bad behaviour
The earlier bad behaviour gets addressed the more good behaviour is ingrained. GL! Board Certified Behavior Analyst. This is an expert in behavior management techniques. In a child so young, behavior can often be managed without medication. There are plenty of meds that are effective with behavioral issues, but there are always side-effects and most behaviors are within the child's control once a better behavior is learned through a positive behavior intervention plan. Medical science is very limited in what can be done to help our kids. It's those with educational expertise who have the best recommendations. Your daughter is old enough to be getting interventions in a special education preschool. You did not post if she has been evaluated for services under IDEA. If you have any questions about any of the terms in this post, you can get quick answers by searching the term using the search button at the top of the board. BTW, ABA services can work wonders with children like your daughter. The school should be providing that sort of intervention already.I DO NOT want to medicate her.. I think shes way to young to even consider that. She has been evaluated by the school and such and will be starting pre-school this fall. Ive asked her OT about getting a Social worker involved to teach me so behavioral management...I feel Im doing what I should and doing a good job but you always wonder if you could be doing more. When I see her lashing out or starting to at her sister I imediatly intervene so no one gets hurt. When she abuses her sister she gets a Time out alone in her room for 3 minutes or untill shes done screaming and throwing things...Then I calmly go in and talk to her and explain why shes in there... she comes out very calm. then we go to sissy and I have her give her sissy a hug as she cant speak to say sorry yet. You should definitely bring this at-home behavior up at the preschool and ask for parent training and behavioral advice. This has nothing to do with being a bad parent and need help. It's because developmental issues in kids like ours are different than typical development and none of us was raised to automatically know how to handle these issues. I've gotten tons of parent training over the years and still ask for it from time to time, eventhough my son is 16 and I have an extensive background in autism spectrum disorders at this point in time. Good luck.
I hope, Joyce, your experience with Marissa is akin to mine, this week (see my other thread). Maybe she too is undergoing a developemental burst?
Throwing things probably means communication frustration ... hope she moves on from it soon.